Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?

Thanks Rita. One thing about being "older" is we always know someone who has it worse and can give many examples. There's still more "boot strap" training in how to solve life's problems. My family's still very stoic, and I think many are, so we feel uncomfortable displaying fear or pain. And there's always many compliments for those who suffer and don't complain.

And once you're my age, you don't need someone to tell you - it's internalized. This is a safe place to vent and I appreciate you listening

Fresh, self-caught fish is the best. And a great Omega 3 boost

Good morning everyone,

Leslie, you hit the nail on the head. I think a lot of us come from a stoic family. In this part of the country, many of the men folks from my grandmothers and mothers generations lost their men folk to the coal mines. There were I think fairly large families and widows' left with children to propel into life. I know a couple of my Aunts married just to leave home and stop costing their mother that money.

My own sweet and beautiful Mother never complained about anything. She was always looking for a solution to something and never seemed, due to that, to have the time to feel sorry for herself. The one thing that still has the power to move me to tears almost is that when she knew it was time to "let" go, she told me that she had been suffering --- and I had no idea ( oh I knew there was some ) that it had taken so much of her spark and the emotion in her voice in those three words ----- I Have Suffered ---- just tore through me in an immeasurable way. Knew for her to actually admit that --- that it was far worse then I could ever imagine.

I suppose I grew up learning stoicism and I have plenty of it to this day --- so I know we all go on. We do the best we can only letting our hair down now and then when we are at wits end and so wilted as to feel powerless -- but we know we can't stay that way. It's a temporary reprieve from having to straighten our back every second. Rita gave great advice --- sometimes, for yourself and no one else, you have to let go.

We are having a gorgeous day in that temps will be back around 65 degrees again. It seems as though we won't have the sun though. I think even as Iowa gets cold and snow --- we will have temps stay up and end up with rain. That is what I'm thinking, but you never quite know. At least I did get ( it was mainly the rear cargo area ) my car cleaned out yesterday. There are some finishing touches needed -- though it is good enough not to need to be in a hurry. I may concentrate on some things inside here today.

Hope you all have a great Sunday. See you all later.

Blessings,

Jackie

I used to think “sugar-free” or “no sugar added” meant it was okay to eat on a low-carb diet. Unfortunately, I’ve found that Murray’s sugar-free cookies still are loaded with refined flour....which turns to sugar very quickly (enzymes in saliva do that even before you can swallow). And don’t believe “no sugar added” or “no sugars added” until you read the ingredients list. “Concentrated fruit juice? Agave nectar?” Liquid sugar, period (and nearly as high-GI). If I see no sugars (anything ending in -ose) or fruit juices added, I read on. Usually sugar alcohols (ending in "-ol," such as sorbitol, mannitol, maltitol or xylitol) don’t spike my insulin, though except for xylitol they can make me a much more “regular gal.” And “gluten-free” baked goods, unless you have celiac or are truly gluten-intolerant, usually contain the simplest of all starches that spike my insulin through the roof and pack on the pounds. The exceptions are those that use flax or almond meal or coconut flour as binders--they tend to have added fiber as well. (I really like Alyssa’s Cookies--the “Vegan Bites” oatmeal-raisin cookies and the Chocolate Almond cookies have only 4 net grams of carb per cookie and one is enough--OTOH, Murray’s Sugar-Free creme-filled wafer sandwich cookies (all flavors) are, for me, like Lay’s Potato Chips, whose 1970s slogan was “betcha can’t eat just one.” The Alyssa’s are more like little mini-cakes, aka chewy. If you’re craving crispy, you’re on your own).

We made it up to 46 here today, albeit drizzly. I slept in yet again, and by the time I ate, showered and did my MLD self-massage it was too late to go out & shop. Fortunately, I have some duck leg confit I can reheat, perhaps with Jerusalem, insalata Caprese, or olive salad (all of which contain tomatoes, which Gordy hates, so maybe I’ll make him some broccolini or snap peas). Got some lightly smoked chicken leg quarters at Mariano’s lately (two for under $1.70), and served them with leftover ribs and a bunch of kale that I blanched and then sauteed in olive oil, garlic, sea salt & lemon juice. Made a low-carb BLT for brunch (2 sl. 100% whole wheat toast, 2 net gm. carb each, sliced heirloom tomato, red-leaf lettuce, 2 sl. cherrywood-smoked bacon and a little mayo); for a snack I just fried an egg in olive oil and had a breve cappuccino. (I know bacon is not harmless, but I have it maybe twice a week, and never more than a slice or two--the carcinogenic dose--50 gm--is six slices a day). Still not sure I can face the idea of wine after Fri. night’s wine-and-cheese fest at Eataly (I even blew off a champagne tasting yesterday). Probably seltzer again, or perhaps a little Meyer lemonade with xylitol.

