Pity party weight gain...need help.
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Bren...that lady STOLE MY BIKINI!!!! Too funny.
MsP
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Here's an idea that might work for some -- 3 friends and I have started a little support group -- we call it our Healthy Living Group We all have fitbits that are linked to each other and all have myfitnesspal accounts. We started at the beginning of the year -- meet once a month and have a call in between our in-person meetings. We don't only talk about weight loss, but it is a goal for all of us. Our focus is to encourage each other and help hold ourselves accountable. I love it. We don't fuss too much over organization -- just show up and start talking.
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Hi Weight Warriors,
Ridley .. what a great idea. I'm not sure it would work for me as I live out in the country and still don't know anyone in the area. But, I am walking my dog every day down in my fields and getting some exercise that way. When I lived in San Diego, I had a girlfriend that I walked 4 miles with every day. It was great having the company and someone else to compare notes with. I'm glad Raidergirl started this thread ... I feel like I have company now trying to lose these extra pounds.
MsP ... I swear my swim suit today looks nothing like the bikini I wore when I was 20 ... bawahahaha! It has a little black skirt thing with a halter top. I think it's called a tankini. And since I have a bad history of skin cancer, I'm no longer suntanning and have had to resort to a tanning lotion for the summer months.
Speaking of tanning lotion (sorry way off topic) does anyone else use the stuff and what kind works best?
Okay ... I did something stupid yesterday. After my doctor's appointment, I was pretty stressed out and then had to do the grocery shopping. I don't know what happened ... I walked out of the store with TWO POUNDS of jelly beans. I need some therapy.
hugs
Bren
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PS ... Can't remember who asked me about the dog in my avatar. It's my sis' dog Don Diego. He's a wire-haired weiner dog originally from a shelter in San Diego. We got Don Diego about 3 years ago from Oregon, he was our cousin's dog. Our cousin was dying of pancreatic cancer and we went out to see her. She couldn't bear to leave her little dog when she died, so she asked us to bring him back to Virginia with us. So ... we traveled by air cross country with a little dog in a carrier. My sis got to keep him as the fence around my yard wouldn't have kept him in.The dog I walk in my fields is a 100-lb black lab named Tank ... he needs the exercise!
hugs
Bren
Here's Tank
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Bren, I just wanted to drop in and see if I can help you lose weight. Send me all of the Jelly Beans, and I will send all of the Girl Scout cookies.Really lose weight? It is Girl Scout cookie time, and Easter. UGH, can this get any harder?? If I get in my car, I am going to drive right to Mama Jo's Pies, I think the Strawberry Cheese Pie has magical powers, every time I eat it I convince myself it is sugar free......and it is snowing today! No walk on the beach today.
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Beachbum ... sucks about the snowing. I am so sick of winter. I finally checked the calorie counts on the jelly beans. I have been avoiding this as I didn't want to feel any worse. They are only 10 calories each. The problem is I can eat handfuls at a time! I will gladly send them to you.How close are you to the lake? Can you walk there from your house?
They're calling for snow on Easter down here. Hope the forecast is wrong. I did check the weather in my hometown San Diego and it's going to be 80 degrees the day I travel there on April 4th. I can't freakin' wait!
hugs
Bren
PS ... I run past the Girl Scouts hawking cookies in front of walmart.
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Hi Bren, I live right on the Lake. I am on the 10th floor of a high rise so the view is amazing. Canada is directly North and I can see the lights at night. Very pretty from here. Those cookies and Jelly Beans, they look so innocent! Those little Scouts gave us the look, and boxes of cookies later, some thin mints. Nothing thin about them! I hope the weather is beautiful for the trip! Have fun, Cheryl -
Cheryl ... what a neat picture. How awesome ... right on the lake! No wonder you're so anxious for this winter to end. Can't wait to see pics when the snow has melted!hugs
Bren
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Beautiful picture, Beachbum.....who cares if you can't swim yet. Just gives more time to be fit and trim, I say. I always dread getting out the spring and summer wardrobe, but this year I only have an extra 5 pounds, so surely I can get that off. So much better than prior years, especially the spring 2014, when I had to take off all the treatment pounds, which were mostly caused by getting my taste buds back and going crazy. YUCK!
I am a big proponent of having a "buddy" when you are trying to lose or maintain weight. I like to encourage my buddy and be encouraged. I admit, sometimes I have to be called Fatty McFatterson to get me to select the right thing on the lunch menu. LOL
MsP
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I love my Fitbit and have the wrist band type. I'm convinced and pedometer will work along with a paper chart. My hobby is genealogy and the days I sit to work on my families I struggle to reach 5000 steps. My goal is 7500 steps a day and I know how many times I need to walk around the block to reach it. Our grandchildren received fitbits from Santa and they are connected to ours. Our 8 year old grandson averages 120,000 steps a week. I'm in the dust with under 50,000 but that's ok!
