the other side of waiting when you are a loved one

Hi all

Firstly I want to say you are all very courageous and I thank god that there is a forum for discussion with so many people involved

My partner has gone and had an ultrasound guided FNA on a breast lump. Much unlike many on here, but like some, the turnaround time in Wellington NZ appears to be very long, 7 to 10 working days so it can take up to and over 2 weeks to receive any results, and as they say no news is good news and bad news should logically travel faster then good news.

As a support person I think I am going insane, the wait is horrendous, I cannot control my thoughts at times because you think too far into the future and without the person you love so as many of you on here that are the direct subject, there are probably 2 or 10 or 20 people who are in my boat sharing the pain.

The story goes:

8 years ago my partner was diagnosed with a Fibroadenoma, this was biopsied and I cannot remember the type of biopsy done, she described it as quite invasive and hurt quite a bit and entry was from the side and they took many specimens. The results to much relief came back as a Fib and benign. Fast forward 8 years and here we are again, now the doctor we had the ultrasound with could not find her previous files (she changed her name), and from memory we said he referred to that lump as pea sized. We are very sure it is the same lump, It is now 10mm (ok not huge) and he wanted or was not going to let us go because he had no previous history (although we are sure he was the same doctor who did the first biopsy) that he wanted to do an FNA on the same lump. We have done that biopsy and are awaiting the nurse to phone with results. It is now working day 6 (bank holiday in between really extended this wait) and they say pathology normally issue reports within 7 to 10 working days.

I am worried, we had it biopsied previously, but the fear of cancerous cells forming in the fibroadenoma, and it is hard to not think maybe they got the diagnosis wrong and its phyllodes or what not, or maybe we are the rare cases where it might have transformed.

I just thought I would put my thoughts down on this forum as there are so many great stories and I figure the more support and stories we share, for future people it will be a great resource. I am an ocd type that searches for information and like stories so I wanted to put mine down on here incase someone might read it and share a like story.

Thanks so much for reading