The Hermit Club

Lily, this is the picture I posted on Facebook, publicly, in honor of no bra day. Got some very interesting comments.

Nasty, isn't it? I don't need any more breast cancer awareness, thank you.

P.S. If this is too awful, I will take it down.

Mags - thank you - do you mind if I post it on my Facebook page please? People really need to know the reality, makes me sooo mad.......you are VERY brave posting this..........I am waging a campaign every time I see the prettified versión of BC

I ended up hitting a bottle of red wine last night as was so down, tearful all day............

I wonder where the whole October is breast cancer awareness month came from? Was that from the Susan G. Koman foundation? I never heard of it until around the early 1990s and remember being on a business trip and spent the weekend visiting friends in TX and someone started hounding me to do the Koman walk with them.

Loosing a breast (or both) is far more difficult than anyone can ever imagine. I cannot imagine someone saying "go for it" like you are doing something cool like taking a once in a lifetime trip, buying your dream car, etc. That is when you say go for it. That should go on the stupid comments thread!

Hugs to the sisters here having a tough time through this month.

Mags- the nobra thing this year so one of the worst things I have seen around pinktober. People who try to profit off this disease with their marketing ploys or even worse, by sexualizing a disease by suggesting women go braless piss me off to no end.

May the rest of October go quickly for us all.

You are one brave woman Mags------

I am just feeling overwhelmed with how much I have lost in last few years, since cáncer arrived in my life...........including my home and relationship, financial security, a job, and body confidence..........teres lots more but i posted on another thread about it all so dont want to repeat this post........I feel like I have failed as a person with cáncer as I am not forging on, being "fine" as so many "survivors" are......I even hate the Word survivors, nearly all the language of cáncer separates us off from the world and from other illnesses............

I have never been one to let society or anyone else define me by putting me in a category or "bucket" they are comfortable with. To me, calling someone a "cancer survivor" is another bucket that has been created, to put us separate from others, as Lilly has said. I have had enough bad things happen for me in this lifetime to know labels come quickly by others based on how they perceive you have dealt with things in life (or perhaps not, in their opinion). I have yet to hear anyone I know that has had or is living with cancer describe themselves as a survivor either.

I just wanted to say I think all the sisters here, including those who are newly diagnosed, those struggling through treatment, living with cancer, or side effects, or holding their breath through every follow up, test, scan, are my every day heros. Each and every one of you is brave and strong, even if you don't think you are. We all know the reality of this disease that we go through, and what we live with.

Please don't let other people define how you feel about yourselves with their labels and buckets. This is not about them, it never was.

I agree!

Jazzy, yes, Facebook.

KbellaK, welcome to the thread.

dwill, planning retirement?

hey gals. I'm back at last.

Been down with a bad cold the last couple of weeks.

getting better still not totally well

Good morning Teka- glad you to hear you are doing your civic duty!

Jazzy, glad that you and friend had an enjoyable trip.

Love the photos!

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Our view from the kitchen.

The oak leaves still hanging on!!