Here's what cheezed me off today

This really ticks me off, I can't believe that people who have cancer can't get life insurance until the five year mark because you are considered a risk!!!!!! Hubby was looking into it recently for both of us, but he was floored that they would treat someone like me who can't control the fact that I had BC.

Hey rohanna, how did the appointment go? I saw the BS for my yearly and it was kinda BS. I like him, but felt like I really don't need to see him anymore. Heck, the mammo they did on me was a screening. Same as anyone else. Not that it's a big deal, but even my friend was getting some 3D mammos a the same place. She said she had dense breasts and I was thinking not only are mine dense, but I HAD CANCER. Oh well, I am not going to ask for anything more since when they look more, they typically find things to poke and probe. So now that MO is gone, BS and RO are gone, I guess I am back to the GYN like everyone else.

How's your mom doing?

I am soooo sorry to hear about your mom. Mine has seemed to settle down. Gosh it feels so sad at times and then other times I am happy since she is safe. I now post on an Alzheimer's newsgroup (still under rockym) and it feels like only yesterday we first started being cheezed. Some of our old posts still crack me up. I try to bring a bit of humor to that group, but I suppose so many of the caregivers are in deep, I am afraid of pissing someone off. I know, me? Well, I need them the same way I needed our group back when.

I don't see the Onc. anymore since I don't take the Tamox. He use to have me do blood, but last year said all I needed was a mammo. My BS checked me this year and for whatever reason, I felt a bit creeped out after the visit. He's a good guy, but I could feel his hands on my boobs for an entire day afterwards. Clear sign I am back to the gyn. I only come to BCO now for a quick look. I'll PM you later.

Hope everyone is having an un-cheezed day!

Rohanna, I'm with you. Not going a day over 5 years.

rohanna, these guys seem to know so little other than how to order someone to mix chemicals for chemo or write a script for an AL. I skipped my MO this year.. I am so done with this crap. No drugs for me these past 5 and no drugs for me the next 5. By the way, my MO also behaved differently each time I saw him. In the beginning I really liked him, then he seemed way rushed, then he seemed to value my opinions and then is was rushed again. I cancelled last weeks appointment and I will head back to my GYN each year for follow up. Let's hope none of us ever need these people again!

Like I said to a cousin recently who is going through some stuff "In times of trouble, people really show their true and ugly side that they hide."

Glad you got rid of the negative dead weight! You don't need them!

dtad, I took that damn pill for 1 week. At first I was scared not to. I went through surgery and then another surgery when my incision opened one day after getting out of the hospital, then chemo for how ever many months and then the grueling radiation that took so many days away from me and left me a emotional mess. At that point I could hardly bring myself to take that pill, but after taking it for a few days, I hit rock bottom. I remember waiting for my kids to leave for school and then I would go into the closet and scream. I wasn't sleeping at night, I was having hot flashes 24/7 and my mood was the lowest I had ever seen. All this after I had "survived?" At that point I said done. I felt very empowered and soon began to work my way back to a normal person. Anyway, sometimes we just have to do what is right for us. I recall hearing others complain about the ALs and talk about their quality of life going down the tubes. To me it was a no brainer... I wanted to have a decent quality of life and so I did. Now that 5 years have passed, I only think about BC when I come to this site ;-)

Hi Ladies.......Please forgive me for jumping in after reading the last few posts but I felt that I just had to share my experience with my onco during a visit 2 weeks ago. It not only "cheezed me off" but hurt & frustrated me to the point of tears. No one except gals like you that have taken this BC journey can understand. I have had some minor se from Tamo over the years BUT now that I am in my 6th yr. the se are becoming more frequent & the duration longer. I have always tried to be a "good little soldier" but the onco pushed too hard last visit & I let him know plainly & clearly what was going on. Looking for some suggestions or helpful advice, I got none!!! What I did get was "you have two options.......keep taking the Tamo or stop taking it". What??? He had told me how critical it would be for my survival rate & now it really didn't matter??? I didn't know how to process this and he barked at me "well, what are 'we' going to do" ? REALLY? he wanted an answer right that very moment?

By the time I got to the car I was beyond stunned, I was crying and so p*ssed off that I found myself yelling into my cell phone at my DH who was just as p*ssed as me. I did not stop taking it yet, at least not until I get a second opinion with a fresh view of the big picture then I will make a decision. It is my body & I'm an older gal well seasoned! Thanks for letting me rant.

Thanks MOmmmyof2, we all need to vent every now & then and glad we have this place to go. This can be a long, hard journey.

I am all about 2nd opinions. After I started to pick my team 5 years ago, I didn't like what the first MO was saying. He wanted me to do TAC x 6 and my studies showed I was perfectly safe with T/C x 4. I went to a really nice MO for a 2nd and he was very much on board with T/C x 4. In the end, I took that information back to MO #1 and said I want my Onco test and I will work with you if T/C x 4 if you are willing. He agreed and that was that. I hardly ever saw the guy since it was his office and nurses who helped me through chemo and in the end he retired. I saved myself that dreaded red devil drug and even with the Onco at 22, I decided to skip Tamox. If my sharing can help others to go and get that 2nd, then terrific.

I'm sorry to hear this, Rohanna. Losing a kitty leaves a terrible hole. I hope in time all the good memories will help with your grief. I still miss kitties who died years ago.