My pathology report is SCARING me...please talk me down?

I may have missed the moment to cheer you up but hears looking at you!!! Taken at 12am and he still is ready to play Lol

Hi greenae, I agree trying to wait is the worst! So breathe, and relax. Do something that you love to do. Take a bubblebath and paint your nails a sunny color. Spend time with your family and friends. And it is ok to be scared, we all are. And everyone copes with their cancer and prognosis the best they can. We fight and cry, sleep and try to eat. But we are all here today, and we will fight again tomorrow. Call your Doctor, they need to explain the report to you. Stay away from Doctor Google, the info is usually bad and negative. People usually post the worst and that's nothing we need to read. Use credible sources only. Make a list of your questions and make that call. It will resolve the questions you have, and give some peace.

Positive attitude is a huge plus, and a positive outlook will make a big difference. My Doctors and chemo nurses swear that being happy, reducing stress, and controlling your situation is more than half the battle! So game on!

It appears you have not had surgery yet? It is most important to have doctors you trust and with whom you can communicate, so if that is not the case with your current doctor, you might consider getting a new one. Why the long wait?

You have indicated that the cancer is very small (if they can tell that from biopsy). If that is true, it is good news for you to hold onto.

Wishing you well. Keep in touch x.

Hi Greenae, I with beachbum the waiting, scheduling apts, scans and waiting more is the worst. I say take a deep breath and relax as much as possible. The one thing I learned is that I had to do something to keep my mind occupied and do something I really enjoyed. I say spin away, read (NOT Dr Google!) and spend time with your family. Vent away here, share your thoughts, etc. We are here to support you and share our experiences. Beachbum says it well, we cope differently but support each other. We cry, scream, vent and even laugh and have fun. But we will continue to fight and stay informed and adjust our sails as we gather more information and face a new day. I had to learn very quickly to stay away from Dr. Google. Those on this forum and my medical team continued to tell me that the info is usually worse case, negative and out dated. You will find the right thread(s) that will help you through your journey. Mark those as your favorite. Please prepare for your appts. I had a "list" of questions and also had two people (my husband and daughter) attend my initial appts with me so that we would remember the right information and also take notes.

Having a great medical team you trust, feel comfortable with, can talk to openly and have access too is very important. I love my MO, PA and BS. I just met my RO and we hit it off great!

Big Hugs! And thinking of you as you wait for your first appt.

It's great to have support. Enjoy your wigs. You get use to them quick. Pick a style/ any style color or shape.

Good Idea.

I will add a e. He came from Missouri . The reason for MO.

Greenae, reading path reports can be maddening. It took a year or so for me to stop obsessing over mine. Personally, I think a bit of wine is a good idea to take the edge of the anxiety. It is NORMAL to be freaked out, but you also need sleep if you are going to be doing serious ass-kicking. I got a xanax script for those early roller-coaster months. I only ever took 3 pills, I think, but it stopped the anxiety loop from becoming chronic.

Taking it as an adventure was my approach as well. Perhaps not a desirable adventure, but interesting in its own way. Yes, triple-neg is not great. Then again, none of these stupid cancers is great. You are in NY, so you have access to an unlimited supply of good docs. Get a treatment plan, then get a second opinion. Being able to read and comprehend medical literature is a great advantage, because although a great bulk of cancer treatment is pretty standard at this point, there is also a chunk that is not and where it helps to know stuff.

Also because you are in NY, you may be able to join some trials. I know they are trialing some vaccines, for example. Make sure to ask your onc.

Greenae-sorry you had to join this club.  10mg of valium 30 minutes before an MRI makes it a piece of cake..... Save your ativan for latter.    If I am not mistaken, somewhere on this site there are lists of questions to ask.  Maybe the moderators can pop in with that link.

One thing I did while waiting was create a notebook to house all the papers and reports. I made a tab for Radiology, Surgeon, Medical Oncology, Radiation Oncology, Lab Reports, and started putting stuff inside page protectors.  I made copies of my lst medical history I had to write for the MO and photocopied it so I had it for all the other places. A list of all your emergency contacts, your allergies, etc.  I know I was afraid if I suddenly became ill and they couldn't reach one person that they have a list they could go down.  I researched my doctor's credentials and I collected their business cards not just for me but for the 2 friends that would be helping me.

Make sure you take a reliable pal who can take notes with you to your appointments.  They will hear things you are too stressed to absorb sometimes.

Girl---you can do this....You are well educated, you are focused, and you will make the right decisions for yourself.....We are all here to support you too! 

Green--google the Susan G. Komen site----they have downloadable cards with questions for all kinds of doctor visits/discussions. One thing you need to ask is if an Oncotype DX test will be done, along with sentinel node biopsy.  Its a small tumor, but the triple neg status is concerning.  They do another biopsy surgically, and some of the things from the initial biopsy can change.  Usually stage and grade, but you never know. ...   Be sure she reviews all of your reconstruction options with you, if you are having mastectomy.  There are so many, and you need to have a plan before your surgery so that the plastic surgeon who does your reconstruction has the right tissue flaps, etc. to work with. 

Take your time to make a good decision.  If you get a bad first vibe with a doctor, get another consult.   As much as I was chomping at the bits to get the sh*T out of me, my MO and the Breast Navigator told me--this has been in your body at least 6 years and its not going to IMPLODE while we do what we have to do.....That was so hard to accept.

I love your hair----and the blonde one is so much like your sisters, I had to scroll back up to see which one was wearing the wig  based on your clothing......