Getting Nervous
6 months ago I went for my first mammogram. The results showed an asymmetry with parenchymal density, birads 3, short follow up suggested. I was sent to a breast surgeon, who said she could feel the area the described on the mammo and to come back in 6 months for another mammo and an us, but call her sooner if any changes. When I developed a slight indent in my breast, I was scheduled for a mammo, ultrasound and possible breast biopsy. The clinic called where I will be having my biopsy done and said that with the new dimple I will definitely be having the biopsy. I go in this Thursday.
Even though I am sure I am fine, the "what if's" have started creeping into my mind. What if it is? What do I do? How do I tell my kids and my husband. I am also a person who needs facts and statistics. Can anyone tell me what your story was like, no matter if it was bc or benign? I just can't wrap my head around the fact that this is going on and I am only 35.
Thank You
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Tannor, hello and big hugs to you! You say that you like facts and statistics. Once you have your new mamo and ultrasound, you will be given a Birads Score and with those scores come the likelihood that there is cancer. So without knowing your score, it is hard to give you comfort at this point. I will say this......when I had my biopsy, my chances of it being BC were 25% and I clung to that while I was waiting because it helped a lot. I also kept busy, cleaning out closets and doing chores that I was putting off. It kept my mind busy and made me tired so I could sleep. And when I found out it was cancer, I figured out what to do and how to tell my loved ones and I am OK now. It wasn't easy, but I did what I had to do. There is no magic way to get through the waiting, it really is an awful time.
Love and Hugs, MsP -
MsPharoah,
Thank You so much for your response. I didn't realize I would get a new birads score, so that helps me so much. I will definitely be asking the radiologist and nurse practitioner while all of this is going on! Like you, I have been clinging to the statistics. It really does give something to hold on to. My husband told me the other night he didn't think I was taking this seriously because all I tell him is "statistically I am good." I had to explain the very reason you just put so eloquently, I had a really hard time putting it into words why I would say that. On something like this my communication skill are extremely lacking
I was doing ok leading up to this, but on Monday those stupid "what if's" started creeping in. Also I love that the np who will be assisting the radiologist called to let me know what to expect, but when they heard about the indent/dimple she called me the next day and said to plan on the biopsy. That the radiologist didn't like the change. I had also been clinging to the fact that before they said it might be cancelled and when they called the next day and said "no we are doing this" it shocked me. I decided that leading up to all of this it was the best time to paint the whole interior of the house. 3 days in and I am still not done
The things we do to keep our minds busy, but it looks amazing!
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Hello Tannor. This is also my first time posting on here. I am thinking of you and wishing you the best results. I know it can be stressful. I had a lumpectomy/ excisional biopsy yesterday. I had birads 4a that switched to birads 4b. I am also your age (33) and have little ones at home. I'm trying not to stress because I am healthy and have dense breast tissue and have had fibroadenomas in the past. I feel the statistics are on our side. I will bepraying for some B9 results for you. I should get mine back tomorrow or Friday.
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