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michelle888
michelle888 Member Posts: 48
edited May 2015 in Just Diagnosed

Hi everyone - I just found this site and just want to say that I am so glad there is something like this site out there for resources and an ear for what we are going through.

I'm 35. DH (ha) found two little lumps that didn't go away a couple months after we first became aware. Dr. thought it was a cyst/fibroadenoma but sent me for a mammogram/ultrasound just in case. Mammogram actually showed nothing but the ultrasound of the lumps looked a little off so I opted for the biopsy right then and there (Radiologist said I could wait 6 months and monitor but I thought hey just get it done).

Apparently both lumps showed cancer cells - invasive ductal carcinoma grade 2-3 and I'm triple positive. The tumors are small. T1 (maybe 1cm)

I have a surgery date but am still reading to decide what to do (lumpectomy + radiation or mastectomy --- just the left boob for now)

I'm reading reading. Getting a little overwhelmed.

I'm generally keeping it together. Having two kids under 3 keeps me busy and distracted.

Just wanted to introduce myself and I'm just really glad there is a resource like this.

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  • gypsyjo
    gypsyjo Member Posts: 304
    edited May 2015

    Hi Michelle, Sorry that you have had to join us but so glad that you found us. I joined the site in February and have found it immensely useful. There is so much information, I would look at the links for both of your options and also for IDC to start with. You can then join discussion groups linked to them or open your own topic to get further answers. I found much more information here than I was given by my medical team. You can also personal message individuals to ask further questions, myself included. This is very doable.

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  • ml143333
    ml143333 Member Posts: 658
    edited May 2015

    Michelle - So sorry you have joined us, but you've come to the right place for information and support.  Right now, you are in information overload.  Read what you can and ask questions.  There are many discussion groups on so many different topics or you can create your own.

     

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  • mdg
    mdg Member Posts: 3,571
    edited May 2015


    Sorry you find yourself in our club...  The beginning is the hardest part of all of this.  My son was only 4 when I was diagnosed so I can relate to having young kids while going through this.  The decision for surgery is a very personal one.  There is no right answer - only the right answer for you.  I opted for BMX because my mammogram did not show my lump and I felt like I wanted to treat things aggressively since my son was so young.  I was also in good health and active so I had confidence I could recover well from surgery.  I also had great disability insurance at work so I didn't have to worry about that while recovering.  There are so many things to think about when making this decision.  You will figure out what is the best for you.  My only advice is make a decision that you can live with.  I was too much of a worrier so I knew I would not be able to do a lumpectomy.  I was not that attached to my breasts....I got new ones and went a bit bigger which was nice.  I don't have any regret with my decision though I wish I never had to do any of this.  Best of luck!  Hugs!

     

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  • msphil
    msphil Member Posts: 1,536
    edited May 2015

    honey so glad u found this site, when i was diagnosed back 21 yrs ago (Praise GOD) i didnt know of this site or if it even was around then, dontbelieve so, But with my family, Fiancee at time, we were planning our 2nd weddingwhen i found the lump, family and friends were such a help and support for me. I pray that u will find all u need here, pretty sure you will. Im here to encourage others to keep HOPE as i did, and Faith got me thru. msphil(idc,stage2, 0/3 nodes, L mast, chemo and rads and now 21 yr Survivor

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  • Misty99
    Misty99 Member Posts: 10
    edited May 2015

    hi Michelle,

    Sorry about your diagnosis, but you'll find lots of support. I hang around a lot when I was first diagnosed, often quietly reading.

    I was a young mummy like you when I was diagnosed, my two kids were under 3. It was a horrible time but yet I drew so much strength from my kids. I was triple positive like you, but my cancer was larger than yours. I am two years out, though not a long time, but life is normal once again.


    Hope you work out a treatment plan soon. It gets easier as time goes on. Feel free to pm if you wanna talk.



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  • Leo1975
    Leo1975 Member Posts: 7
    edited May 2015

    Michelle, I am so sorry to hear about your recent diagnosis but I am glad you found this site. I am recently diagnosed as well and find the support and discussions here help a lot. I have also found it helpful when my doctor put me in touch with local survivors. I live in South Carolina and we have a local non for profit foundation that reaches out to breast surgeons and oncologists that in turn discuss the group with patients a resource. When my doctor mentioned this local group at first I was like slow down let me just wrap my mind around the fact you told me I have breast cancer. And in the last month as more information became available to me about my cancer such as the pathology, subtype, need for chemo, node biopsy, that was positive and the rapid evolving treatment plan, chemo, radiation and surgery, I became very overwhelmed. Especially the last 2 weeks its been very overwhelming, I asked my doctor please put me in contact with the group she had mentioned. Boy I am glad I did, a local survivor called me, we talked and she opened a world of help, suddenly I have gained several sister survivors. Now I know this not the club everyone is lining up to join nor is this the sorority I envisioned I would be in but I am glad I did. The support from the online group is great and the personal support of a phone call and that these women will help with babysitting and sitting with you at chemo is huge. I don't mean to overwhelm you but I hope you find this helps a little.

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