Finding love after double mastectomy

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trish9659
trish9659 Member Posts: 1
edited August 2016 in Surgery - Before, During, and After

I am a 56 year old woman post double mastectomy. My fiance of 4 years waited about a month after my surgery to walk away. My kids are grown with their own lives and I still feel young, even if I look deformed. Are there any resources for single female breast cancer patients to find a male companion?

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited April 2016

    trish9659, we are very sorry you find yourself in this situation. You are not alone with this. You may find some helpful information in this article: Single Women: Finding Your Way. Also, we have a topic here for single women, if you want to take a look: https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/99. We're here for you!

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  • LM525
    LM525 Member Posts: 56
    edited July 2016

    Trish9659 I totally get it I was married 24 years and after I had a heart attack 2 years ago my husband walked out. Now I'm staying with my brother to work a new job and found I had IDC and had a Lt MX 7/15/16 I just want to be back to normal since I guess it will now just be me I want to get on with thing

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  • Hopefloatsinyyc
    Hopefloatsinyyc Member Posts: 211
    edited July 2016

    I hear ya! I'm a mom of 9 year old twins, and had just started to feel like I was in my prime, and had began dating again after a divorce several years prior. I went from dating up a storm and feeling confident and sexy and looking forward to future possibilities, to suddenly being diagnosed. I immediately stopped dating (was enjoying the whole online experience), shut down my profile and felt completely alone. It's hard because aside from my diagnosis (and now my deformed body that has replaced a bikini bod with scars and no nipples) I miss the companionship that I was newly experiencing.

    Everyone keeps saying "oh you have so much on your plate you don't need to worry about men at this point- take this time for you...." Of course these are all people who have great relationships. The thing is I TOOK that time "for myself" for 5 years following my divorce. I was ready- and now this.

    I'm afraid my self esteem will be so low by the time I am done with treatments that I will never get that "mojo" back that I worked so hard to get back recently.... And I know meeting anyone right now is a total pipe-dream.


    Sucks for sure!!

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