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confusedhusband
confusedhusband Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

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  • hi5-2006Aug13
    hi5-2006Aug13 Member Posts: 62
    edited September 2006
    I empathize with you Frank. Your wife has gone through a tremendous life changing experience with breast cancer. It is
    usual for persons to re-evaluate their lives at this time. I believe that she has heard what you said and there is nothing more you can say or do. Her thoughts and feelings are about where she is at in her life now... Have you considered counselling? Cancer is a traumatic disease and I hope you stay strong. Take care.
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  • suzie14
    suzie14 Member Posts: 344
    edited September 2006
    Frank, I can only imagine how devastated you must feel since your life has been shaken up and turned upside down. I am sorry you have to go through this.

    First of all, I got the sense from your post that your wife wasn't happy pre-BC diagnosis. Subsequently, if this is the case, don't put the blame on the BC dx. There was something going on long before BC entered your lives. Perhaps BC has made her take stock in what she wants to do differently in her life.

    Secondly, I would encourage the two of you to get some marriage counselling sessions, with a good marriage counselor. This may not "fix" your marriage but maybe you can gain some insights as to what is going on inside your wife's head.

    Thirdly, as feb suggested above, get yourself to a counselor to help you through this. You are going to need all the support you can get because of the fragile situation you are in.

    Love your little girls as though there is no tomorrow because they are being affected also.

    I am so sorry you are having to go through this and do hope that whatever happens you are able to move forward and not let this destroy you.

    Take care,
    suzie
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