Cancer- depression, pain, mood swings and raising kids

I am 30 and also triple positive I will beon my 4th treatment tomorrow tchp every 3 weeks..you had a pcr that's great and no lymph nodes that's great too!! I know we have been dealt a shitty hand I have my bad days too. I have been thinking about just taking my ovaries out which will send me into menapause instantly it's a very scary thought although my husband has been very supportive and understanding my sex drive is so low and worried adter all this it will never come back I also have 2 kids a 5 year old and 15 month old and it breaks my heart when I don't give them the attention they need on those bad days but I try to make up for it on those good days it will get better with time.. And remember how lucky us her2 girls are that we have these newer targeted therapys as well as medication to take for hormones to prevent this from coming back!

Brittney be kind to yourself, you cannot help that you feel like crap and do not have the energy to cope with your very young children. That must be so difficult, physically, emotionally and in every way. Remember, the most important thing to them is that you're HERE. Let your kids crawl into bed with you!It's hard to step back from your role as caretaker, but you need to allow yourself to be selfish and take care of YOURSELF now. You're right that we can only talk to our families so much....that's why this board is so great, we all understand what you're going through, so come here whenever you need the support.

Girl, I hear you! I'm just now getting back into the land of the living. I know you don't want to hear this - it just takes time. There is really nothing you can do. I mean yes, technically there are a thousand things you can "do" - you can diet and exercise and have a positive attitude and mediate and read bible verses and use essential oils, etc. etc. etc. but honestly, doesn't that sound freaking draining? I vote that just living - just "being" is the best thing you can do. Are you are in bed watching Netflix marathons and your kids are covered in jam and the clothes in your washing machine are rotting and your husband just made a fast food run for dinner for the 1,000th time - WHO CARES. You are here for your husband. You are here for your kids. You are here for the people that love you. They all need you, even when you feel like you are running at 20%. And you know what's funny, they won't remember this time the way you do - they will just know that you were here.

This was a hard time for me - with just a few treatments left. I understand. I often joke that when I talk about cancer with my friends who DON'T have cancer, we all end up crying. When I talk about cancer with my friends who HAVE had cancer, we all end up laughing and drinking margaritas. It's just hard to explain unless you've been there. I get it. Thinking of you!

Brittney,

I understand when you say you feel like you will never be the same again. In some ways this is true, you've experienced something most can't understand and you'll always carry a bit more worry about your future. However, I'm really happy to report, physically, you will start to feel like your old self eventually. 

I was dx May 2014. I finished hercepton this past May and had stage 2 recon 3 weeks ago.  While it sucked to get knocked down one more time, its good to finally have it behind me. During my year of treatment I hardly did anything with my grandkids. I moved slower than my 80 year old mother. I managed to work, but fell asleep the minute I got home.  But this month, I'm starting to feel like me again and the more I do the better I feel. I planted a garden, went to a community picnic I missed last year and this week I'm teaching bible school and keeping up with the pre-k group. My dh just installed some carseats so I can pick up the grandkids and catch up on what I missed. I just feel like shouting "I'M BACK!" Truly hoping the dreaded c can never make the same claim, but for now I'm feeling great and I hope you will too when your tx is finished.