The Hermit Club

Oh now "concerned hubby".... just don't go gettin' too worried, because you want your wife to think you are her rock! And as far as her "friends' you were talking about, they just want to make her feel better, and not worry, but they can be such a PITA!

I think we ALL heard about what we should do, or take, or what CAUSED us to be "here" in the first place... But Blessings had the best advice... See if she can join us here... and then there are so many threads she can look through, and see what the rest of us have gone through.

But you will have a LIFETIME of sitting on the couch and watching foot-ball games together!

So many of us have "had" breast cancer, and are well on our way to see what ELSE we can do... Like break our hips, fall down stairs and break ankles, and get into all SORTS of trouble... Or even trying to keep OUR Husbands well...!

So just don't worry... and always "believe" in the best possible "tomorrow."

Concerned, if I may add my 2 cents here, as a DW to a DH who is still going through it, please do not neglect your own health and well-being during this time. In years past my DH has always worked out, or run, or even walked. Now he is really out of shape, overweight, on high blood pressure meds, and when he gets through working he crashes on the couch. Fortunately I'm a true hermit, so I don't need a lot of companionship, but I know he would feel better if he were more active again. There's a full gym at his company, and he would often go in early and work out or run, then shower & go to work. I know that he is coping with my disease, but I just want to caution you, because your wife will worry about you as you worry about her. You will be the rock for her, and you need to be healthy to do that. We also don't have kids (I have one who lives half a continent away), so we are all we've got. I agree about finding time for yourself, and she will want you to. She will need some to, it's a lot to process. Many find it a good time to journal, a place to let it all out.

All the best to you, and do encourage DW to check out the threads for each step of her progress. I started out in the May surgery thread, and graduated to the July chemo thread, and the support, encouragement, and sharing of common experiences was invaluable. It's so important when we wonder, "is this normal?" to see others are going through the same.

Shelly......is that your Boston.............just noticed it....picture is small, but he/she looks adorable....I had a Boston which I rescued at 7 yrs, but had to put him down at 13......I still miss him so much, and that was back in 2004.......This is Bossy......

yes that is my Boston. I rescued him as well. He is about 9 now.

OMG I've missed so much--I irst want to thank Chevy for delivering my message--she's got this great big mouth and forget  to tell u I was having problems (big ones and still am ) with my puter--trying to get it all worked out.

Welcome to anyone new This is a great site to unwind on and Concerned--I especially thought u'r wife is very lucky and u will both be doing better soon, u'll see.

Shelly I do think a lump. hurts more than a full blown deboobing--the one diference is under arms are always numb, so when u put deordorant on u do have to watch to make sure u get it on.
 And I do hope u get all good results,

Blondie, Blondie, Blondie--OMG--Thanks Ducky for keeping us in the loop, poor thing---but in her situation it does sound like she's doing the best thing. (((HUGS)))

Teka I love u'r good morning pics--they are always so fun and JAZZY u always have such pretty photos to share.

Mags I'm sorry all the chit u'r having, but it was so nice to take u'r cousin out and she does look lovely

Again Thanks so much Chevy or the one favor I asked to tell everyone about my puter, again u did what was expected--thinking o u'r pole dancing instead of me.

Got woke up in the middle of the night to an accident on my street. Heard something before I heard a fire truck on my street.  Might go out a bit later and see if I can find where it happened. It was on the local news here but they didn't show a good view of the accident scene so I can pinpoint exactly where it happened. Didn't get up when I heard the fire truck.

Mom2~! Can you google your local news, with the address, and look for accidents? We heard a loud crash one time, and looked out, and 1/2 a block down, saw this car up on it's side, on the lawn of our neighbor! Man, it looked bad! I called the Police, and when they came to help the gal out, you could hear all the beer bottles falling out of the car.

She was so drunk, it didn't even hurt her.... but they took her in anyway, and we watched as they pulled the car back up on it's wheels.... Just scary!

Cami- good morning. Doing okay this way. It is warming up here this weekend and highs up to the 50s today after snow and cold earlier this week. I hope you enjoy your day out and about. And I gladly accept your prayers too!

I have been doing some end of the day walks since my last contract wrapped up, and have noticed it is now dark here at 5:30 vs. 5 p.m. I always look forward to day light savings time change in the spring, as we get an hour of light back in the evening. Believe it or not, that is only about 45 days from now (first weekend in March).

I noticed a few of the trees here are starting to bud out, the fruit trees here bloom in late February believe it or not. We have a long unfolding of spring here, the early things begin next month and the last of it finishes in May.

Be safe out there Cami. Is Joey off from school on Monday?

Teka- minus 15 to 17? Good lord!

I am watching Gravity (again) on HBO this morning as I do things around the house. Your boyfriend just got lost in space. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to go find him.....

Teka- me too, I love the first half hour and then I move on.

Now I am watching Contact, one of my favorite movies ever. Much of it filmed her at the Big Array down south, which I have never been to yet. On my bucket list!

After watching the local news coverage of the accident scene I figured out that the accident happened right down the street. Sure enough it was in the paper this morning and it was right where I thought it was. Sadly, the driver was killed, his passenger survived and is in a hospital. The police are investigating and suspect speed was a factor. Since I moved to my street we have had about a dozen accidents here. This is the first that had a death resulting.

Mommy- sorry to hear that news about the accident on the street. I hope the person in the hospital recovers. We had a lot of accidents on my street growing up, the lovely CT roads are often a place people speed.

Stay safe.

A peaceful picture for all those who have had a tough day.