Recently Diagnosed DCIS A a Few Questions - Dallas TX

Hello all. I am in Dallas TX and just found this site and have a few questions before consult with first surgeon tomorrow morning.

Had my annual mammogram about a month ago and it showed calcifications in left breast that were not there the prior year. Was told by imaging facility that I needed a biopsy.

I had a stereotactic biopsy about 10 days ago and was told I have stage 0 DCIS but high grade.

I am 62 but when I was 19, 20 & 42 I had 3 benign fibroid adenomas removed via surgery (I guess lumpectomy) so have been having mammograms and annual checks for 40 years but the doctors are no longer around.

First question: has someone posted a comprehensive list of what questions to ask on your first appointment? I am overwhelmed and trying to make a list but afraid I will forget something. Want to cover it all while I can. Also can you ask doctor if you can record?

Second question: are members allowed to post names of doctors and oncologists in this forum by name as I plan to get 2 or even 3 opinions before I make any final decisions.

In particular are there doctors in Dallas who specialize in DCIS and lumpectomy surgery which is what I am hoping I will be able to do.

The Doctors/facilities that are loved or aren't. Environment matters to me. I need clean and bright and light. Brilliant but caring and innovative.

Third question: if I have to do radiation, does anyone in Dallas do the shorter or pellet treatment if you qualify?

Fourth question: I found that you can get 2nd opinions from Dana Farber, Duke, Johns Hopkins, etc remotely - anyone do that and feel there was value.

Fifth question: what if any complimentary alternative treatments has anyone used that they have found effective?

Sixth question: has anyone who had stereotactic biopsy had any odd sensation in that breast that lingers? Hard to describe.

Seventh question: what is the timeline for DCIS in terms of how quickly you need to take action? Since it's already mid-November I would like to wait until January to do anything. Get through a normal holiday season, let my staff take their vacation time, be sure of getting the A team at hospital, etc.

I am married, no children, 2 dogs including a 5 month old puppy, executive with a high pressure career that I love, remote caregiver of 86 year old mom, Jewish, only BC I can track going back to great grandparents, their children, grandchildren and great grandchildren is one aunt (fathers sister) who had mastectomy in 1980 when she was in early 60's but her daughter said she never had any follow-up treatment or chemo or meds and lived another 25 years and died of heart issues.

Lots of longevity in my family except my father who died at 57 from embolism and only other cancer was maternal grandmother who died of multiple myeloma at 86.

I am definitely overweight and sedentary so consider those risk factors for me. I never took HRT and went through menopause 10+ years ago.

I have fibromyalgia (managed well these days with only occasional flares), high blood pressure (meds), cholesterol managed by meds, cervical spinal stenosis found via MRI but no day to day issues, hypothyroid managed by meds but otherwise healthy besides requisite aches and pains.

I eat healthy, rarely drink, have lymphatic/therapeutic massage monthly, don't get enough sleep, am Type A control freak with a touch of OCD but very active and involved professionally and socially. Determined to stay positive and get through this and move forward.

I knew day of mammogram something was wrong when they had me go back 3 times for additional films so have made my crazy since then. Researched like mad first week but them stopped because it's almost too much. Now realizing I have to be at surgeon at 8 tomorrow and I feel ill prepared.

Also I am still having a hard time saying the words "cancer" and "malignant". My internist said you have "pre-cancer" but doesn't everyone? How did everyone get past this?

Thanks in advance. This is an amazing website and group of forums and members.