Flat Retirement!

Luna52
Luna52 Member Posts: 147
edited November 2016 in Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy

I had a BMX with no reconstruction.. but has been hard getting to "ground zero" which is going flat around people I know via business.

I've been away from my workplace for 3 months.. only working from home..

Colleagues insisted on a retirement party for me.. soo I showed up on Friday. I wore my mastectomy camisole with foobs..what a mistake! It felt like a heating pad on my chest. I started sweating and looked like a soggy rat after one hour. I went with a friend to the bathroom and "toweled off" ..it got better after that

OK so that was embarrassing..

TODAY I went into the office for my final day (a rule in my company, you have to show up).. but damn it .. I went FLAT.. and it felt so much better. AND I didn't sweat..

Luna


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  • kle
    kle Member Posts: 317
    edited November 2016

    You go girl! I'm right there with you, learning to be flat in the real world! We can do it. I know we stress about it more than anyone who see's us...but it is hard.....but I'm going to keep at it with my slightly cameflauged shirts, scarfs, vests and layered shirts. And try to exude confidence, that I may not be feeling. Happy retirement!

    Kle


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  • ravzari
    ravzari Member Posts: 277
    edited November 2016

    It's really funny how people just don't notice.

    It never bothered me, being flat, for various reasons, so I've never used foobs and was just pleased to never have to wear a bra again so it's just been me + whatever shirt I have on.

    A couple people though I'd just lost weight, most people noticed nothing at all until I pointed it out (usually in the context of 'hey you were out for two weeks, mind if I ask why?') and my response was always, "You didn't notice? C'mon, I was out to here before!" complete with a laugh and pulling my t-shirt out to where my DDs had stuck out prior to surgery.

    But--nobody ever noticed; I think our brains just assume "woman = has boobs" so often when it comes to looks as it's pretty socially engrained, that we 'see' them even if they aren't actually there or just assume someone who appears flat just has small breasts.

    If people in my workplace have noticed (and I haven't told them) they've all been polite enough to not say anything.

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