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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    Korky, I'm so sorry about your mom. That's truly tragic. I'm sure your mom knew that you were there for her earlier in the day. Sometimes people can choose the time they pass and perhaps she did. I hope you find peace.

    Jill, go for it! As MollieFish said, you can only deal with today. Yesterday's gone and tomorrow isn't here. If you want that position, get it!

    HUGS!

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  • Sloan15
    Sloan15 Member Posts: 896
    edited March 2016

    Benign. Yay! I just need some better tumor marker tests at the end of the month, and my stress level will go down considerably.

    Italychick - High Five!

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  • LovesToFly
    LovesToFly Member Posts: 1,133
    edited March 2016

    Sloan!! Yeah!!! So happy for you!!!


    Thanks ladies!!

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  • HappyHammer
    HappyHammer Member Posts: 1,247
    edited March 2016

    Korky- I am truly so sorry for your loss.

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  • HappyHammer
    HappyHammer Member Posts: 1,247
    edited March 2016

    Yay, Sloan!

    LTF- GO for it if it's what you want!!!

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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    Sloan YIPPEE!!!!! And Whew!!! Breathe. Now life can go on.

    HUGS!

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  • 614
    614 Member Posts: 851
    edited March 2016

    Dear MLP:  CONGRATULATIONS to your daughter.  That being said, I would be afraid for my daughter to go to Brussels.  What are your daughter's thoughts on the matter?  Europe is a scary place now.  I am not a risk taker.   Good luck with your decision.  Good luck with your insurance company.

    Dear Peggy:  I'm glad that the seller will be taking care of the hot tub and that you will not have to finance the repair.  I'm glad that you got the price that you wanted for your new house.  You will absolutely love it and being near your kids.  It must have been incredibly scary for your son to be near Charlie Hebdo during the attacks.  You must have been a nervous wreck.  My banker finally called me back.  He said that there has to be 2 days notice for a closing.  We set up a tentative time for 4:00 on Friday.  I'm sorry that I didn't become pushy prior to this week.  Everything has been ready.  The banker just let my file sit on his desk.  I go back to work on Monday so if I can't close on Friday, then it will be very difficult for me to juggle the closing with my work schedule. 

    Feel well everyone.

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  • Italychick
    Italychick Member Posts: 2,343
    edited March 2016

    Sloan, awesome!

    Korky, how terrible. My heart is with you through this terrible time. There are no words except to say I am so very very sorry

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  • molliefish
    molliefish Member Posts: 723
    edited March 2016

    very happy for you Sloan......

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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    614, Glad you're getting that loan closed. Sure not serving you very well is that banker? It was scary for me and even scarier for my son and his wife. And he doesn't scare easily but he's also not stupid (in his mid-40s he long past the stupid kid age).

    HUGS!


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  • 614
    614 Member Posts: 851
    edited March 2016

    I just realized that I missed a whole page of posts.

    Dear Korky:  I am SO SORRY for the loss of your mother.  {{Hugs}} to you and to your family. 

    Dear LTF:  I think that you should apply for the supervisor positions.  You are amazing at your job and you love it. Your bosses think that you are wonderful.  "Go for it" and don't overthink your chances.  Definitely, don't "should"  yourself.  You need to do what is right for you and don't think about anyone else.  If you need to take a leave of absence, then you will take one.  Legally, that is your right.  Better to take your leave as a supervisor.  "You got this!"  Good luck.  Yes, thinking about the "what if's" make bc so difficult and stressful.  I hope that you can get out of your funk quickly.  No matter what you think, I think that you are courageous.

    Dear Molliefish:  CONGRATULATIONS on your promotion, especially since you got the promotion just after your last chemo infusion.  You have an amazing outlook.  Thanks for your post.  It is inspiring.

    Dear Sloan:  Yay!  Now you can relax.

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  • Molly50
    Molly50 Member Posts: 3,773
    edited March 2016

    Korky, my heart breaks for you and your family. I am deeply sorry for all your mom went through. I am sure she knew how much you all loved her. Please be kind to yourself as you grieve the loss. I will include you in my prayers.

    Sloan, I am so relieved for you!!! Jill, glad you feel better. Do go for the promotion especially if you feel it's a rare opportunity . Live your life, it's the only one you have.

    Sorry I haven't been able to keep up either. Love you all!

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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    It IS hard to keep up. There are so many wonderful ladies here. And we do want to help you all. Just know that we all care very deeply!

    HUGS!

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  • Korky482
    Korky482 Member Posts: 8
    edited March 2016

    thank you everyone. It means a lot.

