Plz Post your SUCCESS STORIES for holistic ILC treatment
I am supporting a friend with recent diagnosis of lobular cancer (2cm left, 1cm right) low Ki67, ER+ PR+ no HER) She is 71 years old, single, strugglingly-self-employed, small SS check... but in excellent physical health. Once an avid runner, she still stretches daily and we have been going to gym... she is 11 years my senior and in MUCJ better shape! She juices, and since diagnosis has cut out all wheat, sugar, and processed foods.
However -- The docs and surgeons are all scaring her into (beginning to) think double mastectomy is the only choice... despite the fact that her heart is in holistic and natural healing...
Can you give her good advice and share your successes?
What works for you?
What tips can you share?
Thanks so very much
Linda
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Hi, I am concerned that your friend is thinking bilateral mastectomy is her only choice. If she is going to a reputable cancer centre, I doubt the doctors would be recommending that, especially given her age and the size of her cancer.
There is no proven survival benefit with mastectomy, compared to less invasive surgery. There is a greater chance of recurrency following lumpectomy, though it's not a large percentage, and can even happen after mastectomy.
There is authoritative information on this site which confirms what I am saying.
Please suggest to your friend that she should ensure she is taking advice from experienced doctors who are up to date with modern treatments before she agrees to major surgery.
She can also come here and receive helpful information and support.
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Just re-reading your post and want to clarify I am not recommending against mainstream treatment. I see you are a survivor so you know how the whole cancer business plays out. I was just reacting to the suggestion of bilateral mastectomy being necessary. Your friend can certainly choose that if she wants, but it may not be her only conventional choice.
I am much younger than your friend, had lumpectomy etc etc and like you, take Letrozole. I am fine five years later (thank God).
Wishing your friend peace with her decisions.
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They always recommend a bilateral mastectomy for bilateral cancer. I was lucky in that I was able to persuade my surgeon to do another lumpectomy. If both of mine had been found at the same time, I can guarantee the surgeon I had to start with would have wanted to do a bilateral.
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really, Sue? I can't imagine my surgeon, at same hospital, recommending that. And things have progressed a lot in the last 5 years. He was saying to me recently that nowadays, with preadjuvant antihormonal, surgery may become obsolete!
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Hi Linda, I wonder what is a "success story" with this disease. Being alive five years after diagnosis? And what do you consider to be a holistic treatment for breast cancer?
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Racy -- "He was saying to me recently that nowadays, with preadjuvant antihormonal, surgery may become obsolete" -- now THAT sounds really hopeful! And something specific for my friend to ask her oncologist about - thanks very much for sharing that...
SuzieQ -- Actually her oncologist and surgeon said it was her choice... that a lumpectomy in each breast was a choice, but with the tentacles/roots that Lobular shoots out, once they get in there they will be able to see more than the sonogram and mammogram could see (apparently these off-shoots don't show well to the machines, being so small) and then they will take as much as they need to in order to get it all. My friend has some heart issues, so she went to her heart doctor -- he is the one pushing for double mastectomy, so that radiation is less likely "needed".
Muska -- if the prognosis is living 3 years and someone lives 5, then, yes, I would consider that a success... but what I am hoping to hear is that some women here feel that they have stagnated growth or even shrunk their tumors through diet/exercise, vit C shots -- whatever means.
When I first got my own diagnosis -- I seriously considered Gerson and others who touted healing through food and cleansing. But I was only 6 months into a new wonderful relationship (he was my rock during all my surgeries/treatments -- and he proposed when we got my 2-year-post-mastectomy MRI showing me clean of cancer). I was (at the time of my diagnosis) also just 6 months post the death of my Dear Dad to a stage-4 brain tumor.. I was his primary caretaker for a year (through chemo, radiation, surgeries) and lived with him in Hospice the last 3 weeks of his life. So, at that time, I chose pretty much Western Medicine answers -- bilateral mastectomy and DIEP reconstruction. I am not sorry... it was right for me at the time. But I have had some complications -- cording in left arm post surgery (pre-lymph-edema potentially) which caused me to pretty much stop using that arm, so then arthritis set in, resulting in torn rotator cuff muscles and even less range of motion... plus the Femara makes me stiff -- helped some by supplements I take and daily walking, but I will be SO glad when my 5 years is up and I can get off the stuff.
