Any young ladies just diagnosed with a recurrence??

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  • ChristineR66
    ChristineR66 Member Posts: 24
    edited May 2015

    HI sweet ladies. I come to you with my head low because I just found out in February that my "remission" of 6 months was not to be and the cancer has now spread to 6 different spots on my bones.
    I just started Ibrance/Pacociclib (spelling? LOL) and Femara and have been trying to get well from being sick as well. My 9 year old gives me everything. Last month I was hospitalized for an infection in my implant and had to have it removed so I'm lopsided now.
    I'm feeling sad and sick and tired.
    Let me know which is the best site for me to log into as far as links go for community conversations. I haven't been on in awhile.

    Thanks!
    Christine

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited May 2015

    Christine, (((((HUGS))))). One of my Sept 13 chemo pals was on the clinical trial for Ibrance and had fabulous results. Wishing the same to you. I am so sorry to hear about the spread to your bones. That just plain sucks. No way to mince words. I hate cancer. Thinking of you.

  • ChristineR66
    ChristineR66 Member Posts: 24
    edited May 2015

    Thank you KBeee...that is encouraging to hear! Is your friend having any side affects and if so do you know what they are?

    Hugs

    Christine

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited May 2015


    I am not sure of side effects, but if she did have some, they were mild.

  • Coopdizzle
    Coopdizzle Member Posts: 91
    edited May 2015

    Just got told today. It's back in my chest and diaphragm. 6 months out of radiation. So bummed.

  • Fran2014
    Fran2014 Member Posts: 140
    edited May 2015


    Christine & Coopdizzle- My heart is truly so saddened by your news. It takes me back to November following the "precautionary biopsy" (which my MO was sure would come back benign b/c all my markers had indicated that I was cancer-free). I know from experience that the "emotional rollercoaster" you just got on is just as difficult as the physical one you are facing. Despite the fact that you may be feeling so overwhelmed and powerless (b/c basically our bodies have betrayed us AGAIN!)- know that you do have an inner strength that only comes out in challenging times like these. Since my reoccurrence in November, I've been through 3 months of neo-adjuvant chemo, a BMX (with drains that remained in for 25 freakin days) and now 2 months of some hard core chemo (which I must say is the toughest part). While it definitely has been hard, I want you to know that if I can do this...so can you! (I'm one of those big babies that even hates the idea of having her teeth cleaned b/c of the discomfort). Try the best you can to not pay attention to "The Thoughts" which can become all-consuming (the "why me"; the "why now", the "what if", the "what's going to happen", the "will I..."?). Remember to take one day at a time and most importantly... breathe!! While I know the people around you want to help (and please let them!!), YOU can count on YOU to push on. Wow! I don't mean to sound all preachy but I remember when I 1st posted on this site and my head was spinning and I just felt like I couldn't catch my breath. I will be thinking of you both and sending out positive prayers. Wishing you strength as your journey continues.

    Sending big hugs via the internet,

    Fran

  • Fran2014
    Fran2014 Member Posts: 140
    edited May 2015


    Christine & Coopdizzle- just "checking in" to say "hello" and let you know that I have been thinking of you! Big Hugs ladies!

    Fran

  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 3,945
    edited May 2015

    Hi, Alibeths. I am sorry, I didn't add this topic to my faves, so I missed your question. Actually, I'm not sure I am still young, at least thats what they tell me! But I also haven't been diagnosed with a recurrence either, although there are some spots they are watching closely. There is a node or two that I am very concerned about, but they say is benign. I thought they pulled them all out! They said it is just "reactive". There is also a spot of "fat necrosis" as far as they can tell, right under the lumpy scar, that I am not going to be surprised when someday they tell me it IS cancer. Because I just don't know if fat necrosis grows larger. And I have just had it with all the followup, I am tired of looking for trouble..

    I am saddened by how many women who do recur in spite of all measures they took to avoid it, and just wonder how many were actually there during treatment, but just got big enough to be discovered.

  • kittykoma05
    kittykoma05 Member Posts: 56
    edited May 2015

    Hello Ladies,

    I can't believe I'm back for more!!!! I had a BMX in August 2012, then radiation on the right side. I just found out the cancer is back on the left side. At first I couldn't believe it, now I just want to scream!!!

    Sorry you are also going through this. How did you find out the cancer was back? I found a small lump near the scar on my left side, had a biopsy done, and it came back positive.

    Hugs to all!!

