Mastectomy (mx) vs Bilateral Mastectomy (bmx)

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FemaleAthlete
FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
edited September 2015 in IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)

What are people's thoughts on this?

My genetic testing results came back clean. Only bc is my Aunt on my mother's side. Colon cancer is moderate risk but the doctor says it is nothing to worry about. I have Stage2 grade3 located at one o'clock on the left breast 1cm in size

So. .why did you choose one over the other?

Would you change anything of you could?

Within the next week I need to make decision and right now am trying to gather information to help me make an informed decision.

thanks

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  • MelissaDallas
    MelissaDallas Member Posts: 7,268
    edited June 2015

    I am copying over a post put together by beesie, on of the resident experts on the boards. It gives a good, non-partial list of things to consider as you make your decisions:

    "Some time ago I put together a list of considerations for someone who was making the surgical choice between a lumpectomy, mastectomy and bilateral mastectomy. I've posted this many times now and have continued to refine it and add to it, thanks to great input from many others. Some women have gone through the list and decided to have a lumpectomy, others have chosen a single mastectomy and others have opted for a bilateral mastectomy. So the purpose is simply to help women figure out what's right for them - both in the short term but more importantly, over the long term.

    Before getting to that list, here is some research that compares long-term recurrence and survival results. I'm including this because sometimes women choose to have a MX because they believe that it's a more aggressive approach. If that's a big part of someone's rationale for having an MX or BMX, it's important to look at the research to see if it's really true. What the research has consistently shown is that long-term survival is the same regardless of the type of surgery one has. This is largely because it's not the breast cancer in the breast that affects survival, but it's the breast cancer that's left the breast that is the concern. The risk is that some BC might have moved beyond the breast prior to surgery. So the type of surgery one has, whether it's a lumpectomy or a MX or a BMX, doesn't affect survival rates. Here are a few studies that compare the different surgical approaches:

    Lumpectomy May Have Better Survival Than Mastectomy

    Twenty-Year Follow-up of a Randomized Trial Comparing Total Mastectomy, Lumpectomy, and Lumpectomy plus Irradiation for the Treatment of Invasive Breast Cancer

    Twenty-Year Follow-up of a Randomized Study Comparing Breast-Conserving Surgery with Radical Mastectomy for Early Breast Cancer

    Now, on to my list of the considerations:

