Here's what cheezed me off today

mel147 · April 2015

I agree! A swimsuit is one of the things I'm looking for, too. Somebody on here mentioned Blouson style suits, so I googled that and found a site, I think it was called Swim Outlet and they had quite a few. I'm only looking for the top since I already have two bottoms I can wear (one is shorts and one is a skirt), so that helps keep it at least a little cheaper than $100. I see you are in FL, though, so you probably will get more use out of it than I will here in NC. We have a neighborhood pool, but I definitely didn't get there at all last summer. We are going to Disney in June, though, so I want something for that. I also don't want to wear foobs with it, so I hope this Blouson style will work. I also read Land's End has some, but I just started looking so I can't remember which site I liked better.

Spookiesmom · April 2015

Actually, I want it for a Silver Sneakers class at an indoor pool. Indoor pools are hard to find, I don't want to get sunburned. Been there too many times. And I did find what may be perfect, indoor, time, days. Now to not spend so much. I guess some can spend that much, I cant.

Spookiesmom · April 2015

Bring lots of sun screen!!!!!

mel147 · April 2015

I never really thought about indoor pools being hard to find in FL, but that does make sense! Glad you found one. I wish I could join the YMCA, but I think it would be a lot per month to join and I'm afraid I wouldn't go there as often as I should to justify the cost. I will definitely bring my sunscreen to Disney - and rain ponchos, too! I remember going in June years ago and it rained every day...just for a little while, but it was every day, and sometimes it was a downpour!

Spookiesmom · April 2015

if you are on Medicare, most plans have the Silver Sneakers programs. The Ys do the Silver Sneakers.

Ah yes, the monsoon season!! Usually not enough to wreck the day. And it does rain more frequently in Orlando. I'm about 2 hours from there, never go. Enjoy it!!!!

Stopped in a mastectomy shop today, lady suggested getting ANY suit I liked and cutting the bra stuff out. Huh! Why didn't I think of that!!

mel147 · April 2015

I'm not there yet...am 48 so I don't qualify for the Silver Sneakers! I did look into the Livestrong program at the Y, but it is only offered during the day and it is during my work hours, so I couldn't do it.

That's a great idea about just cutting out the bra stuff...I didn't think of that either. The ones I have now pre-surgery have a V neck and just won't work. I have thought about sewing pocket in them for forms, but, I just really don't want to wear forms. Seems like they would be a real nuisance when in the water. If I can go without, I'm going to try for that first.

We are definitely looking forward to the trip - I will have to change my avatar afterwards to be something Disney-related! I just love Spookie's bow! Dixie has two that we have put on her collar before but they are not on at the moment. She actually needs a new collar - the one she has on has faded terribly. Turned more salmon color rather than bright pink.

Spookiesmom · April 2015

That pic was on Spookies 3rd bday, Halloween. She was just back from the groomer.

Spookiesmom · April 2015

Why not join the crazy ladies ( me too) on the insominacs thread? T goes 24/7, nice bunch.

mel147 · April 2015

I will check it out, although I probably go to bed too early to be on the insomniac thread - ha, ha! I am getting ready to go to sleep now...I get very cranky if I stay up too late.

Wren44 · April 2015

Mel, No worries. It goes 24/7.

Rockym · April 2015

Here's a big cheeze... I've been trying to get my mom checked for her level of dementia for about a year. She was stubborn and wouldn't go for the evaluation. Finally she had a bit of a break with reality that scared the crap out of her. It lasted an hour or so and I was on the phone with her so she felt a bit better. Anyway, after that happened she let me make her the evaluation appointment. Mostly it's for me to plan for her future in regard to living arrangements, etc. So, I get an appointment for a Monday and arrange to fly one state over to see her and take her. The next day they call and tell me they have to reschedule. Needless to say I was bummed, but then I was able to make another appointment for a couple of weeks later and a family member offered to fly to her and take her.

