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Gabby56b
Gabby56b Member Posts: 82
edited October 2015 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

I was diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer, have had lumpectomy followed by re-excision surgery. Will have a mastectomy on Oct 13. my mother is in hospice. I just got back from seeing her, she has a lot of heart issues and her legs are full of very painful sores becoming necrotic. I have a lot of care for her while I am having my surgery

. I am scared she is going to need me while I am in the hospital. I am always her rock, she doesn't recognize others. I am trying so hard to handle all if this, but I feel like it is just all too much. I am scared ..and I can't even focus on what I am scared of.

thanks for listening....tomorrow will be better.

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  • Westphal107
    Westphal107 Member Posts: 15
    edited October 2015

    gabby56b,

    I'm sorry you're feeling sad and overwhelmed. I will pray that your mom's hospice caregivers can give you added support so that you can focus on your healing.

    There are so many details of the crazy breast cancer journey that can suddenly become emotional and overwhelming for us. I can understand your feelings and can only suggest that you try to take it one day (one hour, or one minute) at a time. Breathe and trust that it's going to work out ok. Prayers and hugs for you today.
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  • KbellaK
    KbellaK Member Posts: 15
    edited October 2015

    Hi Gabby,

    I wish I had some words of wisdom for you. I am feeling overwhelmed too, but for different reasons. This disease and going through treatment just throws you for a loop. Focus on what you need to do to get better so then you can be there for your mom. Hugs!

    Dx 10/14/14, Invasive Ductal carcinoma, right, 1.2 cm, stage 1, ER+/PR+

    Surgery 1/15/15, bi-lateral mastectomy with tissue expanders

    Surgery 6/10/15, implant surgery with silicone implants.

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  • Gabby56b
    Gabby56b Member Posts: 82
    edited October 2015

    Mom is in the process of actively dying. My brothers are here and we are helping each other through all that we are facing. Family....always...

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  • catlady44
    catlady44 Member Posts: 159
    edited October 2015

    I feel your pain, although it wasn't my parent! I just went through the death of a uncle I was very close to. I was getting radiation when he was diagnosed with lung/liver cancer and he died 2 weeks later. We knew he was dying for about a week and waiting around was just torture. He also didn't recognize me towards the end and was hallucinating. Dying of liver cancer is extremely brutal. It's excruciating to watch. I am SO sorry you're dealing with this! And surgery on top of it - that's just mean of cancer. Family is so important during this and I'm so glad your fam is with you. I agree to just take it a day at a time, and sometimes you just have to take it an hour at a time. Let me know how it's going if you don't mind.

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  • NineTwelve
    NineTwelve Member Posts: 569
    edited October 2015

    Gaby, you have my sympathy, and I'm also in the same boat. One year into my cancer trip, I am finding out that my parents can't manage on their own anymore. I have a disabled sister, as well. My (healthy) brother and I are trying to line up people we can talk to. I lay awake at night dreading the thought of having to go through all their possessions and the arguments about what can be thrown away and what can't. I told myself not to borrow worries from the future, not to take regret from the past. One thing at a time, and yes, one breath at a time.

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