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thinking of you Bonnets
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So sorry Bonnets. Sending positive thoughts your way as you wait.
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Jean- so sorry to hear your news. That is one of the things I hate most about follow-up after treatment. I had my yearly physical the other day and said to the PA "I feel fine now, but sure wish I could get a CT Scan or Petscan to verify that. Praying for good news and quick and complete healing. I think we all feel our stomachs fall to the floor, upset for you of course, but also "Will I be next?"
Wish I was closer so I could keep you company while you wait. Keeping good thoughts and sending hugs
Anne
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Bonnets, the cyst could be benign and we're all rooting for that diagnosis. It's completely baffling that you weren't told when the cyst was first detected.
I was tired this morning after spending a very long day at the hospital yesterday. I think I mentioned that my mother was having a procedure to crush a very large kidney stone. Actual time in the or wasn't that long but I arrived at 7 am and didn't get home until about 4:30.
Today I did a little shopping including a stop at the supermarket. I found some brown Clark shoes at Shoe Carnival. That's one of the brands I can wear.
It's a beautiful day but supposed to warm up to 80 degrees this afternoon.
Happy Wednesday
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Jean, sending positive healing thoughts your way, that it turns out to be nothing.
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Character is higher than intellect... A great soul will be strong to live, as well as to think.
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Grateful for a beauty of a day. Full Fall here, and while I hate that the furnace man couldn't come yesterday and get started --- it is a trifle and I know it. We are going to have a couple of seriously cold days, but then will re-warm and hopefully in that time period we will get our new furnace. Life works out even when it is on a level that we sometimes 'resist' a bit. So --- I'm not going to resist this beautiful day and hope and pray today is good for everyone.
Jackie
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Bonnets, Thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and prayers your way!:)
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The moment you become miserly you are closed
to the basic phenomenon of life: expansion, sharing.
The moment you start clinging to things,
you have missed the target.
Because things are not the target,
you, your innermost being, is the target -
not a beautiful house, but a beautiful you;
not much money, but a rich you;
not many things, but an open being,
available to millions of things.
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Good morning,
It looks nice outside for the moment, and it is even a good temp, but weather report said 60% chance of rain -- sounded like we could get a 'real' storm out of it all. We will see how it goes.
Lost one lens out of my glasses yesterday at work. This is the third time --- I guess it is telling me these glasses are getting too old. So, today I will go to Walmart and get an eye exam ( which I don't probably need ) which Walmart insists on --- and then new glasses. Hopefully this will stop the falling apart of the glasses I have. I liked them so much too. In fact, last eye exam at the V.A. I paid a bit to have their people make a template to cut to size the lens I needed. I had another pr. of glasses to use while this took place.
Anyway the old ones are a red color --- tried on dozens yesterday. Turns out another red pair turned up to the be winner. Unbeknownst to me apparently everyone the last two places I've "chosen" glasses seem to feel red is my color. Maybe it is my green eyes or.....who knows. So, I will end up with another pr. of red glasses.
Furnace man will likely make it ( we hope ) on Monday. His last job ( where he remains still ) had issues turn up. Mold behind their old furnace and it was found to extend through the floor and so has turned into a sort of massive undertaking. Cold weather is coming which is never wracking for us, but it shouldn't be too bad --- just mild discomfort. Dh finds it harder than I do as he is much cooler than I am. That's okay actually as it gives me a bit more time to sort some things --- and make more in-roads into getting some organization. Things do have a way of working out --- even if it sometimes strains the patience a bit.
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New glasses are always fun, Jackie. I intend to put my new Rx into my existing sunglass frames, and Transitions into my dark tortoiseshell frames, which are only a few months old, and look for something fun or dressier in untinted anti-reflective. Gonna leave my Wayfarers "as is" (gradient, non-Rx). I have dark hazel eyes (olive green with amber “starburst”) which work with just about any color frames—though with my pale skin & blonde hair light tortoise or honey works best. I used to prefer rimless back when smaller lenses were in vogue, especially for performance—but frames actually hide my undereye bags. (Onstage, I don’t even need glasses any more). The chief reasons for lenses falling out, acc. to the optician at my local LensCrafters, is the plastic in the frames aging & losing its rigidity, or metal fatigue in metal frames.
Our storm came through in late morning—my sinuses and R arm told me even before the first thunderclap. Another one coming about 5:30 pm, and then the bottom falls out. Flurries in the a.m. and probably won’t get out of the 30s all weekend (windy, too). Not to mention having to wrestle a small suitcase on & off the L train tom’w and Sun. (Not gonna park—$35+, and parade/festival traffic tom’w). Rescued my remaining tomatoes from the vines before the storm hit. Will have enough on the sill to get us till Dec.
