How do you stop obsessing about it?

Early on it is normal to be thinking about it and the only thing I can say is that it takes time. Once you have your final dx and prognosis that may help some of that obsession, but even then it is hard.

Working can help, if you can find something to occupy your mind for even a few minutes it can be helpful. I would also suggest asking for medication that can help your anxiety.

((Hugs))

I agree with everyone else--now is your time to obsess and your need to obsess will diminish with time. Maybe the first idea is to objectively examine your sense of impending death. Is that realistic? I doubt it very much. I suspect you will live many years with this disease.

Hi there, it's been one year today since my biopsy. I am the worlds biggest worrier, I even worry about having nothing to worry about. Every little pain worried me, if I got a headache I thought it was cancer in my brain! I can finally say after 1 year of treatment, one test after another, it is finally starting to feel better. I find myself not thinking about it all the time. I don't wake up and get a fright when I remember I had breast cancer. So it may take a while, but you will get there. This forum definitely helps because we all understand what the early days are like. Good luck on your journey.

you got some good advise above , mine is to stay busy, take a hike, play tennis or whatever you like but keep your mind and body busy

and best it should not be with Dr Google

I think you need a manicure or pedicure~~

I think Nash brings up an interesting issue. Initially BCO and all things cancer terrified me so I avoided it and even tossed out all the books and gifts anyone gave me related to my cancer diagnosis. I wanted them gone. That really didn't work for me. Then I started coming here and immersing myself in things, and now that the light of day has shone on the beast he's not as scary. So many wise comments above - time IS a healer - you are grieving - it is very early - feel whatever you feel. Another sister told me recovery has its own timeline and it is not linear. Just put one foot in front of the other. Just focus on that. Hugs to you.

The main thing that has helped me through this diagnosis is to try to keep  life as normal as possible.  I have worked full time through the whole thing.  I have done all the same activities I did before.  I feel like if you dont look sick-you wont feel as sick...so i try to put make up, fix my hair, etc...to keep myself feeling better.  Most people cant believe I am sick or dont even know-I like that.  Helps me have inner strength.  I think only time and how we approach this thing is the biggest things that will help you.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you! & to ALL of us . I was a wreck. I shook, I cried, I couldn't concentrate long enough to remember if I had conditioned my hair in the shower. It gets easier the more information you get. But even then there are so many options to obsess over. I had to medicate, it was the only way I could function. .5mg of Clonazepam every 12 hours as needed. Some days I take it every 12 hours, some weeks I don't need it at all. Some days just knowing I CAN take it if I need it helps. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

I wish I had found this discussion board as early as you have. It's been so informative & reassuring. The women I've interacted with have been amazingly kind & generous with their time & info. I've lost myself for hours on end in these topics... Losing myself is justwhat I need some times.

Good luck to you, just keep putting one foot in front of the other! ❤️

I was just recently diagnosed with IDC in my left breast. I have met with the doctor and we are just waiting for the MRI results before we move forward. I find myself pouring over information some good and some not so helpful. It is so hard at this point to not think of anything else. For me what has helped a bit is the fact that I am able to work and I continue to exercise. I want to try to be as healthy as I can before the surgery. I am so very scared and kind of on my own with my thoughts. Asking help from others is so very hard for me.... So I thought I would start here... I know I may be rambling but that is how my brain is working right now... So much to take in and digest... I have to tell myself to put down the iPad all the time....not sure what the new normal is going to be

seshaw - so sorry about the devastating news. For many of us this is our first brush w our own mortality and is a tough thing to face. You are so smart to stay busy and exercise. That's going to help physically and emotionally. There is no easy way through this but you'll find a lot of support here. I joined the surgery sister thread and that was very helpful. Please know you are not alone. Someone is here 24/7 and ready to help