My partner

Hugs Julie. I am sorry you are going through this nightmare all over again. No one deserves to have to live it or have a loved one go through it.

All I can say is use everything you learned with your mom to help your partner. It is tough to know what to say or do at the best of times but this makes it much worse. My mom has BC and as much as I try to do and say the right thing, sometimes it isn't. It is a learning curve.

I hope you are doing okay Julie and your partner as well. Please check in when you can.

I too am the partner of a Metastatic patient. My partner (together 30 years, married 2) was diagnosed in October. She is is the second round of chemo with Abraxane. Julie-MN, I hear you: mad, scared, overwhelmed. We are having a particularly difficult time because she is so weak. I can't believe the people on here talking about travel, work, exercise, etc. My wife can barely get up from a chair without help. She eats next to nothing. She doesn't have the energy to read a book! I don't see how she's going to get through the next week, much less the 6 months of treatment. I am in despair as nothing seems to help. I'm afraid I'm going to lose her sooner rather than later, and there doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it.

Hi Julie, I was in your shoes a year ago, when my Partner was diagnosed. I lost my sister in law to breast cancer, in 2009. I was one of her caregivers and similar to you, have seen the worst of breast cancer. When my partner's care team suggested that she might be stage IV (it wasn't), I fainted. Some pillar of support, I was! It just all came back like a nightmare. Her oncologist told me that there have been so many more advancements even just in the past 5-6 years. We have to hang onto that and have faith.

To say that the past year has been challenging, would be an understatement. My partner had two rounds of chemo, mastectomy and radiation. That doesn't even cover all of the physical and emotional challenges. It's a long road but, you can get through it together. Even if there are times when you both just want to runaway!

You will look at your relationship with a new perspective. You'll learn to no longer sweat the small stuff. It's all so inconsequential when you're going through something like this.Be kind to one another. It's ok for you to ask her for comfort, too. Take care of yourself and remember that you are going through this too, albeit differently than she.

Thanks for sharing your story. I hope that you're getting better, and I'll make sure to pray for you.