Stupid comments ....

Hi RaiderGirl, good to know that you went to work, a little normal goes a long way! I guess we all have to look at ourselves and know that we are never the same when BC touches our lives. We are still the same person, but there can be a fair amount of damage left behind. I am so sorry that the nurse was so insensitive to your concern. That was not the time for her to say anything, something positive would have been so much better. Our clothing is important to us!

I hope that you receive excellent news. And feel better soon.

When I was dx with BC, I happened to watch price is right on BC awareness day and one lady was wearing a tee shirt that said "yes they are fake, the real ones tried to kill me" which for some reason struck me as funny. I don't know if I could wear the shirt but I like the statement! It's easy to say "who needs them" when you have the choice of keeping them.

Kayb, I agree with our MsP. Instead of trying to make yourself a better person, could you please make my mother a better person?

Raidergirl:

That is a thoughtful explanation for why you are upset about that particular scar. BMX was inevitable for me -- I hope it has put an end to most of the biopsies.

{{{Raidergirl}}}

bobogirl... BRILLIANT.

RG - I hope your intuitive dx is 100% accurate.

I am sorry about the scar and I do think you have a right to feel sad about it. No one likes having visible changes forced on them, especially ones we can't help seeing every time we look in the mirror. So yes, do mourn it, do come here to vent and let it out - and do talk with your doctor about it, too. Maybe not right away, but before too long. I think surgeons need to be reminded that placement - and a clear understanding of what it will be - does matter. No matter how lovely and precise their handiwork, we don't want to admire it daily.

Additionally, I'd call the hospital (maybe the patient advocate?) and discuss the nurse's remark. Professionals do lose their sensitivity to patients' concerns and they occasionally need re-education. You would be doing others a favor by making that call.

In the meantime, heal up and take care of yourself. Thanks for checking in.

OMG LOL - you Ladies make my day! Post as much as you can, come here to scream and shout, let it all out. We all get it, and we probably have already said the same things. But to get a laugh, a smile priceless! I am still laughing.

bobogirl - next time you could answer with a junk punch?? WTH? Look in the mirror? I only do to put on deodorant since my armpit is numb and it has moved. I just wonder how I am supposed to shave my armpit that is now partly on my arm and the other part is sliding down my side. Crazy for sure.

Have a great evening!!

Oh thank goodness, I thought I was crazy when I tried to shave and put deodorant on. A little here, a little there. WTH! is right!

LOL!

I get the relocated armpits too ...... I'm using my electric shaver now, as I could probably cut my arm off and not notice ... and a mirror, ... or taking my glasses so I can focus there, and turn slightly toward the window so the hairs are silhouetted ..... sigh.

The thing about where to put deodorant stumps me too. In my left armpit at least half my hair follicle and sweat glands were wiped out by the radiation, so my right gets smelly when my left does not! (TMI???)

Other thing ... just having had flaps from my abdomen .... I found what was distinctly a PUBIC HAIR growing halfway down the outside of my left "breast", and another underneath..... Now I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry!

what a great thread. I have been transfixed, saddened, and amused, thankfully. Hummingbirdlover, i actually was feeling very sarcastic one day and had a couple of t shirts made that say. Yes. Fake. My real ones tried to kill me. The fabulous radiologist who did my initial follow up ultrasound, then the guided needle biopsy told me about one she had seen. After my double double, i went back to the hospital to thank her and the tech who took such good job taking care of me at such a very difficult time. We had a good, but bittersweet laugh

Hummingbird, I love that shirt!!!!  I almost bought it, but instead bought one that says "survivor" across the front of it. 

SelenaWolf, after I told my mother I had BC and would be doing chemo and radiation, she told me "I would rather you didn't do chemo and radiation, that is putting poison in your body", so I can relate to that comment. 

Bobogirl, my MO wants me to do a "survivorship" appointment.  I have basically told them that I am not doing it, because I know what I have survived and didn't need anybody telling me what I have been through.  I am going to borrow your GFY statement, if you don't mind, next time they tell me it is required.   

Nomatterwhat - did your Mother have another treatment in mind? Like we all want to do chemo and rads! And who doesn't want a mastectomy? WTH! And a survivorship appointment? More like one last co-pay. Grrr!

For anyone interested in the Fight Like A Girl merchandise - it is based in Westlake, Ohio. I stopped in when I saw the sign to see what it was all about. They have nice quality tees, hoodies, mugs, etc. They are online. But I actually was at the plaza because the Pepperidge Farm Outlet store is there. Cookies and Goldfish!! I love that place.