STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER
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Seachain, Come read and join the discussion
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Oh, April, I'm SO sorry for the loss of your dear friend.
I have an "occult" tumor, too. Mammograms aren't worth a CRAP anymore. I got mammos and breast exams regularly, (last year, as a matter of fact), and it was NEVER detected. RO said this has been in my system probably over a year and a half before detection because it takes more than a couple of months for all my mets to show up.
Prayers to you and your friend's family.
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Wicked, your post resonates w/me too. People can come over to your house, bring a meal, and sit w/you for a while, but where's everybody at 3:00 am when you're lying there, writhing in pain or can't sleep because of all the fearful thoughts somersaulting in your head?
You can't take anybody w/you when you die either. It's just you crossing over.
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New to the Anger Room...so glad its here...
At work today i flippin almost thru a gasket...pharmacist i work with is an idiot and i feel like i work in a d:::: nursing home..woman keeps urinating on herself...walks in it for hours and won't call home and get a family member to bring her some change of clothes..(number 1).....i told her she is nasty and need to wear depends..and if i was customer and saw her stank tail ..i wouldn't get my prescriptions here..she asks me dumb questions all day long...example..."where is the flexeril?"..on HER computer in front of HER monitor where she put it(number 2).....10 questions like that all day....she telling ppl they prescription ready when she hadn't even checked it yet(number 3)....asking me what i wan't for lunch 5 times..when the first tiime i answered i said "nothing"...(number 4)....4 ppl came to window wanting to pick they're prescription up..prescription not hanging up in the bin...shows in the computer it was processed..can't find it...so i had to reprint a lable and count them out...come to find out she has put all the labels in the back of pharmacy in a corner covered up with other paper work...(number 5)....I ALMOST SCREAMED!!!!!....She constantly would say i misprocessed a prescription when indeed she was the one that processed it ..so i had to keep saying i didn't process that..(number 6)...i finally said stop accusing me of processing errors when i haven't seen the d::: prescription to begin with.. she kept asking me all day long are you alright....i told her no i am not..you getting on my d::: nerves!!!
She had the nerve!! to ask me ..am i on any antianxiety med...in my head i screamed!!! i told her i have an un open bottle at home on my dresser...she says that i maybe need to start taking my medicine..i told her she needs to come in the WORKPLACE AND DO HER JOB..AND I AM NOT AN EMPLOYEE OF A NURSING HOME...I AM NOT ON A SCAVENGER HUNT...I AM NOT HARD OF HEARING..AND I AM MOST DEFINITELY NOT IN THE MOOD FOR HER BS.
she said OMG...well I am soooo sorry...i said you sure are....i don't know how i dealt with her annoying A::: before i was diagnosed with the big BC...OMG....I know i have a shorter Fuse now...But
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Nay, something serious going on. I know your first thought is "No shit Sherlock" . What your describing to me is someone that has a drug problem. Several thoughts 1. you need to protect yourself from any implication of wrongdoing on your part regarding the prescription filling.. 2, document everything. 3.report your concerns to the supervisor ASAP.
I am going to ask another member to come here and comment. I can't guarantee she will. It may be b/c of reticence to be involved or simply out of lack of her not being here. I know it is her day to work. But I will try.
BUT can't stress enough that this employee is a risk to you and all pharmacy clients. You need to protect you own self from the cloud of her wrong doing, and protect the pharmacy clients.
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you are soooo right.....i have spoken with the manager in the past about everything she doing and does...he says he thinks its just old age..she is in her early 60's...but i don't think its her age...my mom is in her early sixties and she acts nothing like this lady...matter of fact i have never met anybody in my life that acts like this lady....I do document everything..that is a must..because i will not be reprimanded for nothing i haven't done...i always CYA...lol......the manager says a good many of the customers love her..(but they have no idea what goes on behind doors)....the manager says he is trying to wait til she retires in sept of 2017 before he calls the district manager on her...me personally i am going to talk to him monday and ask him not to schedule me with her...i got this cancer stuff going on...i cannot deal with her and her bs too.
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wait. I am confused. Nay, it seems you work in a pharmacy as a tech? Was the pharmacist urinating on herself? you do know you can call the pharmacy board? It sounds like she has a medical problem and needs help.
Lita-I had one of those dreams a few months ago. I think it was heaven or something. It wasn't scarey. Then I have heard there are angels, and all those people you loved. A friend told me she sensed a older woman with me-my grandmother. she watches out for me. told my mom this. and she admitted dad is still with her. He has been dead a long time. He tucked her in bed pulled the covers over her. That totally sucks leaving your job. or was that someone else?