I was happy and all was well. The next thing I knew, yesterday I am talking to my mom and she tells me she rescheduled the memory evaluation for a date in two months because it started too early. I was like what?? The family member had plane tickets and all the arrangements were made. I flipped out and could barely keep from yelling at her. I immediately got off the phone and called to see if we could get her appointment back. Thank goodness we could and now it's in her record that only I can make and break appointments.

The moral of this story... Since she forgot she had a family member coming in take her to this appointment, since she forgot we spent an hour together filling out the paper work for this appointment and since she lost touch with the importance of this appointment... it's pretty obvious she has some level of dementia that is more than I realized. Even without the results from this upcoming appointment I already know to start looking into memory care living for her future. I just hope it's not so bad that she forgets who I am :-(

Spookiesmom · April 2015

Ah geez Rocky, that's rough. But at least you can make plans now, and that has to help you.

ananda8 · April 2015

Rocky, I hope this drug proves out and comes on the market soon. Best wishes during this difficult time. http://www.nytimes.com/2015/03/21/business/alzheimers-drug-trial-shows-cognitive-decline-sharply-slowed.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&region=CColumn&module=MostEmailed&version=Full&src=me&WT.nav=MostEmailed&_r=0

mel147 · April 2015

Rocky - so sorry to hear about your mom. She is very lucky to have you looking out for her and helping her get the proper evaluation done. Hang in there - I know this has to be tough.

Rockym · April 2015

Thanks everyone! I'm feeling a bit better after chilling out for a couple of days. I usually call mom once a day and tell her about my errands, the kids, etc. Lots of small talk and I've felt it kept her from feeling too lonely if she was. Now I'm doing twice a day so that I can remind her to take her medication. I think if she gets back on her pills regularly, she will feel better. Heck, she takes less meds than I do :-). She does a couple of blood pressure piils and one anti-depressant, but getting her to be faithful to the meds has been tough. Oh well, tomorrows a new day.

M0mmyof3 · April 2015

Here's what cheezed me off today: Went to the Post Office to send out some Avon catalogs to my mom. I was told the only way they could be sent was by Priority Mail, which was almost $6. My mom had told me yesterday that those catalogs didn't have to get there right away and that if they didn't get there until next week it was okay. Did not find out til after I had left there that I could have sent them by the Media Mail rate which was much cheaper! Why in Hades don't the people at the Post Office tell you that the Media Mail option is available to people who are sending stuff to potential customers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sas-schatzi · April 2015

Hi, Cheesers, meander over to the Angel's thread. Talk about being cheesed.

https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/56/topic/694012?page=28#idx_838

sas-schatzi · April 2015

Rocky, sorry your Mom's doing poorly. Can I help?

Spookiesmom · April 2015

How cruel.

M0mmyof3 · April 2015

Shocked! Luck I wasn't there or I'd have gone off! My step-great-grandmother died from this crap. This disease does not give us a choice whether we want to have it or not! If I had been given the choice, I wouldn't have chosen it!

Anonymous · May 2015

Hey, Ladies! Sorry that I haven't checked in for a while. Still dealing with issues with my mom.

Rocky, I'm so sorry to hear that you're having issues with your mom too. I just found out that about $22,000 is missing from my mom's account and there are 2 debit cards floating around in her name that are fraudulent. Gonna take quite a while to get this mess cleared up, if we ever do. We've hired someone to sit with her and they start Wednesday. We'll still keep checking on her and my brother has moved in so, fingers crossed.

I was able to come home briefly for the Relay for Life event and our little town of around 2200 people raised almost $64,000 for the American Cancer Society. Not bad, huh?

Hope everyone is well and nothing cheezes you! Love and hugs!

mel147 · May 2015

rohanna - Yikes! So sorry to hear about the missing money and the fradulent debit cards. I hope things get better with your brother being there and I hope it doesn't take too long to get the money issues fixed.