My friend is 11 years older -- 71. She is in fantastic shape -- an ex-runner who still stretches and exercises regularly. She is a proponent of organic whole foods... and her original response to her diagnosis was that everyone is going to die of something.... and if she juiced and gave her body a complete break from all un-natural processed foods and sugar... she might stagnate growth or even shrink tumors -- heal herself.
She has an appointment next week with a Naturopath -- hopefully can get some support there -- but IF lobular is normally LESS-aggressive, and slow-growing -- it seems she should have some time to try natural healing before rushing into a year of surgeries and implants...
So what I am hoping to hear is from some people who have had any success at all with letting their own bodies do the healing.
Thanks for any and all (hopefully continued) input -- I sent my friend these links and hopefully she will at least lurk, or maybe post herself soon ...
Linda
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IMO if you are going to do alternative methods of treatment the more aggressive surgery should be considered. I refused chemo and anti hormones but did have a BMX. One of the main reasons is my ILC 1cm tumor did not show up on mama or ultrasound and you could not feel it. I was just more comfortable with that decision. Everyone is different and their choices should be respected. However if your friend would like to learn more about my alternative treatment you guys could private message me. She's lucky to have a good friend like you....
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I second dtad in regards to BMX. I think it's the most 'holistic' from the three main options most of us face: surgery, chemo and radiation. I have a great aunt who was treated with UMX over 30 years ago and didn't have any other treatment since. She is 92. She has no idea about the details of her original diagnosis and I am not even sure they did much testing if any at all where she had it done.
Another recent example is my mother-in-law who felt a lump when she was about 89 or 90, didn't want to do anything and her PCP told her to do nothing not even testing because in his words, at such age BC progresses slowly. She died a very painful terrible death from BC mets to bones and lungs and her decline lasted for about eight months. I think this could have been avoided by simple lumpectomy and an AI pill, she was a very healthy woman for someone who is 91.
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Kayb and Muska -- thanks for the added input... dtad -- I did PM you, thanks for the offer.
Yes -- I agree that the surgery is probably the safest course -- considering what medicine knows today. In modern times we look back at the Civil War docs who amputated because that was the best they had at the time (no way to fight the gangrene). Now it seems barbaric... but back then it was the best they knew, and it did save lives... even though men were left maimed.
I am not sure of your ages -- but I keep coming to that -- keeping in mind my friend is 71... if the cancer is slow-growing... could it be that left completely untreated it might end up being secondary to whatever else might eventually kill her -- like her existing heart problem... or being hit by a bus... But, of course, that is fairly radical thinking... if you KNOW the cancer exists, it probably makes sense to remove what you can, and then eat as healthy as possible to reinforce the body's own healing power. That is only my opinion, though... and this isn't my decision to make. And there are the removed lymph nodes to consider... I think modern medicine is a little callous to just how important they may be... our own natural first line of defense.
I very much appreciate your conversation, and am passing things on to my friend, who I continue to hope will brave the discussion room herself (don't think she has ever participated in one).
Thanks - especially anxious to hear from more people with ILC ...
This is not my decision, but my friend's -- and I appreciate the feedback, which I pass on to my friend.
Linda
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Hi Linda, I think your friend could ask her MO how long she would go without symptoms if she left it untreated. And what her decline and death would be like if she were to progress to metastatic cancer. An experiened MO would probably say that nobody can tell for sure but there are some averages. Of course that depends on the specifics of her particular cancer. I suppose with a slow growing tumor one may be doing nothing and be free from symptoms for 2 -3 years, however the question is what would come next.
I gave you an example where the decision to do nothing at very advanced age did not result in a good outcome, in my opionion. I have been thinkng about these issues quite a lot lately, and to me how death happens is a big consideration. People often say we will all die anyway but that 'anyway' can be quite different in terms of suffering for the patient and family.
In your friend's case, she got cancer despite being active and in good health. I assume she eats healthy diet. I personally do not believe in diet as a treatment for active cancer and would be very curious to see research that proves otherwise. Please note we are not talking about diet as a method to reduce risk but diet as a way to treat already existing condition.
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Muska, that is good advice. I'm sorry about your MIL's experience.