    • Do you want to avoid radiation? If your cancer isn't near the chest wall and if your nodes are clear, then it may be possible to avoid radiation if you have a mastectomy. This is a big selling point for many women who choose to have mastectomies. However you should be aware that there is no guarantee that radiation may not be necessary even if you have a mastectomy, if some cancer cells are found near the chest wall, or if the area of invasive cancer is very large and/or if it turns out that you are node positive (particularly several nodes).
    • Do you want to avoid hormone therapy (Tamoxifen or an AI) or Herceptin or chemo? It is very important to understand that if it's believed necessary or beneficial for you to have chemo or take hormone therapy, it won't make any difference if you have a lumpectomy or a mastectomy or a bilateral mastectomy. (Note that the exception is women with DCIS or possibly very early Stage I invasive cancer, who may be able to avoid Tamoxifen by having a mastectomy or a BMX.)
    • Does the length of the surgery and the length of the recovery period matter to you? For most women, a lumpectomy is a relatively easy surgery and recovery. After a lumpectomy, radiation usually is given for 6 weeks. A mastectomy is a longer, more complex surgery and the recovery period is longer.
    • How will you deal with the side effects from Rads? For most patients the side effects of rads are not as difficult as they expected, but most women do experience some side effects. You should be prepared for some temporary discomfort, fatigue and skin irritation, particularly towards the end of your rads cycle. Most side effects go away a few weeks after treatment ends but if you have other health problems, particularly heart or lung problems, you may be at risk for more serious side effects. This can be an important consideration and should be discussed with your doctor.
    • Do you plan to have reconstruction if you have a MX or BMX? If so, be aware that reconstruction, even "immediate" reconstruction, is usually a long process - many months - and most often requires more than one surgery. Some women have little discomfort during the reconstruction process but other women find the process to be very difficult - there is no way to know until you are going through it.
    • If you have a MX or BMX, how will you deal with possible complications with reconstruction? Some lucky women breeze through reconstruction but unfortunately, many have complications. These may be short-term and/or fixable or they may be long-term and difficult to fix. Common problems include ripples and indentations and unevenness. You may have lingering side effects (muscle pain, spasms, itching, etc.) on one side or both (if you have a BMX). If you don't end up with symmetry (symmetry is not a sure thing by any means, even if you have a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction done on both sides at the same time), will you regret the decision to remove your breasts or your healthy breast? Are you prepared for the possibility of revision surgery?
    • How you do feel about your body image and how will this be affected by a mastectomy or BMX? A reconstructed breast is not the same as a real breast. Some women love their reconstructed breasts while some women hate them. Most probably fall in-between. Reconstructed breasts usually looks fine in clothing but may not appear natural when naked. They may not feel natural or move naturally, particularly if you have implant reconstruction. If you do choose to have a MX or BMX, one option that will help you get a more natural appearance is a nipple sparing mastectomy (NSM). Not all breast surgeons are trained to do NSMs so your surgeon might not present this option to you. Ask your surgeon about it if you are interested and if he/she doesn't do nipple sparing mastectomies, it may be worth the effort to find a surgeon who does do NSMs in order to see if this option is available for you (your area of cancer can't be right up near the nipple).
    • If you have a MX or BMX, how do you feel about losing the natural feeling in your breast(s) and your nipple(s)? Are your nipples important to you sexually? A MX or BMX will change your body for the rest of your life and you have to be prepared for that. Keep in mind as well that even if you have a nipple sparing mastectomy, except in rare cases (and except with a new untested reconstruction procedure) the most feeling that can be retained in your nipples is about 20% - the nerves that affect 80% of nipple sensation are by necessity cut during the surgery and cannot be reconnected. Any breast/nipple feeling you regain will be surface feeling only (or phantom sensations, which are actually quite common and feel very real); there will be no feeling inside your breast, instead your breast will feel numb. For some, loss of breast/nipple sensation is a small price to pay; for others, it has a huge impact on their lives.
    • If you have a MX or BMX, how will you deal emotionally with the loss of your breast(s)? Some women are glad that their breast(s) is gone because it was the source of the cancer, but others become angry that cancer forced them to lose their breast(s). How do you think you will feel? Don't just consider how you feel now, as you are facing the breast cancer diagnosis, but try to think about how you will feel in a year and in a few years, once this diagnosis, and the fear, is well behind you.
    • If you have a lumpectomy, how will you deal emotionally with your 6 month or annual mammos and/or MRIs? For the first year or two after diagnosis, most women get very stressed when they have to go for their screenings. The good news is that usually this fear fades over time. However some women choose to have a BMX in order to avoid the anxiety of these checks.
    • Will removal of your breast(s) help you move on from having had cancer or will it hamper your ability to move on? Will you feel that the cancer is gone because your breast(s) is gone? Or will the loss of your breast(s) be a constant reminder that you had breast cancer?
    • Appearance issues aside, before making this decision you should find out what your doctors estimate your recurrence risk will be if you have a lumpectomy and radiation. Is this risk level one that you can live with or one that scares you? Will you live in constant fear or will you be comfortable that you've reduced your risk sufficiently and not worry except when you have your 6 month or annual screenings? If you'll always worry, then having a mastectomy might be a better option; many women get peace of mind by having a mastectomy. But keep in mind that over time the fear will fade, and that a MX or BMX does not mean that you no longer need checks - although the risk is low, you can still be diagnosed with BC or a recurrence even after a MX or BMX. Be aware too that while a mastectomy may significantly reduce your local (in the breast area) recurrence risk, it has no impact whatsoever on your risk of distant recurrence (i.e. mets).
    • Do you know your risk to get BC in your other (the non-cancer) breast? Is this a risk level that scares you? Or is this a risk level that you can live with? Keep in mind that breast cancer very rarely recurs in the contralateral breast so your current diagnosis doesn't impact your other breast. However, anyone who's been diagnosed with BC one time is at higher risk to be diagnosed again with a new primary breast cancer (i.e. a cancer unrelated to the original diagnosis) and this may be compounded if you have other risk factors. Find out your risk level from your oncologist. When you talk to your oncologist, determine if BRCA genetic testing might be appropriate for you based on your family history of cancer and/or your age and/or your ethnicity (those of Ashkenazi Jewish descent are at higher risk). Those who are BRCA positive are very high risk to get BC and for many women, a positive BRCA test result is a compelling reason to have a bilateral mastectomy. On the other hand, for many women a negative BRCA test result helps with the decision to have a lumpectomy or single mastectomy rather than a bilateral. Talk to your oncologist. Don't assume that you know what your risk is; you may be surprised to find that it's much higher than you think, or much lower than you think (my risk was much less than I would ever have thought).
    • How will you feel if you have a lumpectomy or UMX and at some point in the future (maybe in 2 years or maybe in 30 years) you get BC again, either a recurrence in the same breast or a new BC in either breast?Will you regret your decision and wish that you'd had a bilateral mastectomy? Or will you be grateful for the extra time that you had with your breasts, knowing that you made the best decision at the time with the information that you had?
    • How will you feel if you have a bilateral mastectomy and no cancer or high risk conditions are found in the other breast? Will you question (either immediately or years in the future) why you made the decision to have the bilateral? Or will you be satisfied that you made the best decision with the information you had?