Congrats on the Relay success!! Ours is on May 29th. I just signed up for it yesterday and bought a whole bunch of luminaries. Know and have known a lot of people with cancer - more than I realized!

Rockym · May 2015

Congrats on the Relay for Life Rohanna! Sorry about your mom and the $$. What a pain to have to try to figure that out. Like mel said, hopefully your brother will be able to help her and I am crossing my fingers that the person you guys picked to watch her rocks!

My mom finally had her dementia test. The doctor was telling her that he had to report her results to the DMV by law. The next time she went to see him, she had to drive herself since her helper wasn't available. I wanted her to take a taxi, but I was happy she was going to the follow up so I didn't pressure her. I asked her what was she going to tell the doctor when he sees she is alone and possibly drove to the appointment. She told me that she would just tell him that she forgot and since she is there for dementia anyway that he couldn't say jack :-). Anyway, he gave her a script for Aricept. She's is having a spinal stimulator trial next week so I told her not to take any new meds until she gets that stimulator figured out. Maybe the Aricept will keep her from using the stimulator remote as a telephone or tv remote :-) One can only hope!

Anonymous · May 2015

Oh, Rocky, your mom's response about getting caught driving made me crack up. I hope our moms never lose their spunk! Fingers crossed for her spinal stimulator trial. My mom and I made a great game of Where is the Remote. It showed up in the strangest places! My daughter came down to visit her NaNa for the weekend and I drove her through the cemetery where my father is buried. She would say "Are we related to them?" Yep. "How about them?" Yep. After a while she said "Are we related to everyone in this place?" I told her about 2/3 of them and she said, "Wow. We know a lot of dead people." I don't know why, but that made me laugh for the rest of the day. Sad, isn't it?

Mel, hope you have a blast at your Relay. I know what you mean about the luminaries. It's heartbreaking. My favorite event at the Relay is the Miss Relay Beauty Contest. Men dress up as women and dance for money. Man, those are some ugly women! We always leave when they start reading the In Memoriam list because it always makes me cry.

This year, my sister and I made shirts with Mary Ann Jackson's face on it (she was one of the Little Rascals) and she is making a very sour face. They read Cancer Can Kiss It! Made a lot of people smile.

Have a great week, Everyone!

Anonymous · May 2015

Doc has talked me into going back on Arimidex. Insomnia has started already and it's only Day 2. If that's the only side effect, I may be able to handle it for one more year since my 4th ReBirthday was April 19th and I'd only have to take it one more year. Fingers crossed.

Didn't get a chance to get cheezed off today because a friend called and warned me that pushy door-to-door salesmen were in the area. I put a sign on my door that said " No, I don't want to buy anything, but anyone ringing my doorbell will be going home with a kitten." Can you hear the crickets?

Now I'll tell you what DID cheeze me off and you tell me if I'm being petty. I was with our county school system (Special ED.) for over 20 years when I was diagnosed and took early retirement. During my teaching years, I gave money, food, blankets, etc. every time someone was diagnosed with BC and believe me it happened often. I visited them at home and the hospital. After I retired (and yes everyone knew about my dx),I never heard from any of my coworkers. No calls, cards, visits, nothing! I was really hurt but I never said anything. Today, I got an email that said one of the younger teachers who worked at the school for one year before I left has decided to have a double mastectomy because her brca score was so high. She doesn't have BC but has elected to have the surgery. I understand and God knows I sympathize but. here's the cheeze. These people who treated me like I had the plague and haven't talked to me in 4 years want to know what days I want to take food to her family and how much I want to donate. WHAT! Where were you when my family and I needed you? I only saw this girl in the cafeteria on occasion and she never was friendly. She doesn't know me from Adam's housecat! Am I wrong to feel hurt? Am I wrong to feel cheezed off?

ananda8 · May 2015

rohanna,

Sorry you and I are up so late. I had terrible insomnia on Arimidex. It did go away after I stopped the drug. Now I just have normal occasional "can't sleep" .

