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  • HuntingtonNY
    HuntingtonNY Member Posts: 31
    edited April 2015

    wishing you all the best . . . . . .

  • HuntingtonNY
    HuntingtonNY Member Posts: 31
    edited April 2015

    Greetings surgery sisters,

    Good news

    I had my lumpectomy last Monday and the follow up today . . . . margins were clean . . .yeah! . . It's been a tense week. My only family ( my daughters ) live in Cali & I still live in NY. I am grateful to my surrogate son who came up to be with me ( 3 hr drive ) in the hospital after working a 12 hr shift with FDNY , got me cold packs and ice pops as well as my surrogate sister who came with me to my apt today. My surgeon looks surprised when she entered the exam room. I introduced Colleen as my surrogate sister, and as she shook her hand Colls said, it's ok I've seen her naked before. Anything to break the tension. I am going on vacation to visit my kids next week. When I get back home I'll meet with a radiologist and we will discuss radiation therapy.

    This sounds strange but I have two friends who are going through hell. Erin has been going through chemo treatments for a solid year, and Lynne had her cancer return like a hammer a few months ago. And I feel kind of guilty that this was caught very early and it was a cancer that could be dealt with.

  • DayLily15
    DayLily15 Member Posts: 144
    edited April 2015

    Thinking of Hockeygoddess for tomorrow !

  • downdog
    downdog Member Posts: 1,432
    edited April 2015

    Welcome surgery sisters tara_ and Brandi999 to the April group!

    HuntingtonNY, great to hear that you got clear margins. You can empathize and support them, but try not to feel guilty about your friends' situations vs your own.

    For anyone who hasn't tried deep breathing, it really can help relax you as a coping tool for stress. It has psychological and physiological benefits. It also gives you something to focus on. The exhalation should be longer, as it invokes the parasympathetic nerve system, activating your vagus nerve to slow down heart and respiratory rates. Try it lying down before doing it sitting. Put your hand on your belly and inhale and try to expand your belly as if it is being filled with air as your chest expands. As you exhale let your chest collapse first and then your belly. Work down to 4 breaths per minute for maximum therapeutic benefit. Start by counting to 5 as you inhale, count to 6 as you exhale. If you can't hold your breath for 5 seconds, just count at a faster pace. Always take longer for your exhalation. Work up to holding your breath for a few counts before exhaling.

    Sending best wishes and healing energy to hartrish, Chrisrenee77 (you're our veteran sister and your granny is a great inspiration to us!) and Queen_Celeste on your surgeries tomorrow.

  • shelly4321
    shelly4321 Member Posts: 16
    edited April 2015

    Hey everyone I had a double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction with tissue expanders.They said I was handling the pain too well to be kept overnight so they sent on my way with lortab and an antibiotics. I didn't have any nausea until my hubby came home with fried chicken the smell made me vomit, but then I was fine. I wanted to let all of you know that the more positive you attitude is the less it will hurt. Of course it really does feel like I got hit with a bat to the chest. My nodes were negative so that is good news. Deep breathing is helping. I am so glad it is over with. Just relax and go with the flow. Smile. When you smile the people around you smile and the whole situation becomes easier to deal with

  • SoutherMother
    SoutherMother Member Posts: 111
    edited April 2015

    RedPorchLady, has the
    nerve in the flabby part of your arm settled down?

    MySunShine, hope you are feeling better today.  You mentioned using a laxative for pain med constipation.  Do you recommend one that has worked?  My PS suggested Colace but I have not used that one before.

    Lmonelli, have you talked to anyone who has used the Pink Pockets?  Are they attached by adhesive?  I am interested but am wondering how much weight they can take?  If the drain/bulb is full, it might weigh too much? I checked out the website but didn't see any mention of weight load.

    DownDog, thanks for the breathing instructions.  In the 1970's I took the Lamaze breathing classes for childbirth.  The deep slow breathing technique was very helpful.  They said to visualize on the exhale that you were slowly blowing out a candle.  Would that be in par with your exhale instructions?

    Shelly4321, Wow, it sounds like you are breezing right though the first day. Your vomiting from the smell of the fried chicken brought back memories from chemotherapy when smell/taste were so sensitive.  In hindsight it is funny, but not so when it is happening.

