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Alorelle
Alorelle Member Posts: 1
edited February 2016 in Waiting for Test Results

When I was nineteen, I had a tumor the size of a tennis ball in my neck. I had it removed and they said it didn't look like the cancer spread. I was diagnosed with lymphoma back then and they thought I had beat it.

I'm now twenty three and a couple weeks ago bloody discharge started coming from my right breast. My doctor felt two lumps and I am awaiting results back. I'm not scared for me, I'm scared for my Mom because it was so hard for her to go through it the first time.

I don't know what to do. I don't want my Mom to cry about this, because she is going through so much with my younger sister. If it turns out to be cancer, I don't know how to break it to her.

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited February 2016

    Dear Alorelle, We are so sorry that you are dealing with this worry. Here is a link to information on our website about Talking with Family and Friends. We are hoping that this does not turn out to be cancer and we appreciate your worry about your mom. We are thinking of you and hoping that you will stay connected here and keep posting. Let us know how things work out for you. The MOds

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  • etnasgrl
    etnasgrl Member Posts: 650
    edited February 2016

    ((((Hugs)))) I'm so sorry that you're going through this.
    I can relate, to a degree. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer at 42. She passed away from it at 56. I am 41 and was diagnosed last November. I'm almost done with my treatments and have yet to tell my dad that I have cancer.
    I just couldn't tell him that I now have the same disease that took his wife. I know that he will be devastated.
    I will tell him when my treatments are finished....but I'm dreading it as I know he will be so upset and worried.

    Hopefully, it will turn out that you don't have cancer, so you won't even need to be worried about this.....but if it is, I know that you will do what you need to do. Your mom loves you and she will be upset, of course, but she will handle this, don't worry. (I guess I should take my own advice, huh? LOL!)

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  • Numb
    Numb Member Posts: 432
    edited February 2016

    Hugs to both Alorelle and Etnasgrl.   You both sound so worried, but don't forget that things have improved a lot over the years for cancer and it is not as fatal as it once was.  It is hard enough to deal with this yourself without having to worry about how your loved ones will take it.  I am not telling my daughter that I have a cancerous lump in my breast because she is about to have a baby, my first grandchild, and I would hate to spoil this for her.   People get strength from somewhere when they are told bad news. 

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  • Ansel_Balla
    Ansel_Balla Member Posts: 3
    edited February 2016

    Hey Alorelle, I hope everything is fine! How are you now? I am newbie here, just lost my ideal one who is suffering from cancer for 5 years, want to help cancer survivors in any way I can.

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