I can't believe I'm handling this so poorly!

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SillyStraw
SillyStraw Member Posts: 5
edited April 2015 in Waiting for Test Results

I had a stereotactic biopsy Tuesday. The dr told me she'd have results by Friday -- which was yesterday. Still waiting.

When the microcalcs were first discovered, I was confident it was b9. I even asked the BS if we could wait a few months. My DH and the BS were insistent that I have the biopsy ASAP.

I never worried about BC. I just felt that I was safe since my mom didn't have it. Now I know more and see that I am higher risk.

I keep thinking of how the radiologist and the BS were adamant that I have the biopsy RIGHT AWAY.

So I'm worried. I can't concentrate. I have no interest in doing anything. My DH is now acting like I'm crazy to think It could be BC. If he is so certain, then why did he push me into the biopsy?

I wish I were stronger! How can I pull myself together

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  • Ridley
    Ridley Member Posts: 634
    edited April 2015

    sillystraw- my advice is to be kind to yourself. This is hard. If possible do something with someone while you are waiting - walking, bike riding, hiking, going to a movie. Hope you get b9 results on Monday.

  • Beachbum1023
    Beachbum1023 Member Posts: 1,417
    edited April 2015

    Hi sillystraw, the wait and the waiting more is the worst part. Our heads just go to the dark place. Try to relax, it is nothing until it is something! In other words, don't borrow trouble. Don't guess, just wait until you have the results. I hope you have good news!

  • Fakeboobs123
    Fakeboobs123 Member Posts: 92
    edited April 2015

    Silly when was your biopsy done? Mine was done on Wednesday morning and radiologist said "he'd try and rush it and maybe call me Friday afternoon". Originally he told me 2-4 working days. Well no call Friday. I attempted to call the radiologist but got scheduling who tried to transfer me but I got a busy signal, that was at 3:30pm or so. Called my mom in Europe to get some sympathy about this wait by the time I'd finished talking to her if was after office hours. My radiologist mammography place says it's hours of 8-4pm on Fridays. I will be calling Monday for my result. The radiologist said the Breast surgeon usually calls with the results but he's quicker at checking the computer than them, so if I wanted he would call me, he wrote my number on a post it and put it on top of my paperwork. I have Breast implants so the 'nodule' they've found is near the implant so they couldn't do a core biopsy as they were worried about needle going in too far and rupturing implant so I had to have a fine needle biopsy going in twice, he put the stuff on the slides, looked at it under the microscope and said he had some cellular stuff and enough of it for pathology to work with. I'm VERY anxious and just been in this strange state of limbo. My radiologist had appendicitis the morning I was supposed to get the core biopsy so he booked himself in for a CT scan and all appointments were cancelled. My Breast surgeon said she thought she could do it, so I came to see her the next morning, along with some bloke from the ultrasound company so they could try this new needle that doesn't go in as far, but she stopped after about ten mins of trying and said she was too nervous about hitting implant as the mass was v close. So it's been 2 weeks of waiting to see what's going on. I am 32, a mom of a 5 yr old and separated from my husband, my family live in Europe and I'm in NY. Let's pray for benign results Monday. My surgeon did say that sometimes they are already talking about taking lumps out even before biopsies are done so there's hope for us yet. Let's think good thoughts.

  • SillyStraw
    SillyStraw Member Posts: 5
    edited April 2015

    Thank you all for your responses. I have taken your advice Ridley and been kind to myself today. Beachbum, I think it's less likely to be cancer than that they'll keep finding suspicious spots and i'll have to have biopsies year after year.

    FakeBoobs: How awful that your radiologist got appendicitis! Glad you were able to get the biopsy done the next day.

    I've only told a couple of people but it seems that everyone has forgotten about it. Nobody has mentioned it. I'm glad because i feel like people want to say something "comforting" but instead it makes me feel like I'm making a big deal out of nothing, that it's silly to worry. I guess I just need to keep that in mind.

    I have a friend who had thyroid cancer. She didn't miss a beat. She was organizing girls nights out and seemed so energetic. I admired her strength and feel like a failure for feeling so drained.




  • Fakeboobs123
    Fakeboobs123 Member Posts: 92
    edited April 2015

    Thyroid cancer is "one of the best cancers to have" has one of highest cure rates, I was told this before I went for a thyroid ultrasound because PCP felt my thyroid was enlarged. I was panicking but didn't sweat the results when I heard that from two different doctors. Now I'm terrified, I'm just exhausted from worrying night and day and praying that now I'm feeling subdued. I go from feeling confident to feeling very scared. I also feel guilty I'm only now contemplating what people with cancer go through, I am a student nurse and I realize that helping people is a real priviledge, yet we get all the thanks from the patients when it's really them doing ALL the heavy lifting.

  • SillyStraw
    SillyStraw Member Posts: 5
    edited April 2015

    I just wanted to update.... The radiologist called to say the results are B9. 😀

    Wishing you the best

  • Ridley
    Ridley Member Posts: 634
    edited April 2015

    Awesome news! Celebrate

  • april485
    april485 Member Posts: 3,257
    edited April 2015

    YAY!! Love good news..especially here! Congrats!

  • Fakeboobs123
    Fakeboobs123 Member Posts: 92
    edited April 2015

    yay happy to hear this Silly

  • tjh
    tjh Member Posts: 469
    edited April 2015

    I have gone from routine mammogram to recovery from mastectomy 6 weeks, with 3 weeks of medical leave left. I am currently waiting for HER 2 and ONCO TYPE DX test results to decide treatment course They are due May 5. 1 moment I am fine waiting, the next I am going nuts. I am paranoid my daughters (37, 30, 13) will get bc. The older 2 are humoring Mom and getting mammograms. I am terrified of chemo and of the decision I made for single mastectomy. No questions, just a rant.

  • Fakeboobs123
    Fakeboobs123 Member Posts: 92
    edited April 2015

    I think family history accounts for around ten percent of Breast cancers maybe slightly more. I hope your treatment is straight forward. I can't believe within six weeks of a mammogram you've already had a masectomy, although that's a great thing. I'm in my thirties just had an MRl and ultrasound, has to be ultrasound for us because of denser breasts when younger, now I have baseline scans and am being monitored regularly I feel less anxious and I hope this is the case for your daughters. I hope you get your treatment plan very soon

  • tjh
    tjh Member Posts: 469
    edited April 2015

    How long do drains stay in? I had 1 out at the first post op check but the second on is still in...going on 4 weeks.

  • Fakeboobs123
    Fakeboobs123 Member Posts: 92
    edited April 2015

    tjh if you haven't already post your question about the drains here:


    https://community.breastcancer.org/forum/91


    That's a section for people who have had surgery people in the know will be there

  • shorfi
    shorfi Member Posts: 791
    edited April 2015

    Doing the happy dance for you. Such a relief...phew...Been there done that too.

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