    I am sending out best wishes for HockeyGoddess's surgery today.  Hartrish, Chrisrenee, and Queen Celeste are next up to bat so have a good nights rest and a successful surgery. 

  • AudreyB
    AudreyB Member Posts: 377
    edited April 2015


    Hi everyone!  I have a call into to BS but just wondering if anyone has heard of this.  I was diagnosed with IDC in left Breast, and LCIS, DCIS in right breast.  Lumpectomies on both.  This morning, I found a very hard lump at the bottom of my right breast, right where the breast skin meets the rib cage skin, with a long cord running down my ribcage.  I noticed the cord like thing on my ribcage first, then realized the lump was there also.  I am remaining calm, but a little freaked out too.

  • AudreyB
    AudreyB Member Posts: 377
    edited April 2015


    Upon some investigation, looks like I may have Mondor Disease, a benign cording condition that usually goes away in 12 weeks and is nothing to worry about. 

    Finally, something I don't have to worry about. 

  • SoutherMother
    SoutherMother Member Posts: 111
    edited April 2015

    Audrey, I am no medical profession, so take my response with that in mind.  It sounds like cording. Your symptoms sound like what I had.  Mine was cleared up with a little therapy.  It happens because your lymph node system has been messed with and the normal drainage route disturbed.  I was scared too when I first found it.  Glad you are checking with your doctor.

  • AudreyB
    AudreyB Member Posts: 377
    edited April 2015


    Thank you SoutherMother!  I had sentinel lymph node removal on left side, this is happening on the right side, but I guess its all wrapped up together inside.  LOL 

  • Lmonelli
    Lmonelli Member Posts: 95
    edited April 2015

    SoutherMother. They hold two drains each pocket. I believe it's removable adhesive that doesn't ruin the clothing. They shipped them today I should get them in 3 days. I'll let you know. Your surgery is a day before mine.

  • mysunshine48
    mysunshine48 Member Posts: 1,480
    edited April 2015

    I am using pink pockets too. Google "pink pockets". They stick inside any button up shirt. They serve the purpose - I am just wearing my own button up shirts. The pink pockets just have sticky tape on them.

  • mysunshine48
    mysunshine48 Member Posts: 1,480
    edited April 2015

    Queenceles....prayers go with you to surgery tomorrow!


  • mysunshine48
    mysunshine48 Member Posts: 1,480
    edited April 2015

    Sothernmother - I used stool softeners (target brand) generic - 2 each day and ate about 4 prunes a day. Worked, and I felt much better.

  • labhusky
    labhusky Member Posts: 177
    edited April 2015

    Help!  I just got back from my surgeon and he removed the 2 drains which makes me feel better but now I have the report to deal with.  He took out 21 nodes, 11 were bad.  My stage went from 2a to 3c.  He recomends chemo.  I see my oncologist the 28th and I know he will recomend chemo.  I dont want it, im scared.  Im 58 now, my birthday is may 5th boy do I feel like hell.  Any words of advice?  Pathological staging is 3c, pt2, pn3a   cmx   estrogen receptor positive 2.2% 1.5 of 3.0, progesteron receptor negative  0%  kI-67 unfavorable  26.8%  P53 negative  her-2/neu by IHC  OVEREXPRESSION

  • MJS1266
    MJS1266 Member Posts: 222
    edited April 2015

    labhusky, Sorry for your unanticipated bad news. While no one ever wants chemo, don't be afraid it. It is another way to cure this horrible disease. I have grade 3 ER+/PR + and HR - cancer. Because we knew in advance that I had cancer in at least two lymph nodes my MO recommended chemo first and the surgeon agreed. I had 4 Dose Dense Adriamicyn and Cytoxan then 12 weekly Taxol. Your MO will probably recommend the same or very similar. When I had surgery a month following chemo, the pathology report was negative for cancer both in the original tumor and the lymph nodes as well as everything else that was removed. Chemo did its job and it will work for you too. The chemo was not as bad as I thought and I was not nauseous or sick at all. I did have some side effects, mostly I was tired with little energy, no one gets them all but none were impossible to live with. I hated loosing my hair, but it is growing back now. There is also hormonal therapy for those who are ER/PR + after chemo.

    All the best, Mary-Jo

  • M0mmyof3
    M0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,696
    edited April 2015

    Having surgery next week to take out my expanders and put the permanent implants in!


