Should I have my tissue expander removed?

My story is: I had breast cancer surgery may 6th 2015. I agreed to the expander thinking I would wake up from surgery with one or two nodes gone. My tumor was a little over 2cm. My ultrasounds at two different hospitals had revealed clear underarm nodes. The positive node was a sentinel .2-2mm micromet. The pathologist couldn't even be sure if she was seeing anything! You can imagine my distress of waking up to 17 nodes gone and the tissue expander, 650cc. Sixteen of these nodes were normal. Now, I have lymphedema in my arm, around the expander and starting in my hand, I am in pain constantly and taking pain and anxiety meds every 6 hrs. I got shingles and have complications from that. Every time I have a fill, the swelling gets worse. When I was coming down with shingles, I did not know what was wrong, I hurt all over and was sent to the in hospital ER by the plastic surgeon who had just removed 50cc of the 60 cc fill I had gotten before. The ER doctor failed to diagnose shingles although I showed her the five painful sores on my back! They did a CT scan of my right kidney. More radiation exposure! by the time I was diagnosed with shingles, at another doctor`s office, the medication they gave me for it did not work, so now I have post herpedic neuralgia in my back. Tamoxifen adds to the swelling and pain. I really wanted to keep the expander and I`m only up to 250 cc. My oncotype was a 7, so thank God I did not have chemo and radiation and the borders were clear. I have always been sensitive to medications. My doctor was not nice to me and I always was to her and thanked her. I went to Columbia Mo. Ellis Fishel Cancer treatment center. I feel like I was used to teach student doctors because it is a teaching hospital. I have read that the small micromet I had is now considered node negative and most doctors do not take a lot of extra nodes. After my surgery I saw my doctor minus the students. She was not interested in my swollen arm and I asked about my positive node. These are her exact words. "I don`t know"," I only have fourteen other patients!" very short and what I considered mean. Should she not care about all her patients? It made me wonder about their outcome with her. Did she know anything or care about them? I know exactly how a guinea pig or lab animal feels. I am not down on doctors, they save lives. But, some go too far and you can`t be too careful, ask questions and get second opinions. Back to my main problem, do any of you think I should go ahead with the reconstruction or have it removed? Can anyone relate to my story? Does anyone know how long you can safely have a TE. I am so tired of it. It goes through my armpit and feels bunched up. Also, please everyone, study before surgery, get all the facts and read everything before surgery. Thank you, if you answer this post and blessings to you! Thank you!