    .I hope that this helps. And remember.... this is your decision. How someone else feels about it and the experience that someone else had might be very different than how you will feel about it and the experience that you will have. So try to figure out what's best for you, or at least, the option that you think you can live with most easily, given all the risks associated with all of the options. Good luck with your decision!"

  • angelia50
    angelia50 Member Posts: 381
    edited June 2015

    I had bi because at the time, I could not even think of having both removed. Partially, due to thinking the surgery must be terrible and then, just the general idea of it all. If I knew then, what I know now, I think I would have had both removed. I am going back on Wednesday of this week for my second mammogram since my initial surgery and I would sure love to not have to have this done and deal with the fear it brings up in me.

  • Guera_NM
    Guera_NM Member Posts: 17
    edited June 2015

    I struggle with the decision to get the other taken. My oncologist said I do not need to.

  • Guera_NM
    Guera_NM Member Posts: 17
    edited June 2015

    Thank you, very informative.

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited August 2015

    Will after my inital MX of the left side, then having to go back in for a recision, I decided at that time while waiting for the surgeon that I wanted the other side removed as well. So I ended up getting a BMX just at 2 different surgeries. I do not regret it at all and am happy I went with my gut feelings and told my BS I wanted it done. The pathology report came back clean for the right side but I am still glad I did what I felt was right and not what everyone else thought I should do.

  • susan3
    susan3 Member Posts: 3,728
    edited August 2015

    I had bilateral free tram. Lower stomach muscles in boobs now. I don't really think there is a perfect way to do this. I didn't want to worry every time I got a mamo, and I didn't want rads. So that was my choice. I think you need to choose what you want to handle now, and not what the future holds. My cancer came back after 14 years. But I am still happy that I haven't had rads, and didn't have to worry ever time I had a mamo. Hard decision to make. Good luck and God bles

  • CAMommy
    CAMommy Member Posts: 437
    edited August 2015

    I'm going to follow this because I am facing the same decision. My DCIS is high grade and wide spread in my right and mx is most likely going to be have to be done and my surgeon is making noise I should have a bmx due to my family history. Such a big decision. All I wanted was a lumpectomy + rads and be done. I'm not getting off that easy.