     

  • Redporchlady
    Redporchlady Member Posts: 113
    edited April 2015

    Downdog - It is Zofran that I was taking sublingually.  We have a cancer center that is only 10 miles from our home but we chose to go to a bigger cancer center that is 3 hours away and I am glad we did because I do like that they offer alternative methods to pain and nausea.  My regular ONC was a fellows because the rest of the ONC's on your team are constantly doing research.  The fellows will talk to the team and everyone gets to weigh in on how each case should be treated.  I like how they also with any treatment would bring up past clinical trials to let us make a determination on what my path would be.

    labhusky- I am so sorry about your pathology report.  I had neoadjuvant  chemo therapy because my tumor was so large and I had a very aggressive cancer.  My lymph nodes lit up like a Christmas tree on the PET Scan.  I did 5 months of chemo and my surgeon wanted to remove all my lymph nodes because he was positive that at least one still had cancer but it didn't.  The chemo treatments killed all the cancer  and when they did surgery they removed all dead tissue.  You can do this and just think of the chemo as going out to attack those cancer cells.  I am stage 3a and I know the staging scares you because it did me too but remember it is just a number and every individual is different.  Stay strong and know we are all cheering you on!  

    HuntingtonNY - glad to hear about your clear margins!  Sorry to hear about your friends going thru cancer too.  I never had anyone close to me go thru any of this so I now have an understanding of anyone that has to go thru any part of the treatment even if caught early.  It is emotional and scary. 

    SoutherMother - the pain has settled down a little but I still can't touch that area as it just feels like I am taking sandpaper to it.  That is funny you say that about smells and chemotherapy because I can remember when getting treatments - One week I wanted eggs and then the next week the smell of eggs would make me gag.  I have not had eggs since!  I don't know if you had any problems with your tongue but mine was super sensitive.  It still is because I ate a couple of Dorito's last night and my tongue was on fire!

    Lmonelli - That would be handy to have the shirts or pockets!  I don't want to return to work until the drain is removed because I just don't know how to hide it.  Right now it is still cool enough here that I can wear big baggy sweatshirts but I don't have any dress clothes that would hide them.  My surgeon said it could be up to 3-4 weeks before the axilla drain is removed. 

    Speedy recovery to those who are still recovering and prayers to everyone going to surgery yet.  This has been a great group to be a part of to help us thru this life challenge we have all been presented with. 

  • DayLily15
    DayLily15 Member Posts: 144
    edited April 2015

    Hello

    i wanted to wish the best for Hartrish, Chrisrenee, and Queen Celeste tomorrow.

    labhusky - hugs :)

  • patty101014
    patty101014 Member Posts: 53
    edited April 2015

    hi there! I am two days out from BMX and think I doing well. I had only one node removed and it was benign. I was planned for a lat flap but ended up having enough serratus to get the coverage needed for tissue expanders (I lost some skin and pec and will need rads on the cancer side? Hence the planned lat flap). Originally planned to come home today or tomorrow but I was released yesterday afternoon, I am sore and am getting a little build up in my left lung but otherwise doing wrk

  • HuntingtonNY
    HuntingtonNY Member Posts: 31
    edited April 2015

    DayLily15 . . . sending positive healing thoughts and prayers to you.

  • mjh1
    mjh1 Member Posts: 445
    edited April 2015

    Hello all my brave warrior sisters.  I hope I can join this group.  I was in the February group as a sister in waitig and still am in waiting.  As I'm still in the process of the finding anothe PS, I'm sure you will all be done before me, but if you have any questions, please feel free to ask.  Good luck to my fellow sisters in their upcoming surgeries.

  • Lmonelli
    Lmonelli Member Posts: 95
    edited April 2015

    redporchlady...I'll let you know how they work i should be getting them in 3 days. Im sure you can use them for your dress clothes

  • Lmonelli
    Lmonelli Member Posts: 95
    edited April 2015

    To Hartrish,Chrisrenee, and Queen Celeste. Sending lots of wishes for a speedy recovery. Goodluck tomorrow! I'm 2 weeks behind you.

  • SoutherMother
    SoutherMother Member Posts: 111
    edited April 2015

    MySunShine, thanks for the information on the laxative, prunes and pink pockets. (Almost a tongue twister)

    Lmonelli, I will order the pink pockets too.  Thanks for the idea.  We will be holding each other up until our surgeries.