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I don't have ILC but my Grade 1 pathology and low Oncotype score (13) suggest a slow-growing less aggressive cancer. I had 10 weeks of waiting between diagnosis and surgery, and rather than sitting around watching my cancer grow during that time, I went all out on the natural treatments and lifestyle changes - ketogenic diet, high dose IV vitamin C treatments 3x/week, numerous supplements that all have at least some science behind them suggesting a benefit - but my tumor was larger when it came out than at diagnosis. It wasn't by enough to know for sure that it continued to grow, since sizing in ultrasounds is not completely accurate, but the natural way certainly didn't shrink it. I had also been taking cancer-preventive supplements for over a decade before the diagnosis that didn't prevent it.
My goal was to slow it down and prevent it from spreading until we could get it out of there, and without any proof I have a good feeling that we probably accomplished that much. I plan to continue with complimentary treatments to help keep it from coming back. But after my personal experience I have no reason to believe any of those things could have conquered my cancer on their own.
I didn't need chemo or radiation, but because I do lean toward natural remedies over medical/pharmaceutical intervention in most instances, it was a real struggle for me to talk myself into even taking the tamoxifen. Then after a week of staring at the bottle of pills, I reminded myself of the above and the decision got easier. I'm not exactly thrilled about taking it, but I am at peace with my choice because I believe it gives me the best chance at a long life free of recurrence. I don't care how old I am. After reading about what some of the Stage IV ladies go through, I don't want that to be my life for even one day. I want to check out the way my grandmothers did - at a ripe old age, otherwise healthy and independent, and peacefully in my sleep. With no regrets.
BTW, not everyone feels "maimed" by a BMX. I personally feel relieved and don't miss my breasts one single bit. I'm not even sure I'll do reconstruction.
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Linda, I certainly believe in conventional treatment and don't believe you can cure cancer with diet alone.
However, there are two books which advocate healthy eating by choosing fresh fruit and vegetables plus other anticancer foods that are readily available. I believe the recommendations in these books are sound for everyone and I think your friend would find them interesting:
Anti cancer a new way of life by Dr David Servan-schreibner
Foods that Fight Cancer by Richard Beliveau and Denis Gingras
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Well I was diagnosed with DCIS stage 0 grade 3 ER-/PR- with comedonecrotic features in two sites on OCT 21. A month ago. My breast was trashed from the stereotactic biopsy done on OCT 16 and is still recovering. At some point, probably January, I will have a lumpectomy. Until then I am eating a raw diet twice per day, a vegetarian hot dinner, exercising daily and taking turmeric caps 2 gms per day, Vit C 6 grams per day, Vit D3 10000 iu per day, Co-Q-10 500 mg twice per day, Green Tea Extract twice per day and will then add some protocols to kill the cancer. I also have reduced the stress in my life and am meditating and/or praying a lot. I will keep you ladies informed of what happens. I read an article in CANCER (I am in medicine myself) that discusses the theory that "Surgery causes latent recurrence of breast cancer: An inconvenient truth?"....and it made me less enthusiastic about running out and getting a lumpectomy. The theory in that article was that DCIS is dormant, until awoke with surgery. Once active, it can invade and wreck havoc. I am hoping that all the stuff I am doing will drive it back to dormancy. Either way, I will probably still have a lumpectomy, unless the 3-D MRI shows complete regression....in which case, I will follow it. I am already 60 and just want 25 more years of life. And quality life as well. But I do have 4 kids and a husband and I want to be around for them. I am not so convinced that mainstream medicine really has a handle on what to do about DCIS, high grade or otherwise. Breast CA is a huge, billion dollar business and one that I am wary of. I want to make decisions based on reasoned, sound judgement, and not on fear. And right now, I am in the gearing up phase. I have decided I do not want either radiation or chem, though might be talked into rads intraoperatively as a one time deal. Thank you all for listening and for posting on this forum! For those of you seriously considering non-conventional treatment, have a look at DCIS411 and the FB group: Alternative DCIS.
Namaste.
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Here's the link to the article MountainMama mentions:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC383508...
Personnally, I am doing watchful waiting, and hesitating between mastectomy or lumpectomy + radiation (lobular, totally invisible on scans, even MRIs). I have read somewhere about the hypothesis that in some cases as long as the primary is still there, the secondaries are kept dormant, and they only wake up and start wrecking havoc once the primary has been removed. Will try to look it up and reference it. My big hope is that by the time I need to make a decision, there will be better systemic treatment options out there: I am really scared of undergoing extensive surgery, radiation, chemo, only to end up with drug-resistant recurrences, as a lady I knew did.