  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited August 2015

    CAMommy

    Did you have genetic testing done? This may help you with your decision. BC does not run in my family however colon cancer does. My cancer was not considered aggressive either, although it was very close to the skin. I decided AFTER my initial surgery that I wanted a double because I did not want to go through this ordeal again. My surgeon was great and did not bat an eye when I told her (while I was getting ready to have an excision done due to positive margins) It looks like you still have time to think about it. Do a whole lot of research on the type you have and see the odds of it coming back. Read on the boards about those who have had a lumpectomy and a MX. This is a very scary decision, one that you alone has to make. Do not let anyone persuade you either way. Talk to your doctor and really hash out all the scenarios. In the end, I know you will make the right decision. One that YOU made. And remember, I opted for a double AFTER my initial MX.

    I hope this helps you out and doesn't make it worse.

  • CAMommy
    CAMommy Member Posts: 437
    edited August 2015

    hi FemaleAthlete,

    I am BRCA 1/2 negative but my mom had BC young and had colon cancer around age 60 (given it was exactly at 60 they don't know how to consider it if it is genetic or older age). These were the reasons I had my ovaries removed. My mom and grandma had no recurrences of BC but they both had radical mx back in the 70s. I think a bx is probably prudent, the timing isn't right for me right now. We are trying to move across country and recovering from marjor surgery would be hard. But I love my team here and would rather this BS do the surgery if I did it.

    Can I ask if you had reconstruction? And how painful/long your recovery was?

    I'm going to ask the MO Thursday when I see him to give me all my odds. And then request a MRI. If there is not a lot more junk in my right breast I may have BS just re excise (I have 1 close margin) if there is a lot of DCIS floating around then I'll do the mx. If my left breast is clean I'll leave it for now. My husband thinks I'm crazy, he wants me to do the bmx and go flat as long as I need to then do recon if I want. He just wants my risk to be as low as possible. But there are absolutely no studies done that prove bmx for DCIS increases survival.

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited August 2015

    Hi, I am more than happy to give you any information I can supply you with. First, some background - I was DX March 30, 2015. Living in NC. - have 2 children 8&5 living with their father. My dad came out from CO and took me back here to receive my treatment - kids stayed. Originally went for a MX July 2. Positive margins, another surgery July 13 - decided THAT DAY, IV in, waiting for surgeon that I wanted to do the other side. New surgery date July 20. Drains can out this past Monday July 27.

    Please do not let your surrounding circumstances dictate your decision. This is all about you - you need to take care of you first and foremost - if not, than what? Go with what YOU truly think you should do. Your husband has great concern for you and your health - he wants you around, and doesn't want a worried, always looking over her shoulder, wife. Things will work out no matter what your decision.

    It sounds like you like and trust your team where you are. Why mess with that?

    I envy you - having the support of a husband, having someone who will weather the storm with you. Take advantage of that, think about his concerns as well. Together the two of you will figure this out.

    With regards to reconstruction - nothing has happened yet. I am now waiting for my oncotype DX score to come back - that will decide if I need chemo or not. If not, than I will start on hormonal therapy and get my recon started.

    I am having fat transfer - which is basically liposuction and than the fat gets sterilized and injected into the breast. This happens a little at a time with me under general anesthesia, but an outpatient surgery. When this happens, I plan on moving back to NC and flying here every few months for my surgery.

    So, do a ton of research - this site has done really good boards to read and all questions (I am still referencing info) Be confident with your decision, and make it FOR YOU, not what Works right now. Just remember too that down the road, if this were to raise it's ugly head again - do you think your body would be strong enough? Or capable enough to handle this one time?

    These are all things I hashed over while making my decision.

    Any thing else you want to ask or need some clarity on -ask - I'll bell you in whatever way I can

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited August 2015

    Hi, I am more than happy to give you any information I can supply you with. First, some background - I was DX March 30, 2015. Living in NC. - have 2 children 8&5 living with their father. My dad came out from CO and took me back here to receive my treatment - kids stayed. Originally went for a MX July 2. Positive margins, another surgery July 13 - decided THAT DAY, IV in, waiting for surgeon that I wanted to do the other side. New surgery date July 20. Drains can out this past Monday July 27.

