Stupid comments ....

I overstepped a little ( better to than not). You let me know. You educated me. Now I know. We move on. Still friends. That's how you get through this. That's how we get through this. ALL HUGS ♡.♡

I don't really care at least now that I don't have boobs. All I care is to get trough the treatment and survive and live as long as possible.

Ruska, I am so sorry about your "friend". That was so hurtful for her to say that. Of course, you worry about your daughter and want to be here for her. She should understand that!! You are smart to not call her anymore. You do not need that type of person in your life.  As for your co-worker,,, You could report him, but I can understand if you dont,,, cuz it will take a lot of energy to deal with the situation, and you need to keep your energy for treatment and for your daughter.  And I LOVED what you told that neighbor,,, being tired in all in her mind,,, LOL!!!

As a lesbian I can say that I miss my breasts as much as anyone does.

That was a really stupid remark.

JJ

Thanks for chiming in lol, I know that one has nothing to do with the other. She also told me that I was lucky that my husband hadn't left me...and launches into a long story about a woman she knew with breast cancer who's husband left her because he didn't want a woman with no boobs. I told her that maybe she just had a crappy husband because I've read countless posts where women have said that their husbands cared more about them staying alive than about how many boobs they had. My husband told me to stop talking to her. I did cringe at telling her about this at all because she's never had a filter and I knew she'd have something callous, negative or misinformed to say but I told her anyway because she's almost 50 and has never had a mammogram (she has breast implants and thinks a mammo will make them burst so I told her to request an ultrasound instead) and may be at risk too. Even with that, she said that she's not at risk because cancer doesn't run in either side of our family and I'm just the oddball. I told her that not everyone with cancer has a family history...blah blah blah and the debate went on and on.

My husband and I haven't told anyone in his family about this because they're all very religious and believe that every illness/condition/disease is God's way of punishing people for being weak of faith and/or not going to church. When he was diagnosed with a serious condition 5 years ago, his parents told him it wouldn't have happened had he gone to church regularly (as if churchgoers don't have medical conditions). We wanted to avoid the victim blaming drizzled with schadenfreude this time.

So we're dealing with this with zero family support.

Raider........and the idiot was?

I got 'well the stats are 1 in 6 get it ,you got it so the rest of us are safe!!!! My lovely in laws.one then actually have cancer or is it just spots!!

My favourite one still is you look great bet your glad that s over and your back to normal my normal now if constant pain I feet back my head hurts it's filled with worry.i take so many mess that I ache in my feet my back my legs and arms hurt all Dow to medsSo my ask is when who say someone looks good ask how are they feeling telly feeing I can gaurentee the answer will be enlightening

So frustrating.i may look good but if better at hidingall the pain

Sorry for rant took sleeping tab am a bit zonked!!!!!!!!!

Raider Girl I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself (due to severe skull pain) and decided to log on to take my mind off it. After reading your post I burst out laughing! Thank you - you made my day! As LAStar said I wish I had the talent for saying just the right thing at just the right time! Clearly you do!

SusanAnn

RaiderGirl, You must have started this thread because you are around a lot of stupid people. This last request for the moisture content of your hoo haw is unbelievable! I guess nothing is private..... #check out my hoo haw.

MsP

Happy to be useful. It was my wife's idea. She's quicker with the comeback than I am.

MsP Love the bumper sticker.

About the atrophy..How about "He prefers BJs anyway".😈

I have been reading through this thread, which has been good for some laughs! I must say, though, I'm probably the most guilty party when it comes to saying inappropriate things and making dumb jokes about my cancer (which I'm entitled to, I suppose). My weird sense of humor is part of who I am. It runs in the family, and based on the kind of relationship we have, I'd probably be more offended if my brother didn't make Uncle Fester jokes if/when he sees me without hair after chemo.

That said, I haven't told very many people. My husband and son, my mom, my sister, my aunt who is a BC survivor, and 2 friends. The reason I haven't shared with more people is because the way my sister reacted was such a bummer I don't want to risk letting anyone else bring me down that much again. When I told her on the phone I laughed when I said the surgeon sounded like he felt worse telling me than I felt hearing the news. She literally yelled at me, "Why are you laughing?! This is not funny!" So unexpected and completely demoralizing that it was the first thing to break my formerly 100% positive attitude. I had to ask for anti-anxiety meds after that. I'm not allowed to laugh just because something bad is happening? "Well I'm not laughing," she said. "I don't need this after all I have been through." SHE didn't need this? Well excuse the bleep out of me.

I have no family where I live, so I can get away with not telling anyone else until I've come through the other side. As far as anyone local I guess they will figure it out if I lose my hair. Working on my snappy come backs now!

Thanks sas-schatzi. The first link has had me reading and chuckling for almost an hour straight. A nice diversion, and it will take awhile to get through the whole thing.

I remembered one told to me by one of my brothers when he had testicular cancer as a young man (30 years ago and doing fine since initial treatment). He was really attached to his hair and didn't want to shave it so he walked around for quite awhile with it in the falling out stage. Some strange guy out in public asked him what was up with his hair, and when he answered honestly, but without any elaboration, that he had cancer, the guy comes back with, "What, do you want me to feel sorry for you?" Well you asked, buddy!

People are so strange.