Besides diet, exercise etc., Servan Schreiber recommends manipulating your circadian rhythm and your melatonin levels: more sleep, avoiding jet lag, blue light in the evening etc. After a lot of hesitation, I forked out on a 'Lumie' (dawn simulator) which he warmly recommended: it has now totally replaced my 'alarm clock' (hifi, which would wake me up gently playing classical music) and I must say it is one of the best purchases I ever made. It is a much, much gentler way to wake up, especially in the winter when you have to be out of the door before dawn! I only wish I had been able to afford one of those when I was doing shift work. My gut feeling is that one of the reasons I got cancer is that I pushed myself too far (burnt the candle at both ends), not by partying etc. but by juggling f/t work (with a lot of overtime as I am 'the perfect worker'), studying p/t (again, being 'the perfect student'), going to the gym, cooking home made meals, and doing a lot of housework ('the perfect tenant'). Now I am trying to take things easy for a change... I have gone in 'burn out' mode before, and I am only glad I don't have a husband and kids to care for: God knows where my constant striving for perfection and craving for appreciation would have led me.
I would go easy on the green tea extracts: I think some of them may do damage to your liver, and you may need it later for chemo.
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Penzance, your LCIS, which is just a high-risk marker for possibly developing cancer in the future is not really relevant to the original post about invasive HER+ lobular cancer. Niether is the DCIS post. The woman referred to has an agressive invasive cancer and HER+ women had dismal survival rates before the introduction of herceptin as a therapy
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Hi Penzance, thank you for posting the link. Speaking of the original poster's question it was about cancer, not LCIS that is a precancerous condition that increases a person's risk of developing invasive breast cancer.
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Penzance, the hypothesis that secondary cancers remain dormant while the primary is still there does not seem logical. The fact that there are secondary cancers means they were not dormant. Also, many of the stage 4 ladies have not had surgery on the primary tumour but secondaries continue to spread, unfortunately.
I realise you said 'in some cases' but I don't think the statement has a lot of credibility. I am a layperson but that's my understanding.
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And regarding the same hypothesis in the case of DCIs, obviously this does not apply in all cases as some progress to invasive cancer. Sometimes, invasive cancer is even found at the time of surgery for DCIs.
I think many of us are familiar by now with the questioning about overtreatment of DCIs. There may be some truth in that in some cases and it is great that it is being looked into. However, as we all know, we don't yet understand which DCIs is likely to progress, or not.
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Sorry to go off topic. And LCIS is a different matter to DCIs.
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Well -- Thanks again to all -- Muska, I appreciate what you are saying about your advanced-age MIL who did nothing and suffered with bad mets.
To be fair, though, we don't what sort of cancer she had, how advanced it was (perhaps the mets were all there about to show up anyway, and if she had a lumpectomy, she still might have had all the rest anyway.
And my friend is not considering doing nothing. She has switched to a completely raw food diet (mostly juicing) no processed foods at all... something your MIL more than likely did not do. She has beefed up her exercise routine, and is making a real effort to get more sleep.
Our bodies are amazing. We heal ourselves all the time and just take it for granted -- but every time we get over a cold or scar over a cut, our bodies are doing exactly what they are programmed to do... and given pure organic (un-cooked) fuel -- I believe the body is given even more of a boost to do what it already does daily... heal itself.
Cancer is not some outside disease that we "catch". It is our own bodies -- creating cells that have mutated -- then those mutated cells over-multiply causing the tumors.
My own largest tumor was in the sentinel lymph node. Again -- my body was doing its job. That wonderful little lymph node screened out and isolated those cancer cells that were trying to spread through the lymph system. Cancer was only found in ONE (that first one) and no cancer was found in any of the other 12 nodes they removed (I sure wish they hadn't removed so many!)
So far, there is no evidence that my friend has any cancer in her nodes. She has been diagnosed with invasive lobular, one in each breast. We both think that leaving her body's own immune system (including lymph nodes) as intact and undamaged as possible is the best hope for her own body to do its job of healing itself.