    Please do not let your surrounding circumstances dictate your decision. This is all about you - you need to take care of you first and foremost - if not, than what? Go with what YOU truly think you should do. Your husband has great concern for you and your health - he wants you around, and doesn't want a worried, always looking over her shoulder, wife. Things will work out no matter what your decision.

    It sounds like you like and trust your team where you are. Why mess with that?

    I envy you - having the support of a husband, having someone who will weather the storm with you. Take advantage of that, think about his concerns as well. Together the two of you will figure this out.

    With regards to reconstruction - nothing has happened yet. I am now waiting for my oncotype DX score to come back - that will decide if I need chemo or not. If not, than I will start on hormonal therapy and get my recon started.

    I am having fat transfer - which is basically liposuction and than the fat gets sterilized and injected into the breast. This happens a little at a time with me under general anesthesia, but an outpatient surgery. When this happens, I plan on moving back to NC and flying here every few months for my surgery.

    So, do a ton of research - this site has done really good boards to read and all questions (I am still referencing info) Be confident with your decision, and make it FOR YOU, not what Works right now. Just remember too that down the road, if this were to raise it's ugly head again - do you think your body would be strong enough? Or capable enough to handle this one time?

    These are all things I hashed over while making my decision.

    Any thing else you want to ask or need some clarity on -ask - I'll bell you in whatever way I can

  • Lharry
    Lharry Member Posts: 86
    edited August 2015

    I'm in the same boat! What an awful decision to place on our shoulders, especially when we are so overwelmed with the whole cancer thing anyway!

    I had an appointment with the plastic surgeon today. He told me all the options available for my situation, whether I have one or both removed. So, I have those decisions to make as well.

    I asked my BS if he has done the Oncotype DX testing from my lumpectomy, and he told me they don't typically order that test. It sure would help me to make this decision though! He also told me that he would not recommend a bi-lateral for me. He said if I get cancer in the right breast, it can always be treated. Uhmmm - that's exactly what I'm trying to avoid!!!

    Anyway, I know I have early stage, invasive cancer in my left breast. I currently have calcifications in my right breast, but they are not worried about them. My doctor recommends a mx on the left, I believe mostly due to the size of the lump (DCIS) that has been removed (7 cm's removed), and because they would have to go back in to remove even more margin in order to get the IDC cancer, leaving me with almost no breast left. My thoughts are this - - whats to keep whatever caused me to get cancer in my left breast, to keep me from getting it in my right? I have cancer! The God awful, unpredictable, disease. Your cancer is different from my cancer, which is different from everyone else's cancer. Right? Who can really say what can or will happen in the future. There are statistics, but there are always those that are outside of those statistics as well.

    The last thing I want is to have to go through all this crap all over again - whether it is in a year, or 5 years or 20 years. I just want it out of my body! And I want the risk deminished to nearly nothing.

    Hmm. I think I have just decided what I will be doing - at least that is my decision at this moment. Give me 5 minutes, and it will likely flop to the other side of the argument.

    UGH! Sorry for the rant!

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited September 2015

    No Ned to apologize here, I know what you are going through - and it sucks. I too had early stage IDC, my BS didn't sway me either way. Actually, my first surgery was for a UMx. When it came back with positive margins and I was going back in for a reexcision, that was when I decided I wanted to have the other side done. I am glad I did. - my sister, who is a nurse told me "it is not IF you get B.C. again, it's a matter of WHEN". That is what really helped me make that final decision. Although my decision was made after my initial surgery, I got complete support from my whole surgical team - I'm thankful for that.

    With regards to the oncotype DX testing - yes there's a reason for it, do your research than present it to your MO. S/he should understand why you want it done. I had mine, and the score was 12, which means chemotherapy is not recommended , so I did not have to go through chemo or radiation - one of the very few "blessed" ones I'm sure. I think you should insist on this test, but go in to the meeting fully prepared and read up on it, that way you can make an informed decision.

    I am going to meet up again with my PS tomorrow and should get some form of game plan. My only concern I have (for now lol) is when I first met, we were talking about just one side, now it is both - does this change anything with regards to my procedure? See I originally decided on the fat grafting - not sure if this is still something he can do. Will find out tomorrow.

