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Stepmish
Stepmish Member Posts: 7
edited November 2015 in IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)

Is this typical. I am having surgery on Tuesday. I am having a BMX with reconstruction and I am not nervous at all. I feel like my semi normal life before DX. You think I am in for a rude awaking after surgery. Am I the only one who has felt this way. Someone said to me yesterday you are so calm. But I have been like this through the whole process. I have had my days where I cry but for the most part I have been really fine.

Michelle

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2015

    Hi Stepmish, sorry you had to join this group but happy you found us for the support you will get on this journey.

    There is no "typical" with BC. We all find what works for us. Some of our emotions may mirror other people while other of our emotions will be highly individualized. I am much like you in that I don't allow stress to gain a foothold. That is a blessing as it will probably help during your recovery. When you feel like crying, go ahead. Ranting - okay. But if you just feel calm, embrace it and live your life to the fullest.

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  • etnasgrl
    etnasgrl Member Posts: 650
    edited November 2015

    Everyone processes breast cancer and it's treatments so differently.
    I'm a worrier by nature, always have been, which is terrible! (I know worrying doesn't help and changes nothing!) But, because I know that I tend to get myself overwhelmed and stressed by worrying, I found that doing as much research as possible, so I have as much info as possible, helps to keep me grounded. Planning helps me tremendously! (Granted, life seldom goes as planned, but I do the best I can! LOL!)


    It's only been a little over a week since my diagnosis, but I've spent A LOT of time in constant prayer, a lot of time here, talking with other ladies in my situation, and a lot of time gathering as much info as I can. The result? I have been MUCH more calm.
    Calm is good. When my mind is calm, I make better decisions, I can process info better, and I can be more positive.
    I'm quickly learning that in this journey, there is NO right or wrong. How you respond, how you process, and how you deal with all of this is personal. If it's right for YOU, that is what matters!

    (((Hugs)))) and prayers to you! (I'll be praying for you on Tuesday, that your BMX goes perfectly!)

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  • dtad
    dtad Member Posts: 2,323
    edited November 2015

    I was actually like that too. Im a total basket case when it comes to anything about my kids my tend to under react about myself. I like you had a few good cries but that was it. Surgery was no picnic but definitely doable. Good luck and keep us posted....

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2015

    Michelle, I was just like you before surgery, very calm and going with the flow. It felt like I was in another person's life and all these things weren't actually happening to me. You won't feel the reality of it until you get to the pre-op room. The last thing I remember was the nurse telling me "We're going to take good care of you." And they did. I woke up a couple hours later asking for my family. The first day is tough, I won't lie to you. But it gets better day by day. Just over a week out, I'm back to doing my normal things around the house. I'll be praying for your quick recovery. Best of luck!

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  • SummerAngel
    SummerAngel Member Posts: 1,006
    edited November 2015

    I'm like dtad - if it's concerning my kids, I take things hard and tend to overreact. If it's me, no big deal. I was a bit angry when I was first diagnosed because I've lived a very healthy lifestyle and had figured it couldn't happen to me, but once I got over that, no problem. I've never even cried about it.

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  • dtad
    dtad Member Posts: 2,323
    edited November 2015

    SummerAngel thats so funny how much we are alike. I know moms who are just the opposite and I don't get that! The worst part of the whole process was telling my kids. Im so thankful they were adults at the time....

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