I can't diet and that is why I had to make life changes to lose weight and keep it off. Eliminating sweet things has worked for me. And the longer I'm off the easier it is. So no sweets and walking is working for me. I'll have to put up a new image so you can see the difference. Even my feet lost weight - so funny. And people tell me I look taller. I've been 5'10" tall since I was 13 a long long time ago. If I can do this - so can you!
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Grammakathy ... I like your style! That's very cool the whole family have Fitbits. I noticed you posted that eliminating sweets has really worked for you. This is my weakness. My SO is gone during the week (he's a truck driver) so I am able to really watch what I eat, but when he comes home on the weekend, he has to have candy, cake and sweets around. My willpower is in the toilet. I do pack everything up when he leaves for the week and send it with him. I really need to stay out of the grocery store when I'm hungry or stressed ... like the other day, when I was stressed after my appointment, I bought TWO POUNDS of jelly beans.
I guess I just need to pay close attention to my triggers for sweets and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Raidergirl .. how are you doing? You were kind of frazzled lately.
Beachbum ... it's 30 degrees here today with the wind chill factor. I am so f---ing over this weather. I can't breathe outside when it's like this to walk my dog.
hugs
Bren
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Hi Bren, I hope you have a very large dog to walk, it is super windy here today and the high is going to be 26 degrees. Yesterday we had snow. They uncovered the pool and it is frozen and now covered in snow. Pool season in Ohio. The Lake is froze, the pool is froze, but start early to have it ready for Memorial Day. When the season is 90 days, we don't have any days to waste!
I was doing pretty good on food cravings, but my sweet tooth has returned in a bad way. Last weekend we ran into the little sweet Girl Scouts smiling behind a mountain of cookies. Really?? So I took a dive into the thin mints and samoas. Ugh! Thankfully they are small boxes, and yep ate them all. Now it's almost Easter, and the first chocolate rabbit is going to be headless. Uh the head is attached to the ears and the ears are really small...........that's my excuse this year!
Grammakathy, a fitbit! And 50,000 steps I better get moving. My sneakers have dust on them. Good for you walking is great exercise though.
RaiderGirl, how are you? I hope you are doing well. Check in so we all know how you are this weekend.
I am going to try to figure out what shorts I have for summer. And maybe I will try them on too!
I thought I would actually drop weight after chemo and surgery. But alas no. Now I wonder how much all of my hair and 1 boob actually weighs. And I still gained weight. Have a great weekend! -
Hey Beachbum ... sucks even worse to be in Ohio now than in Virginia. My dog is big ... I managed to walk him to the mailbox. It's too cold to go hiking in my fields.Were you given steroids with your chemo ... I have heard that can cause weight gain as well.
My weekend is going well ... I'm actually working. I normally work every weekend and have a couple of days off during the week. I'm very fortunate as I work from home.
hugs
Bren
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How did everyone do this weekend? Yesterday I flat out binged on jelly beans. It's a wonder I don't get sick to my stomach. I did send all the cake, cookies and the rest of the beans with Tim when he left today. So it's a fresh start for me!It's going to be nice today and warm up some. Yay! It's about time to start mowing here and then I will get lots of exercise.
hugs
Bren
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Hi Bren....good for you to send off the goodies. I have been keeping up with my exercise but also enjoying good food. Easter is coming up and my daughter has invited us over for dinner, where I am sure there will be lots of delicious options for over-indulging. What is worse is that after Easter, all the chocolate (and those yummy marshmallow Peeps) goes on sale and I am a sucker for a good sale. I will just stay away from the stores, I think.
Love, MsP.
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Hi Bren, I did pretty well food wise, but we made magic cookie bars. Too good to pass up! So I had a few small ones, and I stepped away from the cookie bars. I guess this won't be magic, and it will take a few weeks to lose it.
The good news is I see more water then ice today, way more. I can hear the ice crashing into the other chunks and there are lots of small ice bergs out there. But it's sunny today, a good thing. Enjoy the afternoon. Cheryl
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Still keeping up with MyFitness Pal and the fitbit. For the first time ever "if I bite it, I write it". Looking over the past 40 days or so, I had about 6 days of excess eating, but I'm taking the good with the bad - all of it is my life. I just have to stay away from the sugar - it is like crack for me - makes we want more and more - sort of like that month I was on xanax right after diagnosis! Scary stuff!
Oh and I did take a look at my nutrition graph and it seems that generally I get about 50% of the protein I should, so thanks Claire for the tip. I am now making a conscious effort to get that in.
It is a gorgeous spring day here, the lilacs are blooming, and between DD and I our tiny garden is in. Not looking forward to the blasting heat, but that is Oklahoma for you.
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All I want to do right now is EAT (AND it's nothing healthy).... and I am not able to exercise until I get clearance from my BS. Fingers crossed for the approval on Friday!
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I hate that I'm watching TV and I wasn't even thinking about food or hungry then the commercials come on with food suddenly I'm starving.