    Gonna start tomoxifin in a few weeks, not sure about that - worried with the side affects. I'm in a major depression (least I think so) and am worried what the meds will do - only time will tell I guess.

    Oh, and sorry that I didn't get back to you sooner, I haven't felt like replying much lately, but figured I'd better get back to you.

    Let me know how everything is going with you and I hope you get more of a positive response from your medical team.

  • Lharry
    Lharry Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2015

    Well, I'm having my bilateral MX on Tuesday. With TE. I get the whole depression thing. That's where I am now. I hope you are doing well. I think I am just ready to be through with all of this. It can be all consuming for sure! Damn cancer

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited September 2015

    I meant to say I had IDC not DCIS -

    So, tell me how are you feeling? I went through a bilateral too so I can relate so what to your feelings/pain. I do hope all went well for you and things are better, since it is a week post-op. Any questions or anything, lay them on, I'll smile with you, cry with you, hate the world with you too.

    Started the HT 5 days ago and so far it has been good. Right now I've noticed headaches, thirsty, acne, tired, body temp. seems cooler at times, and dry skin. It hasn't even been a week yet so maybe the body is still making adjustments

    Depression comes and goes. It seems to be getting better. I think I am ready to do my own thing and not be confined to these 4 walls anymore. I need a sense of independence.



  • Lharry
    Lharry Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2015

    I'm doing okay I guess. I hate my body! I swear these scars look worse than any pre civil war, field surgeries. My PS hasn't filled my TE's at all yet, so my wounds could heal first. I hate to take my shirt off!

    I go back for a follow up with my breast surgeon this morning and I'm assuming he will send me to an oncologist to see what's next.

    I still have 4 drains and am sick of having to ask for help to do minor things.

    Overall, I guess I'm just depressed about everything. This whole thing just sucks!

    I normally am not such a downer! I am usually the one who tries to see the positives in things, but this is not so easy

  • FemaleAthlete
    FemaleAthlete Member Posts: 38
    edited September 2015

    Yeah, the scars are not great to look at and it took me a week b4 I was able to look in the mirror. My right side (without cancer) was so bruised after surgery, but it healed and no more bruising.

    Your PS is probably going to wait until your healed before expanding. And it is a little at a time too, isn't it?

    Don't know of you do any of these, I did, and they helped. When taking a shower I used lanyards to hold my drains - I had 2. Do you have a drain holder belt which holds up to 4 drains? They he'll a lot too. I wore buttoned down shirts, much easier to get on. Things you use a lot, move to a place that is easier to get. Use a hand held shower head, makes showing so much easier.

    I understand where you are with the being tired of asking for help. My thing is I have to completely rely on my dad for transportation and that stinks big time. I mean for everything! Gym, doctor appointments, support group meetings, church - e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g - really, it is not what I want nor can take anymore. The drains stayed in four a week for me, but I was not draining a lot either.

    My MO referred my to physical therapy and I did 5 weeks - man what a difference it made too. My range of motion (ROM) improved. I hope you get the opportunity to go to PT, it makes a difference.

    Depression - is normal. you are dealing with a huge life changing event, making decisions, doctors appointments, input from everyone else. now you're dealing with the surgery and the scars. Give yourself time. We have gone through a lot in a short period of time. I have my good days and my not so good.

    So, I understand how you are feeling and it's completely normal. Take care of yourself, pamper yourself and take advantage of the help you are getting cause a few months from now, no one will be offering you help.

    Hope this helps you some. Take care of yourself - it will get better.

  • Lharry
    Lharry Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2015

    Thank you! Your kind words mean a lot! I have had my husband buy me a sketch book and some pencils even though I am by no means an artist! It has helped me keep my mind on something other than myself. I have drawn flowers, a birdhouse, a keyhole, etc. they look like crap (lol) but I'm having fun with trying.

    I guess I could call this therapy!

  • Moonflwr912
    Moonflwr912 Member Posts: 6,856
    edited September 2015

    Lharry it is therapy! They actually have art classes at the cancer clinic so keep it up.

