February 2015 surgery

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  • horsemom
    horsemom Member Posts: 96
    edited February 2015

    BB

    I had a hard time the night before but was crazy calm the morning of surgery. Is there someone that can rub your back? I found comfort in just being close to my DH. Ativan was nice too.

  • waiting-to-exhale
    waiting-to-exhale Member Posts: 61
    edited February 2015

    BBi i am starting to get anxious as well. Mine is Tuesday morning. Early morning surgery is good news, no waiting all day with no eating.

    We are all going to get through this crappy month. Ive been reading AntiCancer, it has been having a calming impact on me. I recommend it if you havent read it yet.

  • BBwithBC45
    BBwithBC45 Member Posts: 727
    edited February 2015

    Horsemom - my husband and I are getting ready to watch Super Bowl. I'll think I'll help myself to my Xanax in a minute, too.

    Waiting-to-exhale - I like your nickname. Yes, morning surgery is better, that's for sure. AntiCancer - what is it?

    Thank you for your replies!

  • waiting-to-exhale
    waiting-to-exhale Member Posts: 61
    edited February 2015

    Anticancer by David Servan-Schreiber. He was a physician diagnosed with brain cancer and spent his time researching ways to change your lifestyle to prevent recurrences of cancer. He shares his personal stories and of others.

    I am so statistics and research focused that this book has helped me calm down about it and make a longterm plan. It is literally getting me off the ledge.

    "Statististics is information not condemnation. The objective, when you have cancer and want to combat fatalaty, is to make sure you find yourself in the long tail of the curve."

    The book focuses on how to put yourself in the lefthand side of the bell curve through changing of lifestyle.


  • BBwithBC45
    BBwithBC45 Member Posts: 727
    edited February 2015

    Waiting-to-exhale - sounds interesting. I'll have to add it to my list to look into. Thank you!

  • roadrash
    roadrash Member Posts: 145
    edited February 2015

    BBwithBC45 - I hope you have already settled in and are watcing the Superbowl. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and looking forward to hearing about your successful surgery. There are a few of us here that will tell you that the more positive you are going in for surgery the more positive you will be about your recovery. It is true. That old line, "fake it till you make it" does work. I thought the surgery was bearable but uncomfortable. I definitely took my pain meds, muscle relaxers and valium right on time, regardless of having pain or not. I didn't want to find out if it was going to hurt so I planned ahead. lol At the hospital I went to there was a push button for morphine. I know i pushed it every 8 minutes and when i was too tired I had hubby push it. Also for the discomfort in the hospital and at home- the ice pack worked great. The ice definitely helps with the cramping and valium helps too.

    WIshing you all the best tomorrow


  • roadrash
    roadrash Member Posts: 145
    edited February 2015

    Waiting to exhale- I share a passion for reading too. I am going to check out that book. I recently read Psycho- Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and enjoyed it. I really learned the importance of positive thinking, guided imagery and achieving goals. I have no idea why I even started reading it when everything seemed to be falling apart but it really helped. The author was some big shot plastic surgeon.

    I am believing that your surgery goes fantastic and your recovery will be a breeze. The button up tops are super helpful. It was tough lifting my arms. Also, making sure you put things in reaching distance prior to going to the hospital. I found that putting my pills in those pill boxes were really helpful too. You wouldn't believe how tough it was to get the dang caps off of containers and jars.

    I use Tom's of Maine apricot. I like it but nothing is as good as the traditional deoderants. Also, in regards to the underarms. I had incisions in my armpits as part of the mastectomy. I wasn't prepared for that at all. I knew on one side they were doing the lymph node biopsy but I didn't expect the stitches under both arms. Just a heads up. Buy new razors and use a new one everytime if you do get those incisions. It is verycommon to get an infection under your arm. I lived on baby wipes to clean under my arms. I hope that was not TMI.


