What should i do for my mom

Rency
Rency Member Posts: 1
edited September 2015 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

hi all,


I am new here.. All stories i post here are my mom's and mine. My mom was diagnosed with cancer in december 2010. At first she was diagnosed has breast cancer at stage 1b. Then, she had surgery in january 2011. After surgery done, she got tamoxifen for about 6-8 months. But then, her cancer was growing to liver. We see medical onchology and made the liver biopsy too. At first she had almost 4cm x 2,5cm x 1cm nodul in her liver. After having 6 times chemo with taxol, the nodul remained staqnan. Then, chemo was stopped and onc gave my mom aromasin. She has been taking aromasin since 2012. Last pet scan she did on october 2014.

The result was really good. The nodule is getting smaller to 1.2 cm x 1.1 x 0.95. But last monday she got her petscan and the result says her nodule in liver is getting bigger to 1.73. X 2.08 x 2.34.

Also the pet says that my mom has something suspicious in her lymph nodes arround right lungs and neck.

I feel that sky will fall.

I just don't get why cancer grows so fast. I never asked to med onc about my mom's actual stage. For some article i read, it says that my mom should be in last stage. I don't want to believe it. But maybe it's right..


So, what should i do? I feel so stressed out and tired. I am the only one who always take care of her because we are small family. I don't mind to take care of her forever, but sometimes i get so tired. My health is not good also. I was diagnosed with herniated disc and now finding so hard to move, walk, sit, etc. please tell me what should i do?


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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited March 2015

    Rency, we are so sorry to hear about what you and your mom have been going through.

    Per definition if the breast cancer has spread to another part of the body it is metastatic. But there are many, many things that can be done to treat her cancer. As hard as it may be to read about it, you may find some helpful information in this section of our site: Recurrent or metastatic breast cancer.

    Also, once you hear about what is going on further, let the members know, and get some advice. As for your back, we hope that they can help you with that! It is terrible to live with that kind of pain, and limitations. It makes everything else much worse when you, the caregiver, aren't well! We are thinking of you!

    Warmly,

    The Mods

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  • tasha30815
    tasha30815 Member Posts: 13
    edited March 2015

    Rency,

    This is a very difficult journey for our mothers.  Do you know what type of cancer your mom has? 

     

     

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  • TerrifiedDaughter
    TerrifiedDaughter Member Posts: 30
    edited September 2015

    I'm in the same boat. My mom was just diagnosed on the 23rd and I am at a loss for words. I am an only child and my mom is my best friend. I am still in denial... This website has been wonderful. And the discussion boards are so uplifting. I wish you family the best.

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  • MelanieBC
    MelanieBC Member Posts: 74
    edited September 2015

    Terrified daughter, it is very scary. My mom was diagnosed on August 27 (one month today) and since then has had so many tests, scans, a mastectomy and now waiting for chemo. It is a lot to take in and I find that it takes over your life especially at the beginning.

    For us, I think we have reached our new normal now and this is just life and we are dealing with it and helping her.

    If you ever want to chat, pm me and we can chat some more. Like you, my mom is my best friend so this is very difficult. It will get better though.

    Mel

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  • TerrifiedDaughter
    TerrifiedDaughter Member Posts: 30
    edited September 2015

    MelanieBC

    Thank you! And I will be sure to send you an email later on tonight! I love all the support on here and this first month sucks.

    We are on our way home from the PET scan appointment and back on Thursday for more meetings.

    Hope all is well with your mom!

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  • Littleali21
    Littleali21 Member Posts: 4
    edited September 2015


    Thinking of all you ladies. My mum was diagnosed on 10th September, so I am still in the early stages of trying to come to terms with this.

    TerrifiedDaughter - I am in the exact same boat as you. I am an only child too. It's heartbreaking, and you feel alone. But I am here for you xxx Feel free to PM me or email littleali21@hotmail.com

    Sending you all love and hugs xxx

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  • MelanieBC
    MelanieBC Member Posts: 74
    edited September 2015

    How is it going TerrifiedDaughter?

    My mom had her consultation today with the radiation oncologist. She won't do it until after the chemo but they have to start somewhere. She will meet with the medical oncologist next week. I don't know about you guys but I feel information overload sometimes. For me, knowing more helps me but sometimes you just want a break!

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