STFU (Shut the F*** UP)

Ducky is awesome and has treated me like a daughter. She took me under her duck wing when I was down and scared. She is a wonderful combination of feisty and kind with a great sense of humor thrown in the mix. I couldn't ask for a better friend. We should all have a little Ducky in our lives.

Kathy, I so agree. That duck tattoo must be a sign!!

Lucy, love the tattoo!! I bet she will adopt you too. That would make us sisters. hahahaha

Seriously though, I am so grateful for all of the ladies here. We are all so fortunate to have each other.

Love to all.....lurkers too!!

GMAFoley.....hahahahaha....good one!!

I know a chook is a chicken. I learned that from Alyson!! Hope you have fun at your chook show!!

Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far.

Hey Blondie.....how are you feeling? Getting excited about your upcoming trip?? I'm very excited for you - take lots of pictures!!

Lucy, I've never heard the term in America. Anyone?

I learned that chook is chicken from Alyson, too.

Blondie, sitting around with your grandson sounds like a wonderful way to spend a vacation!

Hello, everybody: I just wanted to introduce myself, then read the previous posts.

Diagnosis synopsis: diagnosis May 29 from needle biopsy, lumpectomy #1 on June 16, lumpectomy #2 scheduled for July 7 (surgeon didn't lie margins) then on to radiation and tamoxifen but that hasn't been scheduled yet. I'm not sure how much surgery 2 will take, but surgeon seemed to think I'd still at least look normal while dressed, so hopefully not gonna need to deal with people on the street. Just the ladies at the YMCA who see me in the changing room.

I haven't told many people yet, mainly family and people who'd almost certainly notice--massage therapist and next-door neighbor. (Neighbor's the queen of the local cadre of little-old-lady nosyparkers (and we get on quite well), but she *would* notice, because she does! Last year, she commented that she'd known I lost weight, even through winter clothing, because my neck got skinny.)

But I do want to figure out how to handle any trying-to-be-helpful friends, and the not so helpful ones. (already had a friend suggest I try eating more raw and fermented foods. I responded "So, beer and sushi with LOTS of soy sauce?")

Queen.. Welcome !! I don't have much advice about how to handle the things people say.. Honestly there's been times I've felt totally gob-smacked.. so shocked I've been unable to think of a reply..!! I only told the people I wanted to /had to tell..and even they have said things that have shocked me.!! Your neighbour certainly sounds like the dizzy limit.. HaHa she noticed your neck got skinny.. and actually told you.. unbelievable !! :-)

Blondie.. Your holiday plans sound perfect !!

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Lucy55: yes, that's EXACTLY what she said....and I love her for it. I know she means it lovingly; we've been neighbors for...God! almost twenty years now, and have been in one another's pockets for most of that time. We watch over each other in many ways, as good neighbors ought. I have no worries that she'll say anything that'll strike me dumb, or anything unwittingly hurtful.

Proudtospin: (snorts of laughter) Yeah, me I'd rather be told my waist had gotten skinny. But that was all she could really see at the time, this being the tail end of a particularly hard winter in Michigan. It'll have to do. For now.

queen, that is what this board is about, giggles and laughter!

blow that neighbor off!

Queen and PTS.. You should be happy with your long thin necks.. aren't they meant to be a sign of elegance and beauty.? :-)

Queen.. Lovely to have someone living next door that you feel so close too.. would make you feel much better when you're away on holidays too, knowing she can keep an eye on your house for you.

Slow.. Ah yes.. TheThornbirds certainly was considered hot and steamy at the time.!! It'd be interesting to watch it again now and see how tame it probably was in comparison to the shows on today.!! I'm envious of you ladies with 2 boobs.. My doctor didn't want to do a BMX.. So I thought I wouldn't do reconstruction as it would be impossible to get it looking like the other one anyhow.. Plus I didn't think I could handle the extra surgery either.

Blondie.. Hi . 😃

Lucy55: (laughs) I wouldn't call my neck anywhere near swanlike yet! But don't I wish. And at least I have about 1 and 4/5ths boobs once all's said and done; trying to be grateful for that. The neighbor does watch our house and cat(s) when we're gone--that's what The Queen of the NoseyParkers as a neighbor is good for. And doing the scoldy finger when I'm not dressed properly by her lights.

SlowDeepBreath: thank you for your story of treatments; the surgeon is very sympathetic (though rather like talking to a basset hound), but there's only so much he can do about the Sweating of Dread Uncertainty. Def. not looking forward to all those "helpful" people.

Blondie, I'm so excited for you!

Blondie.. Yay.. Not long to go now 😃

Slow Deep Breaths: (amused) I didn't say he looked like a basset hound, it's like talking to a basset hound. Or maybe more like Eeyore. Though come to think of it, his face is kinda wrinkly/droopy; that certainly takes the edge off fearing Re-Lumpectomy next week! Thank you (still snickering at the idea).

This is a continuation of my impression of Surgeon #2 (neurosurgeon) last year, who made me think of an Irish Setter on speed.

hahahaha queen.....I'm trying to picture an Irish Setter on speed. Too funny.

Isn't that mind-boggling Lucy??? I'm always fascinated with stuff like that.

Happy 4th to all....hope your weekend is fun and pain free.

Love to all (lurkers too)!!