  • justamy
    justamy Member Posts: 532
    edited February 2015

    I am getting prepared for my surgery Tuesday. Tomorrow I'm going to buy a recliner. Nothing like waiting till the last minute! Today I found out my pastor and his wife are visiting me in the hospital. I think that makes me as nervous as the surgery. I just don't know what I'll be like on the pain meds. The surgery itself doesn't scare me too much...more the whole recovery process and not being able to care for myself for a few days.After months of chemo, I am just ready for this to all be over. Pray that I get clear nodes. If I do then no radiation!

  • horsemom
    horsemom Member Posts: 96
    edited February 2015

    Good luck tomorrow Sunseta1969 andBbwithbc45. Praying for no complications and uncomplicated recoveries.

  • nmh35
    nmh35 Member Posts: 96
    edited February 2015

    Best of luck to everyone that isstarting off our February month this week!

  • RainDew
    RainDew Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2015

    good luck tomorrow ladies!

    Also if noone has mentioned - bendy straws were my friend after bmx!

    And zip up hoodies :-)

  • RAK1
    RAK1 Member Posts: 240
    edited February 2015


    Sunseta1969

    Bbwithbc45

    Pray you have restful sleep tonight.

    I pray all surgeries go very well and you will both be calm.

    May you feel the Blessing of the Lord!

    Robin

  • roadrash
    roadrash Member Posts: 145
    edited February 2015

    NurseShark- Your son Levi is so handsome. I love his onesie. I hope you are growing stronger and gaining strength every day.

    Zjrosenthal- Your great grandaughter and great grand child are beautiful. Absolutely lovely!

    Sunseta1969- I hope you are already asleep and tucked in bed. I will be thinking of you tomorrow and looking forward to reporting to us all about how your surgery was better than expected. It is going to be a complication free day with god hospital food and lots of love. :D It also helps to ask the anesthesiolgist to give you a little something as you wait. I didn't hesitate to ask mine for something to take the edge off when I was waiting to go in. :D

  • Diane62
    Diane62 Member Posts: 1
    edited February 2015

    Hi, what kind of surgery? Lumpectomy? Do some deep breathing, and trust if you can, the process. I have to have some more taken - for a better margin, on Wednesday. From a lumpectomy a few weeks ago. All the best,

  • NurseShark
    NurseShark Member Posts: 176
    edited February 2015

    catching up on posts . Welcome everyone ...

    First February surgeries tomorrow you are in my prayers!

    Rough past couple weeks getting over cold, taxol side effects also sticking around . Last of hair that had grown back during chemo break (while I delivered) fell out along with eyebrows . I've been feeling pretty rundown not getting great sleep still up with baby a lot at night. Emotional ly drained thinking About surgery and my father's passing last week(hadn't spoken in many years long history of alcohol/abuse , was to "busy dealing with wife's mental illness/depression' when was told by my sister I was diagnosed with breast cancer and newly pregnant....) I am trying to let go of a lot of anger I have towards him since now it truly will never resolve.

    I am brca 1 positive , my paternal grandmother died of breast and ovarian cancer . I am 32 years old . We didn't do any fertility preservation as I was pregnant when chemo started. MO encourage d us to finish family before ovaries out but I am so scared to leave them ...husband wants to have more children I always wanted 3! But pregnancy scares me now too .

  • Rose0766
    Rose0766 Member Posts: 92
    edited February 2015

    wishing all of you fine ladies having surgery this week an easy recovery from anesthesia and successful relief of your post operative pain, hoping your surgeries are uneventful, and that your surgeons are able to get clear margins, hoping for negative nodes, and that you get some relief in knowing that this beast of a disease has been removed. I have been waiting for my day in the operating room since my August biopsy, 26 more days to go. Odd that February is the shortist month, but will feel like the longest month to me. I'm currently 3 weeks pfc, I feel like the stay puf guy. Edema with weight gain have set in. Teary eyes and runny nose, sore fingertips, sore heels, muscle aches, hot flashes, and still with GI issues. Hoping that some of this gets better before surgery. Herceptin # 5 comes Tuesday, MRI Wednesday, then no appointments for 12 whole days. Some serious chemo recovery time.