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I was able to change my utra-sound appointment to this morning. Don't know when I will get the results. Not a fun procedure, as I had both types ! Thanks for the prayers and good wishes, still worried of course and not happy that no one picked up on this sooner. Am getting copies of the ct and sono reports, that saw the cyst last year and this summer.
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Hi all,
With all that is going on, I was surprised to see I only missed 4 pages since the first week of Nov.
Jean, I am praying for benign results. Waiting is hard. And usually no news comes over the week end. I will be checking in to see how you are.
Hang in there...we are in your pocket.
Seedsally, it sounds like your reconstruction is going smoothly. I cannot imagine going "back for more" after healing from surgery. But you will be happy with the results, I believe. Wishing you well.
Sandra, sorry to hear the hospital experience has not been as it should be. You and Mike have been through so much and really deserve a peaceful supportive environment. Sending prayers your way.I was happy to see more talk about the Cubs than politics. That is how it should be here...I trust that there will be some people in high places with sound minds and experience and common sense. I truly believe that my day to day life will not change much if at all. But for many who use government programs or who have overstayed their Visas, it is quite stressful. I hope I can find a way to help those in need.
Now, those Cubs had me on the edge of my seat. My son went to Wrigleyville for Game 7 and was caught up in the celebration. He did go to the parade for awhile. He told me he is seeing the girlfriend who broke his heart a few months ago. He is cautious and I hope they can figure it out. He does not have a full time job right now but is working for his former employer helping to close out some business. He is coming home on Tuesday. I can't wait to see him.
Carole, I hope your mother is doing OK after the kidney stone procedure. Sometimes there is a lot of pain with stone and procedure; for others, little pain. I have a friend who is going through it now and it has been a very long time since she had her first scan. One large stone left.
You have been so attentive of your mother's needs. How nice it is that she got to visit at her home and see the grandkids.Anne, I think if/when I retire, I will be traveling as you do to see my kids and grandkids who live so far. You really put on the miles. I hope your sister is doing OK. You are the binding force and a blessing to your family.
Jackie, enjoy those new red glasses. I love getting new lenses and having crystal clear vision. My eyes still are changing so I notice!
We are about to get that damp wet weather and possibly a snow shower this week end. We will put away the loose things in the yard that we have been enjoying...cushions, solar lights, torches, and hanging plants. I am one of the few who like the changing weather. I do not like the early darkness or the loss of leaves; but winter has its own beauty and brings the best stargazing opportunities.
Hugs all around,Joan
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Jackie, the red glasses frames sound "snazzy"! What fun to have colored frames.
Joan, I like your attitude about the seasons. We enjoy lighting our fireplace in cold gloomy weather.
Off to the gym and then to the nursing home. I promised to deliver some seafood gumbo for my mother's lunch. I'll pick it up on the way.
It's windy today and will be cooling off as a front comes through.
Happy Saturday
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All my experience of the world teaches me that in ninety-nine cases out of a hundred the safe side and the just side of a question is the generous side and the merciful side. -Anna Brownell Jameson
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What fun to come and find an entry from you Joan. You always are not only quite thoughtful, but cheerful too. So many here are. As for me ( not that I haven't adjusted ) I can barely keep in mind the post I just read let alone two or three pages of them. But that makes us all WHO we are --- and we all get to know, love and care about each other just the way we are.
It is a little brisk this a.m. I am going to truly appreciate that new furnace. Hope the guy can make it here on Monday. I think it will warm slightly --- though it is time for the mornings to be chilly --- maybe even a bit of frost, we will see.
Starting December I will only be working four days a week. My patient will go on Medicaid ( tragic in a way that you must use up your entire savings to stay in a nursing home these days ) so some cost cutting measures are needed. It will end up being good for me. I have struggled to keep up with a lot here at home --- and having some interrupted time to be productive will help a lot. So -- a bright spot for all.
Hopefully Dh will find some time ( this is a busy time of yr. pretty much ) to take care of our yard full of leaves. He may have to teach me how to use that new gizmo he has -- but I'm not anxious to learn. I really feel like I have enough to do as it is, but I do understand that if you only have one day off --- it is hard to use it on hard/tedious work at home. We will see.
The sun it out so it is going to be a good day even if a bit cooler than I prefer. Hope you are all going to have a delightful day.
