Travel post surgery....

I am meeting with the bs next week and am tentatively scheduled for surgery on July 16th. I've been told by the radiologist who did u/s and biopsy, that, due to location of the tumor next to nipple, it is unlikely that I am a candidate for Lx and likely will need a Mx. I discussed that with the bs staff on the phone, who reviewed my chart and pathology reports to date agreed (and also told me that the radiologist knew his stuff in that regard). However, I will be having a MRI before meeting with bs and of course exact course of treatment is still tentative at this point pending that apt and what shows up on MRI.

However, like others here, I am trying to plan ahead. In my case, for an event: I have a family wedding of a very close family member scheduled three weeks after the tentative surgery date, in a town about a four hour drive away from here.

I will be heartbroken if I need to miss the wedding, but on the other hand, I don't want to endanger my health by postponing the surgery if that is a bad idea. The bs staff has told me that,while obviously I will need to discuss with the doc, based on the information in my report they suspect doc will want to schedule the surgery sooner rather than later (which is why the tentative July 16th date: they have penciled me in for a MX on that date, which was the first available)All I know about diagnosis thus far is IDC, well defined. Said they were waiting for MRI results for preliminary staging. The other thing I know is that I do not want reconstruction, at least not now and probably not ever.

I would't do any driving myself to the wedding, that would be hubby's job, but I would want to go. We'd spend two nights in a hotel (already have a reservation for a suite with a kitchen).

So, I would really appreciate hearing from those of you who had a MX or BMX: three weeks out, how did you feel? Would it be totally crazy to try and make this event? I know you can't give specific medical advice, but I'd love to hear thoughts and advice about how to approach this topic with my bs, questions to ask, issues to consider....thanks so much. The thought of missing this wedding is the only thing that has made me cry during this entire roller coaster ride this far....