    Laura

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited May 2015

    Laura, Sorry to hear of your recurrence. It does suck to have to do this again, but alas it is doable. I found mine was back because I found a lump where my original tumor was. BS sent me to PS who thought it was from reconstruction, but thankfully I insisted they biopsy it. Yep...it was back. They later found a second spot too...18 months after BMX, 15 months after finishing chemo, and 14 months after starting Tamoxifen. I did not have radiation last time, but will this time after chemo is done. Is you pathology the same this time? Mine was different. Sorry you're back. I hope nodes are clear for you.


  • kittykoma05
    kittykoma05 Member Posts: 56
    edited May 2015

    Thanks KB. I also had to insist on a biopsy of the lump. The bs said it was just fat necrosis, but I asked her to do a biopsy any way. Now she says she will not do any other tests (MRI or full body scan) because they will probably not show anything. She is convinced that the little lump she took out was all the cancer I have. She wants to remove all the scar tissue and then do radiation. I am looking for a second opinion because I feel like she could do more testing. The pathology seems to be the same.

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited May 2015

    I would get a second opinion too; especially since she underestimated it the when the lump appeared and was wrong. You'd think she'd be a little more aggressive once she realized she was wrong. I would tell her point blank that she's already underestimated it and been proven wrong, so you're getting a second opinion because you feel you need to be more aggressive in assessing the whole situation.

    I did the same thing. I went back to BS for surgery because he is a brilliant surgeon, but I told him I was getting a second opinion and he did respect that.

  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited May 2015

    Hi there, I'm 38 yrs old with two young kids 3 and 7 years old. I finished treatment last year and I'm now said the cancer is back. They did a biopsy on a lymph node on my left side of my neck and it came out positive. The Next step is a PET/CAT SCAN to see where else I have cancer.

    I'm so worried that I started taking lorazepam.

  • Alibeths
    Alibeths Member Posts: 656
    edited May 2015

    hang in there ziz! Do you have any course of action yet???

  • KBeee
    KBeee Member Posts: 5,109
    edited May 2015

    Thinking of you theziz. A friend of mine had positive nodes in her neck and thankfully it had not spread beyond that. Hoping the same for you. She also just had PCR from chemo. Keep us posted.

  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited May 2015

    Thank you everyone for you support.

    I'm from Costa Rica and we don't have PS machine here so I'm in process of going to Miami for a PS and get a plan. My Dr. Is traveling and said would be back with a plan for me. I will get a second opinion in Miami as well.

    After they did a biopsy on my neck I have a pain on my shoulder. I hope it has nothing to do with cancer.


  • Alibeths
    Alibeths Member Posts: 656
    edited May 2015

    I live near Miami! Where u going

  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited May 2015

    hi, I'm going to Sylvester hospital, university of Miami.


  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited May 2015

    thank you for your support.

    Let's see what is next for me.

    Cheers

  • Fran2014
    Fran2014 Member Posts: 140
    edited June 2015


    theziz- I will be saying lots of prayers and sending positive vibes your way! Hang in there-I know the waiting is the hardest.

    Positive Thoughts and big hugs,

    Fran

  • cjanet
    cjanet Member Posts: 328
    edited June 2015

    theziz, I am 38 too with a 3 and 7 year old as well. Stay strong! Hope you can get a solid treatment plan in place. Positive thoughts and hugs too! Hugs and positive thoughts to all the women here.

  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited June 2015
  • findingbeautiful_34
    findingbeautiful_34 Member Posts: 3
    edited July 2015

    Hi everyone, this is my first time in this forum, and I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you all so much! The first time I got the cancer diagnosis, I believed the specialists: we got it all, we'll take special care of you... The second time, my world collapsed - had I believed the wrong person, not treated it enough, was cancer going to be the rest of my life, however long that was, instead of just a victory story of challenges conquered and character refined? It is devastating to have it come back, and I think, particularly so when you haven't even reached 40. I wonder all the time - is this it, is this all my life will ever be - a story of hospitals and struggles to recuperate, only to be set back again? And my poor children... their whole childhood has been marred by cancer, when I wanted so much better for them! The people around me just don't seem to understand how difficult it is to accept the story of my life atm, and I find that so lonely and frustrating.... So, I just wanted to say, I'm feeling for you... in some small way I understand, despite whatever differences we all end up with in prognosis and treatment... If I could wave my magic wand for you all I could - it's broken, though, so I hope my tears for you will in some way bring healing and peace. <3

  • Tomboy
    Tomboy Member Posts: 3,945
    edited July 2015

    Findingbeautiful24. Thanks for your honesty, but its just awful that you are dealing with it again, so awful. I am so so sorry. Cancer is a sneaky bitch, I hate her even harder for you..

  • theziz
    theziz Member Posts: 159
    edited July 2015

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