    Just a note on showers with drains in, a lot of PS don't allow showers till drains are out. A lot of them do. So you have to do as your PS wishes. Mine was one of the don't. Which was pretty bad since I had my drain in for 5 weeks. LOL!

    Also as usual, recovery varies. I was still on heavy duty pain pills for 3 weeks. It is major surgery.

    I chose BMX because of family history that was very specific. My Mother and 2 Aunts Had BC found in one breast and missed in the other. When it was my Mom's turn she did a BMX where they found BC in the breast they weren't worried about and survived almost 10 more years. But they didn't give her chemo.

    So I chose the Bmx, and when I told my MO he reminded me I didn't have to do that but it was right for me. Guess where the I'D was found? Yep. In my prophylactically removed breast. Like my Mom and 2 Aunts. Weird. But when he told me I needed chemo I said "YES! Thank you"!

    He said that's not the usual reaction I get. LOL. But i know I've tried with all the knowledge I had and did what was right for me. And just because my "Journey" had quite a few "Scenic Detours ", doesn't mean I would have changed my mind.

    Much love

  • Lharry
    Lharry Member Posts: 86
    edited September 2015

    Moonflwr912, funny you mentioned your situation - when I got my pathology report back, it showed "palpalomas" in my right breast (non-cancerous) that my Dr. said would likely have been a problem later on. I was thrilled to know that my decision for the BMX was not in vain. Seems weird to think that hearing that was good news to me, but it was a real mood changer for me. It was such a struggle to decide whether or not to remove a breast that had nothing wrong with it, but now, knowing it probably would have had cancer made me so happy to know I won't have to face these awful choices again!

    Also, after hearing what my Dr said about chemo, and hearing your experiences, I think it will not be devastating to hear my need for it either. I go to my oncologist on the 29th, so will know then exactly what the plan will be.

    Tuesday will be the first time I have fluid put into my TE's. I'm a little nervous about it. I just have no idea what to expect. I'm also hoping to have at least 2 drains removed. I'd be THRILLED if he would remove all 4, but I'm not going to get my hopes up there.

    My mood is improving. Until I take my shirt off. But I have figured out how to "disguise" my drains a bit, so that I can get out of the house for short periods of time without looking like a freak! I do hate my boy chest, but that is just me. I just am not used to not having breasts. It seems (to me, of course) that I would always see how I liked a shirt based on how my breasts looked in it. I guess I never even realized this before now when I have no breasts, and I hate every shirt I put on. I've even been wearing a jacket even when the temp is in the upper 80's, just to try to hide the flat chest (and drains).

    I'm working through all of this though. And my husband has been so incredibly helpful for me. He doesn't care about my breasts, and loves me regardless. Of course. But he knows how to make me truly feel it too.

    What a crazy process this whole thing is!

  • Acjeffrey
    Acjeffrey Member Posts: 9
    edited September 2015

    I was recently diagnosed with IDC in September 2015. I am 46 years old. I'm going to have my left breast removed. The surgeon told me a lumpectomy would be difficult. I'm okay about this. I am a bit confused as to if I should have the right removed as well. So far, I don't have any high risk genetic factors to worry about. My biggest concern is how will the left breast compare to the right breast. I spoke to a nurse who had gone through a one sided mastectomy and she showed me how uneven her breast were and told me that was one thing she should have researched more on. I've had other breast cancer survivors tell me to get both removed. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go through this again, I do have a history of fibrocystic breast conditions in both breasts. I meet with the plastic surgeon this Thursday. I have gone through the genetic testing (no results yet), breast MRI and now waiting to get a date on when the surgery will be. My tumor is measured at 2.5 cm, grade 3, Er +/PR+ and Her -, nothing yet on lymph nodes, maternal grandmother died of ovarian cancer at the age of 59, two paternal grandfather history of breast cancer mother and daughter, If anyone could give me advice I would appreciate it. Please give me any advice of what I need to ask the plastic surgeon or the oncologist surgeon.

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