But I don't know what to do with my husband. Our circle is small. I am doing fairly well. I mean I do have stage 4, NED 2 yrs. but I still have crappy days. had 2 root canals monday. which lead to jaw pain, couldnt eat, Weak. tired
I called my husband. he lives in different state for 4 more months. He will be here tomorrow night. me and my sister are estranged. I just couldnt take the pain she put on me. We have spoken a little bit. I didn't lash out at her.
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Yeah, Fred tan, I had to quit my job because of cancer.
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Nay, oh my dear! I'm so sorry you have to work in such stressful environment while undergoing chemotherapy. How long have you worked with this pharmacist? It sounds like the pharmacist might have something going on with her brain-possibly mini strokes or Alzheimer? So sad to read your descriptions of her behaviors/actions. For many patients to love her she must have been good at one time. Have you talked to her family? I'm surprised that the manager is not concerned about the patients' safety. He has a moral obligation to care and protect the patients as he is a pharmacist himself. I hate to say this, but you need to contact State Board of Pharmacy for the patients' sake . You need to protect yourself also as there might be repercussion. Best wishes.
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Nayda, please call the Pharmacy board on this woman and report her strange behavior. She could seriously hurt or kill someone if she mixes up meds or fills the wrong med in a bottle labeled with something else. Can you imagine if she is mixing a cough syrup or doing a compound and she screws up? .05 and .50 are two very different amounts in measurement for drugs. I am concerned about the customers more than I am about her well-being at this point (and plus she will likely not be working if found to be incompetent which in turn helps you with your plight) because of the serious nature of what she does.
The fact that she did not know where labels or flexeril were is a sign that she is not all there right now for whatever reason. I cannot imagine this type of sloppy behavior is going to be ok in that environment and if her manager lets it go, he is liable and culpable too if your pharmacy is sued. I would remind him of that if you have to. Or, just go above his head and then your conscience will be clear. Hugs for dealing with her while going through cancer. My heart goes out to you AND the seriously problematic Pharmacist. She needs help like yesterday! Make sure she gets it so that no one is hurt!
Off soap box.
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Tos - Arigato for the best Haiku ever! Rising above the meter length comments - the composure was mesmerizing. And importantly the cutting word kireji, is cancer! You had me at @&#. Nay - report that crazy, she sounds like a zombie in a pharmacy - not getting my refills there ever. Meow - you rock. I just found this thread. Thank you all. Very upset that my August PET after 9 months on balding, fatigue inducing ibrance showed nodule in my good lung. grrrr The jello-like substances that call themselves workers in my recently merged company are having the effect of slowing the rest of us down, not speeding jellos up. Go figure tech takeover.
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Even the Master himself, Basho, did not always stick to the 5-7-5 pattern for haiku. Lalalady, fascinating to read about kireji.
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Okay someone please explain Haiku in lay language
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haiku is a form of poetry in which there are 3 lines only. The first line has 5 syllables. The second 7 syllables and last is 5 syllables.
An example:
Steam room for anger
Venting, sharing and caring
Cursing optional
Or:
Been there and done that
Too much pinkness coming soon
Awareness my a$$...
Someone had previously posted a poem that was compared to haiku. It was brilliant and eloquent and stated clearly what we have all felt at sometime or other. This forum continues to give me the feeling that my fears, frustrations and downright anger at times are not uncommon. Thanks to all of you.
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mebmarj - beautiful explanation!
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Great haiku!
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WTF is wrong with people these days????? My PCP who has been my doctor for 12 years left her practice and moved to another state at the end of June. I did not receive a card or anything whatsoever. As a matter of fact, I called in my prescription to her office on Aug 1st for one of my meds and it was filled...nothing was said and I did not check the bottle to see what doctor's name was on it but even if it was one of the other docs, I would have thought she was on vacation or something.
Now the girl at the desk answering the phone is saying in order to fill my prescriptions for meds that I have had for YEARS, I have to come in! I just had a full physical in April mind you. I live an hour away (she is near where I lived when I started seeing her so I saw no reason to change her when I moved)
I am so pissed! Don't they owe me the decency of a call or a card saying she was leaving? Or they could have told me when I called in August! ARGGGGGGGGGGGH!
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I had something similar happen to me...switched to a new PCP, saw him a couple of times and on the last visit he said nothing about moving. A few weeks later I got something in the mail that he was moving and no longer at the practice. WTH?? I'm convinced that they did that so patients would stay at the practice and change to a different doctor.