Rita, Schar makes an Artesian White bread that is the best gluten free I have found. I've only been doing GF since April, but it has made a difference in my IBS, but especially when traveling it is a challenge. Love Glutino Yogourt covered pretzels, as a snack. Udis cookies are good, esp. if I nuke them for 5 sec each. Bizquick comes gluten free and is good. Also have a bakery that makes peanut butter choc chip yummie cookies. Really like Crunch Master crackers and Blue Diamond almond crackers too.

Many people don't truly need gluten-free diets, but at the same time, cutting down on some of them I think can possibly do some good. Thinking here that I was told to cut down if I wished to 'feel' better. Sadly, I've neglected to try it for the fact that Dh is so into certain things. I really should give it some attention and actually see if I can discern a difference. I know lately I've had a sensation that I am eating way too much wheat in my diet -- so I will be likely giving this some more thought and do more reading. Actually, Dh would likely benefit too --- if he would settle down a little about some of his must-haves.

We will have I think at least one more warm day, but it does sound like rain for tomorrow. That would square a bit with Iowa and getting snow there. It will stay too warm here for that, but rain doesn't thrill me -- better than snow though.

Blessings

Jackie

Thanks bonnets for the gluten free suggestions. I have never heard of Schar bread and am not sure it's available in Illinois but I am going to check it out. I crave bread and am still looking for a good bread. I have found several good gluten free pastas and use the all the time but it is the bread that gives me fits because I love sandwiches.

Schar has a website and you can find out where it's carried. I agree bread is the worst. Pasta, other baked goods etc are good. Wish more restraunts wud offer a gluten free dessert, other than ice cream. Even many places that specialize in breads and baked goods, like Panera don't offer anything, just a salad! I make my own pizza as few pizza places have gluten free. If it is it's usually Udi's, not too good. Like Unos, hear they have one, but don't know if it's pan. I'm a Chicago girl, miss that pizza!

Believe in the goodness of life.
Believe in the power of time to heal and to renew.
Believe in the power of forgiveness and gratitude.
Believe in the gift of rainbows and butterflies.
Believe in the laughter of children.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Oh thanks mysunshine. That sounds like a wonderful rainy day trip.

Bonnets, I will check out that website, too. Thanks!

Gentleness means recognizing that the world around us is fragile, especially
other people. It is recognizing our own capacity to do harm and choosing
to be tender, soft-spoken, soft-hearted, and careful. When we are gentle
we touch the world in ways that protect and preserve it. Being gentle
doesn't mean being weak; gentleness can be firm, even powerful. To behave
in a gentle manner requires that we stay centered in our own values and
strength -- that we are active rather than reactive. Coming from this center,
a gentle word or touch can channel our energy into healing or making peace.

unattributed, Wisdom Commons

Carole, you must have had even more rain than we have had in Florida. and they got record rainfall for here in January. We played today and it was just beautiful here...82 degrees and the course has dried out quite a bit with only 3 holes being cart path only. I have played terrible since we got here. First I am used to hitting off of grass on the fairways and I've been hitting down too much on my fairway shots and with this wet ground, that's a gigantic mess and the ball doesn't go very far. UGH!

Termite...congrats on your duplex! Will this be a permanent move or are you still spending the summers in the north?

Hello to everyone! I hope you all had a great Wednesday!

ChiSandy and MinusTwo- I am using the Aloe and Domeboro provided by my RO.

Teka - my boss is letting me work from home tomorrow, so tough on the bitch.

Had an emotional day today ... don't want to go into it right now.

I'm getting better, the burn on top near armpit is peeling and is almost skin colored. The boost area is still red and underneath hurts.

The weather here has been in the low 30s, so better than it usually is. The rain bothers my arthritis.

I'm already sick of the election stuff and am trying to convince dh not to watch the news anymore. I don't understand why this crap has to go on for 2 years. Or why the people elect the idiots who run this country into the ground. Stepping off podium now.

Please G-d, I just need to work about 5 more years before retiring.

Will try to be back with a more positive attitude.

Linda

Kindness is the most sincere expression of being fully human.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Shuf, enjoy that Super Bowl get-together with your kids and grands. Glad you're benefitting from the yoga.

DH's brother, who lives in the Chicago area, arrived today about noon. He will be here several days. Tomorrow we plan to go into New Orleans to the Endymion parade. It's one of the big Mardi Gras parades. The members of the court wear gorgeous costumes. Mardi Gras comes early this year.

We had a white frost this morning and the temperature was at freezing when I got up. But the sun has been shining all day and it's in the 50's. Really a very nice day.

I made several dips today to have for snacks when we have a cocktail later. I also made some tortilla chips out of home-made tortillas. They're just ok. A bit hard. Good thing I bought some Frito dippers.

And that's about all that's happening here!

And most of all, I will love myself. For when I do, will zealously inspect all things which enter my body, mind and soul. Never will I overindulge the requests of my flesh, rather I will cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation. Never will I allow my mind to be attracted to evil and despair, rather I will uplift it with the wisdom and knowledge of the ages. Never will I allow my soul to become complacent and satisfied, rather I will feed it with meditation and prayer. Never will I allow my heart to become small and bitter, rather I will share it and it will grow and warm the earth. -Og Mandino