No, you're not wrong to be cheezed off. You have two choices. You can explain your feelings to the woman who called, or you can just ignore all of them because they aren't worth the breath it takes to explain.

My younger sister never called me when I was going through treatment, not once. Now she has cancer and complained to me that none of her friends called her. I told her that I understood how she felt. My comment went right over her head.

I've stopped trying to figure out people.

Hope you can get some sleep.

Spookiesmom · May 2015

No, you aren't wrong to feel cheezed.Had similar happen to me. 23 years working for my school district. Did the collections, food drives, etc. nothing from my former co workers, card, call, NOTHING.

Phooey on them. Then when one called to invite me to the annual picnic, it was really hard to bite my tongue

Wren44 · May 2015

No, you're definitely not wrong to be cheezed. I would be tempted to tell her that since you evidently dropped off the planet when you quit working there, she might want to delete your email address. What nerve!

mel147 · May 2015

Rocky - sounds like your mom has a good sense of humor! I hope things went well last week for her with the spinal stimulator!

Rohanna - I totally forgot about the Relay beauty contest! That will be something to look forward to for sure! What a great idea you had for the shirts! I'll let you know if I see any good ones on Friday. Sorry to hear the insomnia has already set in...that stinks. My Claritin-D messed with me the other night, so I'm not taking it at night any more. A few folks recommended AllegraD so I'm going to try that instead. I can't believe the nerve of your former co-workers. I don't even know how I would respond to that - maybe I wouldn't respond at all since I would probably be snarky if I did. That's just crazy and you definitely have a right to be cheezed off!

Happy Memorial Day to all! I've not been on a lot lately since my shoulder has been bothering me when I'm on the computer too much, but I really enjoy connecting with everyone when I am here!

Anonymous · May 2015

Thanks, everyone, I was feeling a little bit guilty over how I felt. Now I don't, I'm just mad! I see these posts all over the FB page for our school telling her how much she is loved and missed. Hell, she'll be back in August. I was unable to go back! I was talking about this to my sister and she said, "Well, you know you were never an A$$kisser, so maybe that's the problem." Maybe, But I was always friendly and supportive, so what am I now? Typhoid Mary?

She also pointed out that this teacher is in her late 20's and maybe that gets her more support. Maybe. Anyway, I'm over it. Moving on!

Rocky, I hope you got good results on your Mom's test. Fingers crossed.

Mel, hope your shoulder feels better. My cousin is a Nursing Supervisor at a retirement home and she told me about a pain cream that all the patients are using with awesome results. Don't laugh, but it's called Two Old Goats. (Not making this up.) I told her I'd tried every cream on the planet and none worked for my knee pain. She said if it didn't work, she'd take me shoe shopping in Nashville. (Crazy girl, I'd break her bank account!) I went to a store called Stockdale's and purchased a small bottle. HOLY CROW! This stuff works! She gets hers off Amazon. I wish I could bathe in it! The smell isn't great, but the results are phenomenal. My knees have never been so happy!

Now for your laugh of the day. Today, I went outside to spray a wasp nest on my carport and heard a noise next door. When I looked, there was a golden retriever "getting busy" with a chihuahua. Yep, just let that mind picture settle in! I don't know if he was successful, but he sure was focused. I went over to get the big dog off the poor thing and she gave me a "Mind 'ya business" look and they continued on down the street like a couple of teenaged rabbits. Cars were stopping and staring and one man whipped out his cell phone to take video. One lady yelled out indignantly, "Are those your dogs?" I yelled, "OH, hell no!" and went back in the house. Now here's the kicker, they were in the lady's yard next door and she's a ho. Different men dragged home by her drunk a## every weekend. How did those dogs know to put on that porn show in a ho's yard? Life is weird!

Stay safe, Cheezers!

Here's what cheezed me off today

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