  • Loulee
    Loulee Member Posts: 26
    edited February 2015

    NurseShark,

    Am sorry about your Dad !! I lost mine too last week and haven't seen him for over a year and its just breaking my heart that i didn't get a chance to say good bye as he lives on the other side of the world , i didn't tell him i had breast cancer !!

    My surgery is on the 12th and i can see that yours is on the 13th !! Am doing a lumpectomy and a partial axillary dissection !!

    Good luck with your surgery !

    Sunseta1969 , Bbwithbc45

    Good luck ladies

    Lina



  • dancingdiva
    dancingdiva Member Posts: 475
    edited February 2015

    hey there, I,m joining this thread too. Feb 5 ....BMX with TE.


    Loulou and nurse shark.....so sorry for your sad news.

    Nurse...your baby is so adorable.

    I've already had a segmented mast in June but have to go back to get full mast on L side and over decided to remove the R side as well. I'm starting to stress about surgery and drains. Not sure what to do to prepare so I'm starting to read .

    Just finished watching super bowl....great game!!

    Good luck to surgery sisters tomorrow!!!

    Dancing

  • JustAJennifer
    JustAJennifer Member Posts: 85
    edited February 2015

    I am putting together my pack list and thought I'd share. This is a combination of every post I've read! So thanks to all the wonderful women who have shared their suggestions. And someone please let me know if I've missed anything. I am having unilateral with TE. My decision on uni/bi was made after receiving negative genetic results for brca1, brca2 and palb2

    Bringing to hotel/hospital

    - own towels and Hibiclens

    - drivers license, insurance card, prescription card

    - living will

    - Miralax and prescriptions

    - toiletries: Chapstick, toothbrush, toothpaste, makeup wipes, deodorant, dry shampoo, comb, glasses case, contact lenses

    - phone with charger (ext cord?)

    - blue tooth speaker

    - heart shaped pillow

    - tape and gauze

    - change of clothes (button shirt, sweat pants)

    - candy for nurses

    Things for home

    - lanyard with pins (for holding drains in shower)

    - easy-up pj pants and undies

    - button up shirts and zip up hoodies

    - surgical tape to secure drains if pulling

    - lots of gauze for padding the surgical site

    - several water bottles with bendy straws

    - box of tissues

    - Chapstick

    - hand lotion

    - cozy blanket, lots of pillows

    - lots of DVDs and books

    - chocolate!

  • trailrose
    trailrose Member Posts: 219
    edited February 2015

    NurseShark- Your Doctor will help guide you down the appropriate path when it comes to having children. My sister an 11 yr. survivor of breast cancer and is BRCA 1 # had 3 children since then. She had her ovaries removed and hysterectomy 2 yrs. ago at age 36. Hopefully this will help you too.

  • roadrash
    roadrash Member Posts: 145
    edited February 2015

    JustaJennifer- Thank you for that fantastic list. I wish I had pins for the drains last time. This time I am going to be prepared tobring pins.

    zjrosenthal- I tried to email you back but I have reached the maximum messages I can send. I am hoping that it is lifted after 24 hrs. :D

    Sending good thoughts to Sunseta1969 and Bbwithbc45. I am wishing them both a speedy recovery and a pain free recovery. xo

  • waiting-to-exhale
    waiting-to-exhale Member Posts: 61
    edited February 2015

    Sending positive thoughts to sunseta1969 and bbwithbc45. Thinking of you.

  • horsemom
    horsemom Member Posts: 96
    edited February 2015

    Waiting to exhale, Jeeper4, Justamy, jabec ... Your Up!!

    You've got this ladies! Sending good vibes your way

  • jabec
    jabec Member Posts: 70
    edited February 2015

    JustAJennifer - thanks for the list. I'm double checking my packing now.

    My BMX is tomorrow afternoon. I'm so anxious to have it done after being canceled last week due to the "blizzard". Of course a big snowstorm today, but at least it has now stopped and tomorrow's forecast is clear. The panic thankfully hasn't set in yet and hopefully I can keep it relatively together until the surgery. Hearing everyone's stories has made it feel more manageable.