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We can do this ladies
Down 5.2 pounds in one week. Eating clean, watching my carbs and sugars. Lots of water, protein, low sugar fruits like apples, oranges and strawberries, non starchy veggies like spinach and broccolii. Had baked cod last night-120 calories and a whole box of frozen spinach at 60 calories. For 180 calories-I was full I think that is the ticket-fill yourself with the veggies. I have 3.8 pounds until I am back to ONEderland-so really motivated and trying. Got to get ready for beach vacations. -
I'm so proud of you guys that are doing well.Cindy and Meow ... I miss my jelly beans. I sent all the sugary snacks on the road with Tim. Doesn't matter if I'm hungry or not ... I have a real problem with sweets. I wish there was a magic cure for it.
It's going to be a gorgeous 73 degrees today. I may even get outside and start mowing after I walk Tank. We've got about 5 acres that I take care of ... lots and lots of mowing up and down hills. I tried to get the pushmower started yesterday cause I get more exercise pushing than riding, but I couldn't get it to start. It's a little tricky as I am on-call 7 days a week with my job ... so finding a few hours during the day is a little tough right now.
Vettegirl ... you've got me motivated ... down 5.2 in one week is awesome.
hugs
Bren
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BeachBum and others,
I was (am) frazzled. I am almost always a strong and optimistic but sometimes I get these horrible feelings of despair. It has happened to me a few times in my life. Like when my mother was dying. She would cling to me and cry and that effected me forever. Its been 3 years and I still have nightmares about that.
My HD, is a strong healthy, handsome man but I feel like damaged goods. He exercises an hour a day. He looks and feels great. I force myself to get out of bed.
I can see those feelings of despair creeping up again. Tomorrow I see the MO. Maybe he can recommend something for the fatigue. Honestly ladies, I turned 56 on Saturday and some days I feel 86.
Sorry to dump. this will pass, it usually does.
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RG, gentle hugs! Just because despair passes with time doesn't make it OK. So sorry for what you are going through and I hope that your MO is helpful and thoughtful.
It is a beautiful sunny day today and I am having lunch with my dear daughter. We are weight loss buddies, so it will be something healthy for sure. Afterwards, she wants me to go shopping with her for some exercise clothes. I don't like to spend money on exercise clothing...rather just wear some old cr@p but she says I should treat myself to some pretty exercise clothes. What do you guys think? Will it motivate me to exercise more?
Love, MsP
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MsPharoah
You are very kind.
When my mom passed and her ashes placed in the family mausoleum, there was closure.
With BC There is no closure. There is nothing but uncertainties. I feel like BC is a beast that is leashed for now but still there.
As for exercise clothes, YESSSSSSSSSS get yourself something pretty. Usually need 2-3 tops for 1 bottom. The sweat wicking kind is great. You deserve to look pretty when you sweat.
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I agree with Raider Girl! I just bought new workout clothes for the first time in years. I looked like a gym rat before. I just finished working,out in the gym in my new black and pink cropped bottoms and new top and I can say that it did make a difference. I also just got a Fitbit and it is amazing how much it keeps you moving to get your 10k steps in a day.
I am finding it is very hard to lose weight on the AI. Grrrrr!
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RG, I relate so much to your distress with your mother's passing and now having to deal with breast cancer.
My mother died of breast cancer in 1979. My diagnosis conjured up all the unhappy feelings I have about my mother; her lack of maternal instinct, lack of tenderness or love for her children, and then all the guilt feelings I have that it was my fault that I was not loved. And then to have to deal with the same disease that took her life way too early, just too much to bear on many days.
I think I will treat myself to something pretty as you say. I hope you find something of beauty today to raise your spirits.
MsP
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Hi Raider Girl, I am so sorry about your Mom and all of the emotions that never leave. My Mom has been in a nursing facility for 7 years with Alzheimer's, and she hasn't known any of us for years. It is truly dismal. But our relationship was not good when the disease started, so I feel the guilt of what should have been and I wonder a lot if she thinks of it. And now when I need her, she is really unavailable.
You are so right about BC, the disease that takes so much from us and our loved ones. The feelings of despair, and the life changing events and emotions that have been forced on us to deal with. I struggle trying to live today, and what may come tomorrow. Most days I wonder if tomorrow means much, because I never know when BC will win.
However, you are not damaged goods, you are still you. And you can do something about it. Focus on you, and your tomorrow will come around. Everyone has something in the closet, close the door. Ask Your MO for help and do it. I think once you feel that you control this you will feel so much better! Have a enjoyable evening, you got this!
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Raidergirl ... sending you a big hug. I know that feeling of despair quite well. I take medication for it. It's a scary place to be.Love the idea of new workout clothes. I have 5 pairs of yoga pants ... and I've never done a minute of yoga in my life!
Today is my 8-year cancer-free anniversary ... which I think is just damn good luck.
hugs
Bren
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Bren, what a great day for you!!! I hope that some day everyone will be able to say Cancer Free! But it would be great to say, Cancer?? And be clueless what that could be.............someday!
Sending you a happy dance!
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Thanks Beachbum ... I'll take that happy dance!
Sending a huge hug your way!
Bren
PS ... Happy dance music:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OPf0YbXqDm0
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