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Jaynie
Jaynie Member Posts: 2
edited March 2015 in Just Diagnosed

My husband died of anaplastic thyroid cancer in 2013 and died soon after. I have been devastated - 2 sons. And now I have been diagnosed with ductal and lobular breast cancer - two sites. Very scared, have MRI tomorrow to see if spread and feel very alone

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  • Denise-G
    Denise-G Member Posts: 1,777
    edited February 2015

    Jaynie, I am so very sorry.  You've been through SO VERY MUCH.  Words just escape me.  I just wanted

    you to know others care - even if we don't know you, even if we live far away.  I care.  

    You are in the absolute worst part of the diagnosis right now.  Especially when you are awaiting that MRI.  It is

    so terrifying.  It does get better after you know what you are dealing with and when you have a treatment plan in place.

    The absolute biggest thing, I believe in these beginning stages  is make sure you trust your surgeons and oncologist.  If your gut tells you they are not a good match for you, seek other doctors.

    Sending you a virtual hug...

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  • MagicalBean
    MagicalBean Member Posts: 362
    edited February 2015

    Jaynie-you've come to the right place. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

    Everyone here knows the shock and fear you're experiencing. It does get better, I promise. Once you know exactly what you're dealing with, and have a plan in place, things will calm down. Until then, check out the boards here. There is so much information here, and so many boards to find yourself in. Please stay in touch-let us know how your MRI comes out.

    (sorry for the italics-the key got locked mid post.

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  • Meadow
    Meadow Member Posts: 2,007
    edited February 2015

    Jaynie, I am so sorry for your loss, and for your diagnosis. You have been thru so much. I am sure you are in a whirlwind right now, getting the diagnosis, being a mom, grieving too. I am SO GLAD you found us here on BCO. I hope you have explored the website, there are so many threads with support in all kinds of areas. So you are not alone, and know that!. I am glad you have reached out to this loving community, and here you will find valuable information, support, humor, hugs. Here is one from me right now! (((Jaynie)))

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  • Maureen1
    Maureen1 Member Posts: 614
    edited February 2015

    (((Jaynie))) so very sorry about the sudden loss of your husband and now this scary news...as others have said this is the worst time, more questions than answers. I know its hard to believe but I felt better once I had my pathology and a plan to fight this beast, and a medical team I could trust. Hang in their let us know how you're doing. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.(((hugs))) Maureen

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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited February 2015

    Welcome to BCO Jaynie, sad to hear your news, but glad you've found this knowledgeable and supportive forum. As you've already foud, members are here to help and support you. You are not alone.

    You may find reading these articles from our main site www.breastcancer.org to be of interest.

    DCIS — Ductal Carcinoma In Situ, Diagnosis of DCIS and LCIS — Lobular Carcinoma In Situ where you'll learn about symptoms, diagnosis, treatment, etc.

    We wish you the best after your loss of your husband.

    We are here if you ever need us.

    The Mods

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  • Trvler
    Trvler Member Posts: 3,159
    edited February 2015

    Jaynie: You are not alone. I just started here 2 weeks ago and I understand how you feel but you will find lots of great support and information here. I am so sorry about your husband.


    I know it is shocking when you first get the news. Good luck with your MRI and keep us posted.

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  • Jaynie
    Jaynie Member Posts: 2
    edited March 2015

    Thank you so much - I am sorry it has taken me so long to get back. I am so appreciative...so very, very much. The last month has been a blur. I have felt very muddle-headed. My cancer is invasive stage 2a, I had a mastectomy / reconstruction (left breast) Really happy with surgeon and plastic surgeon - very nice and kind. The pathology showed the tumors were grade 3 which terrified me..but the surgeon said the main thing is it is all out and the op. was very successful. I am classed as lymph node negative but there was a sign of some lymph invasion. I am now waiting for the results of the oncotype test which seems to be taking ages to come back (over 2 weeks). I am er/pr +. Her2- I am expecting chemo..not sure yet for how long. I am concerned about the impact of this on my sons - as it will be a visual reminder of what their dad went through. Feel very worried..especially if oncotype test result is high....and it is hard not having my husband here as he would have been so supportive, he was great - I was very lucky. Again thank you for the support xxx

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