Penzance - thanks so much for the sleep references... my friend has always been off kilter re sleep -- and is attempting to achieve more consistent sleep patterns -- maybe the lumie you mention would help. I know that when I used to work 18 hours a day (self-employed and "successful" for a while) my full-spectrum lights were SO helpful keeping my spirits and energy levels up...
Mountain Momma -- what you say about surgery stimulating the cancer... hate to hear that. Will have to read more (Penzance, thanks for the link)
You all are quite kind to share -- really appreciate any/all conversation here. One thing I have learned in the last 5 years is that the docs do NOT know the answers -- only what they are taught and their own best guesses -- based on what they have read in big studies... which are super-expensive to perform... and let's face it, if something as simple as carrot juice is our answer, no pharmaceutical company is going to pay for a study to find that out... in fact, I am cynical enough to think they might actually fork out money to squelch the proof.
The Big C has a very scary reputation. And, yes, I know it can "wreak havoc" -- but our bodies are NOT defenseless against this... our own immune systems do a great job every single day fighting cancer and infections and viruses... I may be naive, but it just seems common sense to believe that the fuel we feed our bodies can super-boost our own body's effectiveness against --yes -- even cancer.
Oh -- and just to keep it straight -- my friend is NOT Her+ ... just been diagnosed with invasive lobular tumors - one in each breast. Highly ER and PR positive. Low Ki67 - don't know the oncotype score yet... although we should. One of those things I hate about modern medicine... you have to go in for appt after appt because they get to bill the insurance company then -- causing the patient to drive across town and waste time, when a phone call could do!
Oh. Was that me ranting again? Ooops.
Anyway - thanks to all for your time, and hope to hear more - especially if someone feels their alternative therapies have actually stagnated/shrunk tumors.
Linda
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Linda, is your friend deciding independently or are you advising her?
With respect, I think she should also listen to her doctors and make fully informed decisions.
Best to your friend.
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Thank you Penzance for posting the article. I actually wrote to one of the authors and interestingly, at first he really went off on me about "where's your oncologist?" and "this particularly bad prognosis breast cancer" etc. Then when I wrote to him and told him what I am doing and what my plan was....ie....try to put off surgery as long as all is well and contained, he said my plan made a lot of sense. I will eventually probably get a lumpectomy. Started my turkey tail protocol TODAY. It is 2 grams 4 x per day! I am hoping that this boosts the immune system and allows it to kill the cancer cells. After Christmas, I will probably be ready for the 3-D MRI so stay tuned. Hopefully it will show that all is either gone, or at least no change. IF not...well we may be looking at plan B which would be more radical surgery.....Thank you to whomever suggested Castor Oil Packs! In 24 hours, my hematoma is much smaller! It really is a miracle drug as it is touted on the natural sites!
As the author said to me in his response: "One's own tolerance of risk must be part of the equation".
The frustrating thing for me, and why some day, God willing, I will write a book....is that so many of us are left to figure everything out on our own! I am so glad we have each other. There are some doctors who are very much in our court. Others are trying to be but only know what they were trained to do.....We (the medical profession) for the most part, really DO want to help. It is just that the particular field of Breast Cancer is a billion dollar business and so that, systematically, can lead to advice that may not be right in the long run....
Be well ladies and kind to yourselves.....
Much love,
MM
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Linda, I'll chime in though it's way too soon for me to claim success yet as I just passed my 2 year mark past dx and still have my tumor. I have ILC, which the mammogram and U/S did not pick up. They scheduled me for surgery and didn't seem to be in an all-fired hurry, which I am ever grateful for. Just before surgery I went to see a holistic MD to see if I could at least get out of chemo and rads and he said that if I were willing to postpone surgery he thought he might even be able to save me from that. I did postpone the surgery so I still have my boobs and it was scary but I just went with it and yes, it was a huge leap of faith but I don't regret it. I started with a ketogenic diet and lost 40 lbs and got on many supplements, including iodine, holy basil, curcumin, olive leaf extract, and Brevail. I cycle in and out of many others like Myomin and co-Q-10. My dr. found that I had an overload of mercury and lead in my body, which I found easy to believe b/c I had a mouth full of "silver" fillings and had played with a thermometer as a child, after which I became quite ill, but not in an obvious go-to-the-Dr. kind of way. I had all the symptoms of mercury toxicity. He did many things with me to strengthen my biome and I just kept getting more and more healthy. I bought a mini-trampoline and jump on that about 30 min/day to keep lymph fluids moving. I've done some juicing but I've found that I begin to gain weight when I do that.
