Thinking Positively

great thread

1. One thing someone did for me

My sister sent me long email encouraging me to "hang in there" as I started my 4th cycle of gemzar. Telling me how strong and such an inspiration to her and to others. She said " I know treatment feels like a job but your payment is your life".

2. What I did for others

I take time to encourage people at cancer center to hang in there. Affirm how how it is. I hold their hands sometimes.

3. What I did to make myself happy.

Ordered a pizza with everything on it after gemzar infusion. (With steroid on board ) picked it up after chemo and went home and ate three slices. Yum. It's the small things but it felt like a treat. Yes it did. 👍

It's hard being on chemo every week. It's hard knowing you have a scan coming up in two months so see if tx is working. It's hard hearing about our met sisters dying. But we are still alive. And every morning I thank God for another day. I try to live my life with gratitude. It's hard. But we are each doing it right now.

And the mountains have snow in the desert.

Hugs to all.

Thank you for posting this. You may be one of the youngest here in this situation but probably one of the most wisest. Love to you.

You girls are giving me a kick in the butt! Thank you. Will follow your example, I think I needed to read this.

Becs, Wow, you have given yourself (and us) quite a challenge! Thank you for the wonderful idea.

1) Got pms from 2 of my friends here on the forum (you know who you are, ha ha!)

2) Managed to get a clear picture of a serial plate on DHs old snowmobile so he could register it.

3) Read your post! (Cheating,.. but only a little)

You're just the best Becs!

Becs,

This is wonderful! Being positive may not cure our bc, but it sure makes life a heck of a lot more pleasant.

One thing somebody did for me: The clerk in the DMV (not a fun place to go), straightened out the mess that another DMV branch had made of my car registration. She was pleasant, patient and fast.

One thing I did for someone else: I filled out a compliment form for said clerk. She really deserved it !!

Something I did for myself: when I got home, on this wet, cool day, I made myself a nice cup of tea and sat down to check on bco.

Caryn

Yes thank you Becs! I just read about a dear sister here who lost her battle and I felt myself slipping down the rabbit hole. This was a fast pick me up and just what I needed to pull myself out. 1. What someone did for me that made me happy. Brought me a new book to start so I didn't have to go to the library or go buy another. 2. One thing I did to make someone else happy. Did some computer entry stuff for a coworker so she could go home early to her sick son. 3. One thing I did to make myself happy. Ate some yummy marshmellows......LOL!

I think this thread was an "eye opener" for me as I don't think we realize on a daily basis influences we have on others and vice versa. It has made me become more aware of my surroundings and interactions with others. Yesterday, What I did for someone else--I stood in line at my local Kroger store, waiting behind a young mother who had a WIC coupon for baby food. Something was screwy about how much baby food she was supposed to get versus what she actually ended up with. Long and short of it, my wait was somewhere around ten minutes or longer before my checkout started, and I waited patiently while the young mother went back to the shelves to find cheaper food. None could be found so cashier had to spend considerable time taking baby food purchases off her ticket. I could physically see that this delay caused the cashier stress as she knew this situation was "holding up" the checkout line. What someone did for me--when it was my turn for checkout with that cashier, she apologized to me profusely and was embarrassed by the delay. What that cashier may not have realized was that she reinforced within me to be patient in life and not "blow up" when situations like this occur. I told her that it was okay because maybe something like that with a food item could have happened to me, and i would hope someone behind me in line would be as kind. Life is too short, and we always think we're so busy that we don't have an extra minute anywhere to be patient about. It was kind of an "epiphany" to me, and i believe will help to make me a better person. That cashier will probably never know what she did for me. What I did for myself--bought some BBQ chicken at Kroger, which I enjoyed immensely, talked to my son at length on the phone (which I also enjoyed immensely), and watched Gone With the Wind for the umpteenth time, which I also enjoyed immensely! May we all continue on this thread and realize how important we all are to each other in the "Circle of Life". Ann

artistatheart: Seems like no matter how many times I watch it, there's always something in it new that I didn't catch before. It's such a classic! Ann

This is such a great idea. I forget to be grateful for the good things in my life...

What I did for someone. My b-i-l called unexpectedly and I made him lunch. He was delighted as he was hungry but didn't expect anything more than a cup of tea.

What someone did for me. One of my friends made me a delicious apple pie. I don't bake much these days so this was a lovely treat.

What I did for myself. I ate three luscious chocolates from my secret stash tonight. Mmh there is a theme here..

Teakie, ME TOO! Always some little nuance I didn't catch! Caryn, I have to say I am a general classic movie fan in general, mostly the ones about mansions and ladies with cigarette holders and crazy little hats. The speech and manners back then are fascinating to me. How you ever seen "The Heiress" with Olivia DeHaviland? Sooooo good! So today What I did for someone else: Wrapped up the classic DVD's i no longer watch (Musicals mostly) and packed them off to my sister who LOVES the singing and dancing parts. What someone did for me: My longest and dear friend came up from the valley and took me to lunch and to the local thrift shop for some treasure hunting. What I did for myself: Took out some art paper and pencils and got lost in doing a drawing. Have a great weekend ladies!

Divine: I remember reading GWTW myself when I was young. It was one of those books that for me had parts in it where I couldn't put it down, and then i would hit spots that I thought dragged on forever as far as too much detail. i remember going to see it with my grandfather at the Grand Theater in the town where I was raised not far from where I am now. I was so in awe of the movie on the big screen and most impressed with the Intermission music. i thought that was WAY COOL! You should really make it a point to go visit Gable's Museum--sounds very interesting, and you're so close! If you go, let us all know how it was. Ann

Divine, I read that in Jr high school and was pretty impressed with myself for reading such a large book! I did not see the movie until years later. I did read the sequel Scarlett and it was actually pretty good....What I did for someone else today? Oooh'd and AAAhhh'd over my prior BFF's new granddaughter in the middle of Costco even though she has basically dropped me like a hot cancer patient potato. What someone did for me: DH is making me a nice salmon, brocolli and pineapple dinner. What I did for myself: Bought some new snowshoes so I can get back some fitness in my life!

singlemom, I will need to sob and get a massage after I do my will too....That must have been gut wrenching and I acutely feel your pain. Go out and show off those new boots!

Spicey, I say yes, #2 counts, I'd be very glad not to be run over that chunk of concrete!

What someone did for me that made me happy: dh got the empty ink cartridge unjammed in the printer and replaced it with a new one so I could print something out.

What I did for someone else to make them happy: wiped out a drawer bin and took it out to the garage where we're making a bed for the outdoor cat that adopted dh so that dh didn't have to do it.

What I did for myself today: tidied up the house early in the day so I could read and relax in the afternoon.