Bonfire of the Goddesses

yep. Great place to gather with the gals!

GMA.....hang in there girlfriend.......thinking about you................hugs

GMA.. Ugh.. Sorry you have more pain. :-( Yes let's keep this bonfire burning !!!

Ducky.. I've been thinking of you.. How is your grand-daughter.?

geewhiz... Opposite problem here. It's summer and stinking hot.!! I love your name..

I better get up out of bed.. my daughter and her family are visiting for the day.!!

Ducky....So sorry.. I'm sure it is very, very hard for your grand-daughter , son, and you too.. Hopefully they can regulate her glucose levels soon.. Thinking of you all, and sending prayers ((Hugs))

Hey bonfire gals, glad to see you checking in.
Love that there are still familiar "faces" here....

Time flies....work consumes much of it....but I cannot forget my times at BCO -- the fear, the learning, the support, the friendship, the laughter, even the sadness...life happening on top of BC...glad to have so many here who understand!

Stay warm....just a few more weeks 'til spring.
--Joan

Good to see you too, Ducky....(dot dot dot).... we've had a lot of years here....and it's good to feel the warmth.

Joan, and Lucy who knows.........said Goodbye to my shore house yesterday..........it has a new owner...........sad, but I 'm ok.............not sure when it will all hit me, but for now I have my motto to get me through, and a lot of great pictures.........

Ducky you brought it to the top of mine - Merry Christmas everyone!

Ducky ...Yes !! Still out there 😃 Merry Christmas to all xx

Happy New Year Goddesses...
I know some have moved to other threads or FB; but was just looking up a few people and started reading back.
We've come a long way, and now another calendar year is behind us. 
Thinking of those who have posted here, the smiles, the struggles...happy to have had so many great ladies in my life.
Wishing everyone who stops by good health and peace in 2017.

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Change is hard, and loss is harder....
Thinking of all those who we have lost to BC
(((RIP Goddesses)))

Just discovered this thread. Read some old post. Hilarious! I also would like to toss in the "welcome to cancer" swag. When I got the record keeping notebook I thought: This is too sm. to hold all the paperwork & I was right. Then I thought: is this as long as they expect me to live. Tossing in all the info on the drugs that didn't work.  Something to really get the fire burning, I have a couple of people to toss in - they're big so may have to toss them in more than once. The first is my gynecologist who saw the swelling on my neck & then stood in front of me reading my medical history.  Out loud she said  "Oh well, 18 yrs (had 1st cancer 1995) you've had a long run." No scan yet, no mention even of cancer but she was kicking dirt on me out of the gate. Then she sent me to a surgeon for the biopsy. Went back to have the stitched out & surgeon said: "I don't like to have patients wait for a diagnoses so I'm telling you now that you have stage 4 cancer. Its in your bones, chest & liver, you'll have radiation, chemo & then ............ yes die." I remember thinking, why would I have all that if I die right after anyway. Well, I cried & cried & went home & cried & cried. This was a surgeon not an onc in anyway. With really bad medical info. She didn't stop there either. She called me at home & wanted to sent over some "home care" nurses from "social services" to see what help I might need. They came but they were from hospice & insisted I take pain med. I didn't have pain. They insisted I did. {They were very young.} They insisted I did & wasn't owning up to it. They wanted to come back every week. I put a stop to that This Dr. did other things but will wait till the fire needs more fuel. Have more people to toss on fire but later also.  By the way this happened 3yrs & 10 mo ago. Still ticks me off though. Maybe because people keep adding to it. I hope they burn bright.

Thanks Lulu, I've been diagnosed with cancer in 3 different states & never had a response like here. Don't know if its because of the stage 4 or my age or both but the people here are a bit weird about cancer.  Will tell you a funny one though. I went to emergency because my picc line developed an infection & when the nurse walked in & look at me she ask "did you have a arm transplant?"  Whaaaaat. really. I'm glad I wasn't having a heart attack.   April

Joan ..Wishing you the happiest , healthiest year ahead !!

Sharethehope, Freya ,Lulu ...Welcome ..Ducky will hopefully be here with the welcome mat soon. !!!!

I haven't visited here in a while, but welcome to the newbies! Some people are just asshats! I would have shown that "friend" the door, too!

Since my diagnosis, my mom has been trying to re-establish a relationship with me. When I was a kid, she chose her own life and fun over us kids. While she was out dating and taking college classes for a degree she still hasn't completed, I was left in charge of the house and my younger brothers. Later on, she chose alcohol instead of having a relationship with me and my kids. I've been keeping her at arms length, but go to lunch with her about once a month. Anyway, she keeps asking me to go with her to see various plays/musicals in LA. I don't want to. Plus, since my last mammogram shows I have areas of concern needing biopsy, I'm not making plans for stuff like this. I don't know what surgery is in my future (lumpectomy, mastectomy, excisional biopsy). I don't want to tell her about my latest "news"... especially until I have answers. I don't know if I should just tell her that I don't want that kind of relationship with her. She keeps dropping hints that she wants to do certain things before she dies. But she's been self-centered and manipulative her entire life. I guess I just want to throw her in the bonfire.