This summer I did a 21 day fast and I think that really turned things around. I had uterine fibroids, caused by too much estrogen and with a highly ER/PR+ tumor that's not good. At 56 I still had not started perimenopause, but after the fast--BOOM! I haven't had a period since, though I was quite regular before. I bought a biomat during that time and I love it--I use it every day and I think my tumor is shrinking! I realize that the palpating with fingers method is highly suspect but it is truly shrinking slowly.
After all that. . . pshew! . . . what is really helping is getting control of my stress. The biomat helps considerably as it helps me to really slow down and take deep breaths. It's like an infrared sauna and gets up to 158 deg so I sweat and the negative ions make me feel really good. I do EFT when I need it and probably should do it more. I picked up a book called The Healing Code, and it looks like BS on the surface but my dr. ran some tests with it and recommends the book so I'm trying that next.
For your friend I would say that she needs to do what she feels in her heart. If she goes into conventional therapy fighting against it in her mind and feeling that it's not the best way for her to heal, it probably won't help her. The placebo effect is very powerful, more powerful than any drug, but there's a thing called the noceebo effect also--if you believe a treatment will hurt you, it probably will. For this reason I never tell someone with cancer that they should choose what I'm doing--the fact is that most people just don't think this way and can't quite relate and they would have no confidence in it. People need to be able to make their own decisions about their healthcare so they can heal without stress. It sounds like doing conventional would stress your friend out and thus impede her healing so I would encourage her to learn as much about holistic healing as she can--sounds like she is doing that and she's intuited what parts of her life were imbalanced. Yes I've had to work on the sleep issues also and losing the sugar was big.
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pipers_dream - if you haven't heard of it already, you might want to check into a supplement called Pectasol-C for the heavy metals. It flushes them from the body. It has been studied and is good for breast cancer in other ways as well.
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Thanks solfeo, I'll look into that.
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Linda - I'm not promoting BMX - I hate the idea. I was very happy when my second surgeon agreed to do another lumpectomy. If your friends doctors would agree to lumpectomies she should go with it. Only problem there is then needing radiation.
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seems this fora has been hijacked
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Hijacked -- ? I don't think so -- Maybe not every single post is a success story, but the conversation seems fine to me
I am an artist and have lots of orders for Christmas that I am working steadily on, so don't post a bunch, but everyone's contribution comes to me as an email, and I have been happily reading every single one as they come in.
I very much appreciate all the postings so far -- Piper's Dream -- MORE POWER TO YOU!
My friend has been reading it all -- and tried to post herself a couple of days ago but had problems getting signed in --
She is a discussion board newbie
I know she will try it again and succeed.
Racy -- you asked if I am "advising" my friend -- and no, I don't think so, because none of us (it seems to me) has any actual "truth" to share -- including the doctors! We all are just making our very best guesses about what is right (for us, individually) after doing the amount of research we each think is "enough". But, that said, she is my very best friend, and we speak honestly to each other... I just have been trying to temper my cynicism re the medical system, because whatever she decides to do I sure don't want to undermine her confidence in whatever her decision may be... and it still may be BMX.
She has appointments with a naturopath on Dec 1 and a plastic surgeon on Dec 2 -- (in case she does decide to do BMX). She is a very thorough person, and still in the information-gathering stages.
I found these boards to be a great resource when I was going through my own BMX, and STILL hope to get Shery here and posting for herself, as I think it is a wonderful place to be, especially in the wee hours, when you can't call someone on the phone about your recent fear or thought...
Thanks again to all -- please post especially if you believe the natural treatments you are using are helping shrink or stagnate tumors.