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  • Jclc83
    Jclc83 Member Posts: 246
    edited March 2016

    Sloan, awesome,awesome news Whew!!

    Korky hugs to you

    If my two cents matter, Brussels is a hot spot. I'd say no MLP. The USA LaCrosse should say no now too. But your daughter should be very proud.

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  • Brutersmom
    Brutersmom Member Posts: 563
    edited March 2016

    Korky, So sorry for your loss. Both of my parents passed quietly in there sleep. We were with them until we were to exhausted to do anymore and it seemed like several hours after we left in the early morning hours they passed. It is hard to lose a parent and it sounds like your mom and you have had a rough ride. Huggs

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  • MLP3
    MLP3 Member Posts: 534
    edited March 2016

    Woo hoooooo Sloan!!! I'm so happy for you:)

    I'm so sorry for your loss Korky.

    Ltf- I say go for it too. What is your gut telling you?

    Jan- I agree... Why isn't the trip being cancelled?

    My dd is on the fence. I'm trying to tell her it's an honor that she was chosen. And it's not the first time she's been to Europe... And won't be the last opportunity. I just feel that it's too unstable and unpredictable right now. Yes, we have to live our lives, but Brussels... I might as well send her to Syria!


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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    MLP3, I agree that the key question is why the trip isn't being cancelled? It should be. Things are not going to be better by June. Safety first. Hard decision but that's what mothers have to do.

    HUGS!

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  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited March 2016

    Korky, so sorry about your mom. I wasn’t able to be there when my folks passed away, since Dad died in NYC and Mom in FL, and I was in Chicago.

    Sloan, WHEW!!!!

    I’m about to leave for O’Hare, and I am so conflicted. I keep seeing signs--first, my fall Mon. night, then there was a credit card mixup this morning (hotel transposed the digits), and now it’s windy and sleety. I know we can’t sit at home cowering--any public place from now on in any major world city is a target, and no amount of xenophobic political bluster is going to protect us. It is what it is. MLP3, maybe for just this once the team could travel in street clothes--or cancel the trip en masse. British Airways says they will not apply a cancellation fee if I change my mind, but I think it’s past the point of no return, since the trip is going forward. Wish me luck & safe passage!

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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    Sandy, I think the difference here is that you are an adult and MLP3s daughter is still under her care. You are better able to assess the risks, be watchful and take care. Things that are harder for young people to do. It's scary. I'm in your pocket, nestling quietly in a corner (you don't need the turbulence of my dancing). I hope the trip is wonderful. Take care!!!

    HUGS!

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  • Kaneli
    Kaneli Member Posts: 100
    edited March 2016

    Dear Korky, I am so sorry for your loss. I also ache to think of what your mother went through. Please accept my deepest condolences.

    Kathleen

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  • LifeOfBabbs
    LifeOfBabbs Member Posts: 28
    edited March 2016

    LovesToFly: I get it. People are always telling me "you can beat this," and "you're so strong," and things like that. I'm not being strong. I'm doing what my doctors are telling me to do. Good luck with your work choices. It's hard working and going to treatment. I'm going down to half time on April 4 when radiation starts be I have to travel to get there every day.

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  • Grazy
    Grazy Member Posts: 373
    edited March 2016

    Hi - I had a lumpectomy four weeks ago and have appointments next week with a medical oncologist and radiation oncologist. I've been reading a few of the posters' diagnoses and treatments in this section and am wondering why some people have chemo when they have a Stage IA IDC/DCIS with no node involvement; I would have thought radiation would take care of remaining cells. I was assuming I'd only have to do radiation and hormonal therapy, but now I see I should be mentally prepared for the possibility of chemotherapy. Just curious as to why some with an almost identical diagnosis to mine have chemo while others do not.

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  • PontiacPeggy
    PontiacPeggy Member Posts: 6,778
    edited March 2016

    Grazy, Welcome! You're at the right place to get your questions answered. We're comforting, funny, information and caring. Please help us help you by finishing your profile with diagnosis, treatments so far, and projected treatments AND make it PUBLIC. This lounge can move very fast and it is easy to forget your status if it isn't included at the bottom of your posts. We also like to know where you live since we are all over the world and sometimes next door :)

    Stage and node involvement aren't the only things considered for chemo. Hormone status, size of the tumor, Oncotype score. Age is also an important factor. Younger women can have more aggressive BC.

    Ladies who have done or are doing chemo will explain what information went into their decision to do chemo.

    Sounds like you are doing well - we're very glad!

    HUGS!