    AudreyB,  Glad you have an idea what the cording is from.  Does it resolve itself without any therapy?

    RedPorchLady, Oh no, not the Doritos.  LOL.  I didn't have a sensitive tongue but I was like a hound dog when it came to smells during chemotherapy. Once the smell hit, nausea was right behind it.  It was all bland food for a few months. 

    LabHusky,  I see you have had a previous breast cancer and slowly marched through that process.  Taking small chunks of this new information and working with it might help.  Getting a treatment plan from your Oncologist will be a great first step.  When I got my second breast cancer diagnosis, I wanted to leave the state. I didn't want to go through any of it.  Being able to research the chemo drugs in my treatment plan and searching these boards helped greatly.  We will be here for you. 

  • dtorrent
    dtorrent Member Posts: 17
    edited April 2015

    Just an update, a week today from my BMX and 2x SNB, and I feel like I have finally turned a corner! Actually went out to lunch with my husband. No prescription pain meds, just Tylenol.

    Tomorrow is my followup and path report.

    Labhusky, thinking of you!

  • downdog
    downdog Member Posts: 1,432
    edited April 2015

    shelly4321, negative nodes, yea!!

    SoutherMother, yes, Lamaze classes are the same concept. I personally exhale through my nostrils, but that's a yoga thing, and exhaling through your mouth will be equally effective. Blowing out a candle is a good analogy - you want a slow constant stream of air, so you don't expel it all right away. I tend to exhale through my mouth for exertion activities like tennis swings, running, cycling up a steep hill, but these are all quick. Exhale in whatever manner seems most natural and comfortable for you.

    labhusky, I am sorry to hear about your path report. It seems devastating and takes time to digest, but just remember you are not a statistic. I can't speak personally about chemo, but so many women on this board and other April sisters, like SoutherMother, have walked your path and can give you advice. You will get through this. Your April surgery sisters will be with you all the way through. The chemo threads sisters will be with you. Reach out and get the support you need. It will be tough, it will be ugly at times, but you will make it through and be OK. You've got lots of years of life to live ahead of you and in a few months this will be just a nasty blip. You will kick cancer's ass.

    patty101014, good that your were able to come home early. If getting physio is an option for you, you may want to consider this, since your PS used your serratus anterior for TE coverage. Rotator cuff and and shoulder stability, particularly scapular function (your shoulder blades) can potentially be impacted.

    Welcome M0mmyof2 and mjh1! M0mmyof2, I'm sure you are more than ready to say good-bye to your TEs. mjh1, happy to have you join us. Hope you find a PS with whom you are comfortable soon to give you what you need.

  • M0mmyof3
    M0mmyof3 Member Posts: 9,696
    edited April 2015

    Down, you are so right. I'm sick of my TEs.

  • evelynsfirstborn
    evelynsfirstborn Member Posts: 29
    edited April 2015

    Dear Surgery Sisters, So comforting to know I am not alone. I am having bilateral simple nipple-sparing mastectomy on April 24. Small DCIS discovered on 12/31/14 in right breast (happy new year, you have cancer). I'm BRCA1 positive so not a total shock. But I'm a supremely healthy 60, single, always independent & have never had a health problem or major surgery. Scared out of my wits & can't believe I'll be off work for 3-4 weeks. Oh, forgot to mention that I'm getting immediate reconstruction w/ expanders on same date. I expect the recovery to be a nightmare. The good news is that no radiation or chemo necessary. Just gotta get thru recovery from surgery. Thanks for the positive energy & great suggestions. Praying for all of us. Hugs & kisses.

  • Outdoorswoman
    Outdoorswoman Member Posts: 28
    edited April 2015

    Hi all thought I would let you know my BMX surgery went really well. I went in at 8 AM and was back in my room by 11:00 AM I was released at 4 PM. I had a nerve block that blocked the nerves from the edge of the spine to the chest, this will last about 48 hours. Had a good night at the hotel, had dinner and just relaxed. I took one pain pill for the 2 1/2 hour ride home this morning. I have to agree with everyone's statements on the drains are a big hassle, but it is better than changing bandages and having swelling. Overall things are coming alone.

    Good luck to everyone💟😊

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