The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

P.S. - This is adding on to my previous post --When the doctors say to "listen to your body" - I have to laugh !! This bod doesn't talk to me.

cp418 - I read her cards those were amazing !!!! I particularly like the one that says let me be first to punch someone who says "everything happens for a reason" . I don't think people 'get it' and what we've been through until they themselves have walked in our shoes. Shelly

Justmaximom: All I can say is "wow" -- do you really want to correspond with this guy? It's weird how people automatically assume they will not hurt us by saying insensitive statements. If this guy wasn't a "current" friend who messages you a lot I would cut the ties. (or maybe his tongue !) lol

I went to ER last week because I thought my appendix was going to explode. The doctor comes back with good news, pregnancy test is negative, I told him well is should be since I had a full hysterectomy due to cancer, which he should know because it was in my file and argue with the lab tech about it. Second no appendix issues. He says I need a HIDA dye test for gallbladder of course insurance doesn't want to pay for it. I mention my troubles to my aunt who is an RN and she says, " most cancer people survivor cancer to die off something else." Thanks for the encouragement.

almost as stupid as forcing me to actually go to a mammogram appointment when I had a bilateral mastectomy which left only thin skin over the bones. The tech was flabbergasted and apologized profusely and said there was no way. Then the doc cancelled my return visit because the mammogram couldn't be done.

Ok, since this is about the dumbest stuff people have said to you....I guess this is a good place to be. Here's my Saturday story. A friend moved away from where I live, a few years back. Well this morning she's back visiting for the weekend, She showed up at the place we go every morning for coffee. She'd also been following my post about my bc on Facebook. She gets me in a bearhug asks me how my health is, and then tells me about her friend, who had a lumpectomy and a year later was back, and then she had a mastectomy and a year later was back, and then two years later she was dead! Good morning to you too!! She is such a f*****g Asshat! Who says that kind of shit?????

Suladog-- what then was your reply to that wonderful story of hers??!!!

Zoegr, you managed to make me chuckle! And God knows I had a bad day...

I also get the 'you can't have cancer, you are the healthiest person I know' and 'you don't look like you have cancer'.
And people try to get me to 'treat myself' and eat cakes and biscuits, and criticise me for eating meat ('that's how you got cancer').

My employer is also really annoyed at me still wanting to go to the gym (I manage it once or twice a week, at the weekend...): 'if you really had cancer, you wouldn't be going to the gym, you would be taking it easy'.

And of course: 'shouldn't you be on antidepressants?'; 'shouldn't you be on morphine?'

Haha. Now I know what he uses for constipation.

Wintersocks,

Love that!!! New vocabulary word for me

NM OMG................You have the answer......................

I told my sister I was dx with Stage IV Breast Cancer . She replied "It is all in Gods Plan, I have it under control"

I respond..."would have been nice if he had sent me a damn memo so I could have cleared my calendar. Also. why the hell would you have it under control?"

needless to say my response did not go over very well.

Frey--Frechfrye WTH----Please, when you find out what she meant by "UNDER CONTROL" let us know.

Sula--I'm with you WTF.

Guys,

I posted this in another dumb comments thread but I think it deserves a place here too...I just came back from the market and ran into the woman we bought our new house from last year. She is a 20 yr survivor of ER+ bc, so we're talking about our experiences and this total stranger lady shopping for avocados at another table turns to us and says 27 yrs here!

So we're all feeling pretty damn good, and I push my cart along and there's one of my other neighbors who lives around the block from us. She knows I've had cancer and chemo etc, in fact the first time I met her at a welcome to the nabe cocktail party our other neighbors threw for us, I hadn't yet started chemo. I had had a mx just a few weeks before. She asks me who my Dr at UCSF is., I tell her, (this is a very well known DR) she tells me that this DR was her sisters doctor 10 yrs ago when her sister had the same kind of bc I have, and that her sister is now metastatic. So great. Yeah, you think l I don't think about that Cookie? Like it doesn't cross my mind about a zillion times a day, and is this supposed to make me feel weird about my doctor??? So I beat it out of that party.

Guess who I run into in the market today. She looks at me with a sad sad face, "How are you doing dear?"

Me: Fine

Her: I saw you on the Bike path the other day, I was going to Pilates. How are you?

Me: Well I was running so I guess I'm ok (bitch)

more sad sad face from her and then she tells me again about her sister, and my doctor, and we had the same diagnoses, so I say I really have to go, then she says how her sister is responding to this great new anti hormone drug they have her on.

I say that's great!

Her: (sigh) Well, I hope it works out.for both of you.

If I were her sister I'd be making Thanksgiving plans for Paris right now. I couldn't be trusted at a table with knives on it.

The final thing...How are you liking our neighborhood.

Me: Great, we love it

Me: In my head (except for you...you..rated R)

"If I were her sister I'd be making Thanksgiving plans for Paris right now. I couldn't be trusted at a table with knives on it."

A classic line!