Jackie
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Hi Ladies
Welcome to all the new members. Sorry for the reason you are joining us here. This is a great group of ladies to get to know and to chat with. There is always someone here that can answer the questions we ask. It is also a great place to vent with the things that most people can not understand how we feel unless they have gone through this themselves
Carole, I hope your mother is doing OK after the kidney stone procedure.
Jackie, your red glasses sound pretty
Jean, sending good thoughts and prayers
Sandra, sending prayers that everything starts to look up for you and Mike
I havent been on for awhile. Went back to illinois ot babysit grandkids for a week, then brought to back to vacation in Siesta Keys with us for two weeks and ds and another grandson came the second week. Nice weather and a lot of fun. Still trying to finish putting our house together. Not sure really what I want for end tables and other decor items. Bought a picture for the livingroom, love the picture but not big enough for the area I wanted it for. Now looking for another picture that just pops out to me.Having a mamogram in two weeks. A little nervous about this one since I have been having some soreness in the area that they have been watching in the other breast. Hopefully, just a pulled something or other.
Hope everyone is enjoying this weekend
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Beautiful day here, cool and sunny. My onc called with the sono results, probably a folliculae cyst, which is not usually cancer. Says it is fairly unusual in post menopausal women. Will see my gyn Dec 9 and see what she says. I'd like her to do a CA125. Thanks for everyones prayers and wishes. Am breathing a little easier now.
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Good news, Bonnets!
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sounds good Bonnets Thinking of Changing Oncologists Big decision for me Wanted to know what everyone's oncologist does at their visits Mine takes blood and checks for markers, gives me a breast exam and scripts for meds and scans. I get a mammogram and ultra sound every year and an Mri 6 months from the mammogram and ultrasound. The first two years after diagnosis visits are every three months. Is this what your oncologists do? Thank you for your responses. Nanagir
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Nana, My MO is still seeing me every 6 months. My breast surgeon orders my 3D mammo once/yr and U/S if needed. My BS was seeing me every 6 months for the first two yrs. My MO usually just gives me an exam, asks questions, writes a script for Tam and sends me on my way.
Bonnets, great news!
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Sounds pretty much like Faith, my breast surgeon write script for mammo, sono, see him every 6 months still. MO sees me every 6 months, does about the same as Faith's!
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In the beginning it was 6 months for me, then it went to a yr. and has stayed that way. I saw the PA Oncologist for five yrs. on the once a yr. cycle and now I just see the regular Dr. but she always makes sure to order the mammogram which is digital, and would refer me to the proper people/Dr.'s is I had any suspicions going on. Usually they do a CA-125 within the over-all blood test I have when it is time to see the PA once a yr. so things are kept in line. I quit asking the numbers on everything --- if it were abnormal the Dr. would say.
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My MO sees me every 6 months until March when I'm off Arimidex. Screening mammo every year. After March I'll see my PCP unless some sort of symptom pops up.
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In our rough and rugged individualism, we think of gentleness as weakness, being soft and virtually spineless.Not so!Gentleness includes such enviable qualities as having strength under control, being calm and peaceful when surrounded by a heated atmosphere, emitting a soothing effect on those who may be angry or otherwise beside themselves, and possessing tact and gracious courtesy that causes others to retain their self-esteem and dignity.Instead of losing, the gentle gain.Instead of being ripped off and taken advantage of, they come out ahead! -Charles Swindoll
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Jackie, you always come up with the most meaningful quotes!
We got our first frost last night. Finally turned my heater on for the first time, on Friday.
Stay warm ladies. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
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This life is yours.Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well.Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly.Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature.Take the power to control your own life.No one else can do this for you.Nothing is too good for you—you deserve the best.Take the power to make your life healthy, exciting, and worthwhile.The time is now.Take the power to create a successful, happy life. - Susan Polis Schutz
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Glad you like my quotes. I have a lot of source areas where I get them. My in-box is loaded daily. I started doing this shortly after I joined here in 2007 because it seemed many of the quotes spoke my feelings and concerns better than I could. My original site ( where I still go ) asked me to find a quote every day to inspire and encourage them and so daily quotes came in to being and still going strong. I admit --- the quote I used now gets put on three different sites.
Furnace men are here --- ah, life will start being good again. Quite cool here lately so pretty cold in the house this a.m. Nice that in a few days we should be back in business and warming the whole house instead of just the living room. We have few doors here --- it was an open concept house before its time, but probably why it had such an appeal for me the moment I saw it.
Hope your day is as beautiful with lots of sun and smiles.
Jackie
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When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me.
Erma Bombeck -
What a quote! Love it.
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