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Next week I'm headed to visit an urban college with my kid. No overnight parking around. Looks like I'll need to take a train and then a bus. I already booked a hotel because I know I can't make the drive and do the tour on the same day. I have no idea how I'm going to manage the hour plus of public transportation and walking. Why the )(*(**&^*& can't I get a handicapped parking pass for events like this? What are my options? Not take him? Or hope there is a bench at the bus stop, a seat on the bus and train and a bench on campus every 20 feet? I know that I have to rest this week so I have the energy and recover all of next week. What the hell? Today it doesn't feeling like living. I don't feel like a 'surviver'. I feel fatigued and less than normal.
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I have st 4 and wear my Stupid Cancer cap so people know and then they try to accommodate me. Good luck with the trip.
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I've pulled the cancer card to get accomodation. I have a driving placard that I suppose I could put in my purse to help. Maybe your doc can write a note or something.
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As for when docs leave, yes they should give notice to their pts. I'd be pissed too. Mine just made up a generic letter and sent it out giving me 90 days notice. Very kind of her.
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Jumpship, doctor's can write a temporary need for handicap placard and often do. Like when someone breaks a leg or has surgery that would make it difficult to walk far. They can make it for 90 days or 6 months or one year in my State of CT.
I have a permanent one because I walk with a cane but I know that originally I was given a temporary for 6 months. The surgery I had on my knees did not work so I ended up with a permanent placard. Ask your doctor if you can have one while in treatment at least!
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April: The doctor's office should have some sort of office mgr. I'd definitely call and COMPLAIN! You're a cancer patient, for criminy sakes and you don't need this bullshiz. The other patients that the dr left stranded certainly don't need it either.
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If my boss asks once again what the prognosis is, I'll give him the phone number of the oncologist and tell him to call her. To which my DH said: nope, you give him the phone number of an astrologer!!
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Hi, I'm fairly new to the forums. It has been a fun 3 weeks since diagnosis. May I rant? Thank you. I get my diagnosis on a Friday afternoon. i call twice the next week to make sure insurance pre- auth was started and assured it was. I wait a long five business days (holiday weekend) and decide to call insurance company. No paperwork, nothing. I call Office and flip a lid. Had my authorization the next day. Same thing happened with my biopsy pre-auth except that time I called four times to check on the auth and nobody would call me back. I have also been working out other administration issues with the office and the office manager will not call me. I have a feeling that I've been labeled a difficult patient. I have cancer and can't get common courtesy communication. So I'm now looking for new PCM
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and all of this incompetencehas delayed the start of my treatment 3-4 weeks.
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Thanks all for understanding! My oncologist has never believed that the chemo and the tamoxifen have any effect on me. I'm just supposed to "learn to live with it." Most days I get a good spot at the supermarket or I plan just to have a short trip to the mall. But for events like this where I have to walk up a steep hill for a 1/2 mile and really need parking the doc will not write a temporary note. Of course tamoxifen is a 10 year deal and the onc just doesn't listen.
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Jumpship, ask another doctor! Do you have a PCP? Or a gynecologist? Either one of them can request the parking placard.
joyandpiece, I am sorry you are going through all this on top of your diagnosis. My care was excellent from day one in terms of my cancer and have had very few blips since then but hopefully yours will work better from here on in. If not, go to a different team of doctors if you have to. Hugs!
I spoke to the Office Manager and finally, they did fill my prescription for one month and made an appointment for an "office visit" for October so I can meet my new doctor. If I don't like her, I will find another one somewhere else but sheesh. FWIW, the Office Manager agreed with me and they thought it was wrong not to notify all of her patients about her leaving. Apparently it was "sudden" which I find strange. I saw her in April and she seemed fine...oh well, guess I will never know the reason but they still should have left me know!
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I work at a computer moving files around. It is a contracted position for a company in another state and I am salaried. It is a unique position and I do not interact with anyone in my actual office for any business reason. My client does not care where I work. Monday was my first bad chemo day so I shot a courtesy email to my manager and the office manager/HR rep (it's a very small company) that I was feeling weak and I would be working from home that day. I get the following response from the office manager:
"If you are too sick to come to work, just use PTO. Moving forward, you can't work from home if you are under the weather. Please let me know if you want to discuss further. We want consistency across the team."
First off that doesn't make good business sense. The client would rather I be available. Secondly, it doesn't even sound legal. Working from home would be reasonable accommodations. Thirdly, I'm not part of any team. And lastly, where is the human decency? She knows I have cancer and she herself recently worked remotely to care for a relative with cancer. She later apologized (after being admonished by my manager) but I can't believe that would be the FIRST reaction to somebody wanting just a little leeway. What a horrible little person. F##K YOU, LITTLE NO POWER PEON OFFICE MANAGER.
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