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  • Grazy
    Grazy Member Posts: 373
    edited March 2016

    Thanks Peggy - I am going to be away from my computer for a bit but will get myself better organized with my details as soon as I can. Appreciate your response!

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  • MLP3
    MLP3 Member Posts: 534
    edited March 2016

    grazy- I had a grade 3 tumor with "extensive and abundant LVI", plus my bs saw cancer cells traveling towards the nodes and in other directions. My mo ordered it without waiting for the oncotype test results. And she predicted correctly as my score was 27. Sometimes the grade is more important than the size/stage.

    Sandy- you will have a great trip! My concern for my dd is traveling in a group and playing in stadiums wearing "Team USA" uniforms and clothing. As well as visiting major tourist attractions... Eiffel Tower, Louvre, La Sorbonne, cathedral d'Notre Dame, Anne Frank's house...

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  • MLP3
    MLP3 Member Posts: 534
    edited March 2016

    grazy- ps.... My tumor also grew from 7mm in late December to 1.8cm Jan 22 surgery date.

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  • ChiSandy
    ChiSandy Member Posts: 12,133
    edited March 2016

    Well, it's been anticlimactic so far (yay)! The sleet turned back to rain, every other street seemed to have utility work and lane closures, and it took us half an hour to go the first mile or so. Got here--no traffic at the airport, nobody rushing me out of the car and on to the curb. Walked in--and there were no lines at the ticket counter! Did ask for a wheelchair, and glad I did, even if I won't need one again till Heathrow. TSA lines were horrendously long--but the wheelchair/Fast Track lane was empty. Got more than a few fish-eye glares as I whizzed past. One thing that unnerved me was when a TSA attendant asked if I was over 75 (in order to keep my shoes on). He explained that he has to ask that of anyone who looks over 50. I took the x-ray whirly scanner because of my knee implants--set off no alarms. So here I am in the British Airways Terrace (biz-class) lounge. Nowhere nearly as posh as First, nor the KLM/Air France lounge for which we bought a day pass in Dec. No windows. No champagne (boo! hiss!). But there are several wines (I'm sampling an oz. of a Viognier), beers (all premium, but no non-alc), various boozes (which I don't drink), and an espresso/cappuccino machine. Had a little tea sandwich of lox and chèvre on pumpernickel, some crudites, and seltzer. May go back for the tomato-basil soup. And the TV is tuned to--miracle of miracles--MSNBC. (Not FAUXNoise).

    Remembering what a pain it was to juggle three suitcases through the Madrid train station last year (not to mention keeping an eye on them), I split what was going to go in my roll aboard between my smaller suitcase and my brief-tote. Also switched to a larger purse (ugly black cloth, but it's slash-and-RFID-proof, holds my iPad Mini & chargers, and the zippers can lock). Packed a couple of smaller purses in my suitcase. Nice traveling light, at least when boarding. Last flight, in order to make my rollaboard my carry-on, I had to cram my everyday purse into my tote until after we boarded. PITA, for sure.

    I think that any teams traveling internationally (or through int'l airports in the US) ought to advise their members to wear street clothes rather than uniforms identifying them as US nationals--perhaps one discreet identifying item (wristband, scarf, etc.) of a designated color so they can be seen by each other and their chaperones/coaches.

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  • 614
    614 Member Posts: 851
    edited March 2016


    Dear LifeOBabs:  Good luck with rads.  I'm glad that you can reduce your hours.

    Dear Sandy:  I would be nervous to go to Europe if I were you too.  I would however, be mindful of the signs that you are noticing.  Regardless, enjoy your trip.

    Dear Grazy:  The first MO whom I went to told me that I needed to have chemo.  She told me that tx plan even before my pathology report showed that I had a second primary bc (Invasive Tubular Carcinoma), that my ILC and LCIS were pleomorphic, and that I had a second area of LCIS, plus ALH everywhere, PASH, and FEA.  She said that I was young so I should have chemo to insure that no cancer cells remained.  I went to a different MO in Florida and also a MO in Texas.  Neither of these MO's felt that I needed chemo and they were aware of my complete pathology report.  Ultimately, I believe that the decision is based on the grade of the bc and the oncotype report.  I believe that grade 3 necessitates chemo as does a high oncotype score.  Triple Negative and Her2+ also warrants chemo.

    Good luck with your tx plan and I hope that you do not need chemo. 

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  • Grazy
    Grazy Member Posts: 373
    edited March 2016

    Thanks for your post, MLP3. I'll check back in later and make sure my personal info is presented correctly. Glad to have found breastcancer.org. I can tell it'll be helpful in the coming weeks and months as questions arise.

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