  • JustAJennifer
    JustAJennifer Member Posts: 85
    edited February 2015

    jabec- good luck tomorrow. Tell us what you can when you can. I'm sorry you went through the ordeal with the rescheduling, that must have been torture. In 24 hours, it'll be behind you instead of ahead. There must be relief in that, although it's a long journey to be sure. Be strong

  • roadrash
    roadrash Member Posts: 145
    edited February 2015

    Hi, Jabec -

    We are practically neighbors. I work in Brewster, but live in Dutchess County. I am having my surgery at Putnam Hospital instead of Northern Westchester. I am pretty sure that you will have a morphine button to push when you open your eyes. Keep pushing it even if you are not sure you will need it. I tried to be a hero and waited too long and regretted it. I hope you have little wait time. I found that checking my list a couple of times really distracted me. The roads are looking good now. My husband just arrived home from working in Yonkers and he said the "roads look good". If you can try to bring baby wipes. It will help to get off the marker on your chest. I didn't find the hospital staff very helpful with getting it off. Baby wipes definitely worked. Another suggestions was when it came to void- (pee) if you have problems, try putting your hand in warm water and/or pouring it over that private area. Hey, it matters to the nurses. Also, I became violently illl from the pain meds and the anti nausea meds the doctor ordered really weren't helping. If you find yourself in the same boat ask for compazine. I totallly stopped throwing up. It was horrible to throw up after just having the bmx. You wil be uncomfortable sitting and it's tough to get up with no hands to push so I found walking really helped. The hospital nurses nicknamed me Super Trooper. I kept walking and walking. They had no idea that i was too scared to get back in the bed for fear I couldn't get back up.

    I will be thinking of you tommorrow.

  • Stonebrook108
    Stonebrook108 Member Posts: 237
    edited February 2015

    Hi Ladies,

    I wanted to wish you all the best of luck with your surgeries. You'll be fine. If your having a PBM it isn't half as bad as you would think it is. I had mine 6 yrs ago in Jan. and I was so freightened and once I woke up I had such a sense of relief that it was over. I had direct to implant and every thing went very well.

    If you have any questions please just ask.

    Take care,

    Ann

  • Fourminor
    Fourminor Member Posts: 354
    edited February 2015

    @ goMOMgo

    I'm sure you don't know all that much about breast cancer as if you did you would realize that this is a board for women (and men too!) who are about to undergo mutilating surgery for their potentially lethal cancers, and for others at later stages of reconstruction. We are hear to support each other through this experience. We are here to check in with each other and be heard through our own ordeals. Your post is intrusive and insensitive. You did not even read the posts ahead or wish anyone well with their surgery. Although I am sure your mother's book is intended to be a help to women, this is not the forum to be asking for money for her to write it. Since she has spent a lifetime writing about breast cancer, I am sure she can explain to you inappropriate your request is on this particular board.



  • jabec
    jabec Member Posts: 70
    edited February 2015

    Thanks for the well wishes for my surgery today. Waiting to exhale, Jeeper4, Justamy: I hope all goes well for you too today and I hope you slept better than I did since I have been up since about 3:30.

    Roadrash - your tips are really helpful. thanks. I'm not one for taking medication, but I plan to be as pain free as possible and am willing to even be as loopy as possible for that to happen! Also, good to hear that your husband felt the roads were OK last night. My kids have an hour delay for school today because of icy roads so I'm now thankful that my surgery isn't until later. I'm headed to the city - Mt. Sinai - and I'm really happy that I was able to get a room on their private floor. It sounds so nice that I may never want to come home :) Will post soon to let everyone know how the other side of surgery is.

  • zjrosenthal
    zjrosenthal Member Posts: 2,026
    edited February 2015

    Waiting to exhale, jeeper4, Amy and jabec..... Praying your surgery goes well today with no complications and you have a good recovery. Love, Jean

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