Linda
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Abigail, I don't see any signs of thread hijacking. Not one person came on here and shouted me down and I'm probably the most extreme one on this thread. I'd say that very few people are ready for 100% holistic but many are looking to incorporate some of these ideas into their healing journey. I belong to a meetup group in St. Louis that is dedicated to holistic healing for cancer and most of the people there have done some conventional, but the leader of the group has been 100% holistic, only having been dx'ed by conventional means, and she is 6 years out from dx and she's bursting with radiant energy and looks 20 years younger than her age. But like me, she still has the tumor and for those who want to do holistic only, it's a thing that you need to realize--that you may never get rid of the tumor. Our leader's doc told her that she'll probably die with the tumor but not of cancer, which is an important distinction but it's good to realize that the cancer can only kill you if it goes to mets. I'm telling you this b/c many people simply can't live with the idea that there is a tumor in their body and want it cut out asap but you'll find that if you delay surgery a little and stop the growth, your thinking may change. The way I looked at it is that I'd been living with it for several years so what's a few more, lol.
Another important thing to realize and I can't stress this enough--take control of stress! Sometimes you're stressed and don't even realize it. If you don't do this you will seriously impede your healing. One thing that I realized quickly is that I have a whole layer of stress in my life that will always be there and it's ADHD. The reason this is a problem is b/c those with ADHD are always struggling with issues in life that other people may take for granted, like being on time for appointments and paying bills on time, among other things. I struggle with the extreme amount of paperwork on my job as a special ed teacher and I also struggle with issues of feeling like I just can't quite keep up with life. I have a high IQ but I've never been able to do what other people can do and it's mightily frustrating and I've never felt like I could measure up to others. Then there were issues of growing up as an extremely emotional person in a very emotionally cold family and all that on top of current stresses made for a big muddy mess when I got my dx. I began to see a counselor early on after the dx and that has been a huge help but I more recently came to the conclusion that focusing on early childhood "traumas" was only making things worse. I'm still glad I went back and visited that but now it's time to move on. The best thing for me to realize is that my folks did the best they could with what they had and I did everything different with my kids and both of my girls agree that I did a good job raising them, so there is that lol. It's also good to realize that those early experiences have made me what I am so I am looking at them with a new eye of gratitude for the good things I had as well.
Also my doc places a lot of emphasis on how I feel. If I feel good I'm healing and if I don't feel good I'm not healing or I'm getting worse. At first I thought I'd need to go off my ADHD meds and asked my holistic MD about it and he asked if they make me feel better or worse and I said better. He told me to take them then. When I went off them I started falling further behind and it made me very depressed, so the best course is to take them.
Anyway, this is my personal journey and other's experiences may vary, which is why there's no one size fits all answer for all of this so I'd say the best thing is to follow this intuitively and know where your personal "hot spots" are. If you know you don't sleep enough, work on that. If you have a terrible sweet tooth, for God's sake stop eating that stuff! Read everything you can get your hands on and know that whatever holistic thing you do, the quality of your life will improve. I've even gotten to the point where I am grateful that this happened to me. Even if I die from this next year the journey has been worth it. Linda, you and your friend are welcome to PM me if you want to know more.
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- 455 Caring for Someone with Stage IV or Mets
- 260 High Risk of Recurrence or Second Breast Cancer
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- 152 May Their Memory Live On
- 85 Member Matchup & Virtual Support Meetups
- 375 Members by Location
- 291 Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 177 Singles With Breast Cancer
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- 50.4K Connecting With Others Who Have a Similar Diagnosis
- 204 Breast Cancer with Another Diagnosis or Comorbidity
- 4K DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma In Situ)
- 79 DCIS plus HER2-positive Microinvasion
- 529 Genetic Testing
- 2.2K HER2+ (Positive) Breast Cancer
- 1.5K IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)
- 3.4K IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)
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- 999 Just Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastasis
- 652 LCIS (Lobular Carcinoma In Situ)
- 193 Less Common Types of Breast Cancer
- 252 Male Breast Cancer
- 86 Mixed Type Breast Cancer
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- 189 Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care
- 488 Second or Third Breast Cancer
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- 13.1K Day-to-Day Matters
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- 86 Coping with Holidays, Special Days and Anniversaries
- 828 Employment, Insurance, and Other Financial Issues
- 101 Family and Family Planning Matters
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- 26 Furry friends
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- 706 Recipe Swap for Healthy Living
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- 171 Sex & Relationship Matters
- 9 The Political Corner
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- 806 Prayers and Spiritual Support
- 285 Who or What Inspires You?
- 28.7K Not Diagnosed But Concerned
- 1K Benign Breast Conditions
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- 586 Alternative Medicine
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- 50 Immunotherapy - Before, During, and After
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