Any fun gift ideas to give my mom?

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Joy2015
Joy2015 Member Posts: 5
edited December 2014 in Managing Side Effects of Breast Cancer and Its Treatment

My mom is currently receiving 33 treatments of radiation. She just completed #7 today. She has to drive 45 minutes each way for her radiation. I want to do something for her maybe each week to celebrate being that much closer to the end of treatment. Have any of you done something like this or had it done for you? I just want to be there for her and give her little "surprises or gifts" to make the experience a tiny bit easier. Thank you all in advance!

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  • bobogirl
    bobogirl Member Posts: 2,777
    edited December 2014

    Oh, Joy, I have one!

    I have a friend who had rads a year or so ago, and she got 'hooked' on these Alex and Ani bracelets. She saw the nurses wearing them. She started treating herself to one after each treatment! They are not too pricey. They each have special meanings.

    Anyway, all the sisters in our group started getting them! It was so fun!

    You can order on alexandani.com, but a place called Zeeberry has 15% off and free shipping:

    http://www.zeeberry.com/Alex-and-Ani-Jewelry/?gcli...

    Hope you take good care.

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  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited December 2014

    Have a rose (or her favorite flower) delivered to the Facility for her to be tbere when she gets there on the last day of each 5 day segment and a potted plant or outdoor plant to go in the ground for the last one. Or perhaps an 'Edible Arrangment' delivered to her at the Facility. If she's not a flower person, perhaps a box of her favorite 'special/fancy' candy or a fruit basket.

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  • Wilsie2
    Wilsie2 Member Posts: 441
    edited December 2014

    you can check out books on tape or CD at the library, and she can listen in the car to make her trip seem shorter. Wilsi

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  • susan_02143
    susan_02143 Member Posts: 7,209
    edited December 2014

    My daughter made a mix cd. Each day Nurse Jason put on the next tune before we started the zapping. It was a fun way to get through what was a most tedious 38 days. The techs also enjoyed hearing what the kid thought I would want to hear as the days went by.

    She may start to get pretty fatigued as she gets into day 25. Stocking her fridge with some meals that she can heat, or perhaps offering to drive her to the last five sessions would be appreciated.

    *susan*

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  • bobogirl
    bobogirl Member Posts: 2,777
    edited December 2014

    Joy, Susan and Wilsie's presents are so thoughtful and homemade, while I encouraged you to go on a bracelet spree! I am embarrassed! :)

    Those are really great ideas. XXX

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  • Joy2015
    Joy2015 Member Posts: 5
    edited December 2014

    Thank you so much! Going to the website now!


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  • Joy2015
    Joy2015 Member Posts: 5
    edited December 2014

    She would love edible flowers! Never thought of that! Thank you!

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  • Joy2015
    Joy2015 Member Posts: 5
    edited December 2014

    I'll make a cd for sure. Right now I feel like she is coping by being in denial that fatigue is going to happen. She is even trying to schedule commuting to work Jan 13-19, which will be treatments 26 and on. I don't know how to tell her she should not plan on doing that. Do you have any suggestions?

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  • susan_02143
    susan_02143 Member Posts: 7,209
    edited December 2014

    Joy,

    You can't tell someone what they don't want to know.... and, she might not have fatigue. I would leave it alone, but mark your calendar so you can keep your decks a bit clear to help out if needed. We own our own feelings; and with breast cancer we have a lot of feelings. :-)

    *susan*

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  • Kicks
    Kicks Member Posts: 4,131
    edited December 2014

    Why are you assuming she can't go to work? Some do have tiredness/fatigue with Rads but not everyone does. I was completely and utterly EXHAUSTED after 12/Taxol and started rads a week after last Taxol. I felt better everyday during rads.

    Unless she is senile or incompetent, she is quite capable of making her own decisions which should be respected/supported. Be there for her IF needed but do not try to stifle her. She is dealing with BC BUT she is the one dealing with it. Let her tell you what she needs, not what you 'think' she needs based on your needs/wants, what you think. During my TX, Hubby took over all house chores, cooking and pets (our 2 dogs and my rabbit) and Son took over all barn/horse chores so all I had to do was what I wanted to do but never tried to keep me from doing what I WANTED to do. But of course, we are each unique.

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  • Joy2015
    Joy2015 Member Posts: 5
    edited December 2014

    You guys are right, I need to just be there for her and if she is too fatigued, then I can help out as needed. I find myself wanting to be overprotective of her, but that is not what she needs. Working will require her to drive 30 minutes in one direction for rad at 0800, then drive 2 hours in the other direction to make it to work. She is planning on staying at my house while she does this ( I live in the middle of it all) so I will have dinner for her every evening and help out with her laundry. I know she has to cope with this in her own way, it's just hard to step back and be still. This is so new to all of us. Thank you for your advice.

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  • Meadow
    Meadow Member Posts: 2,007
    edited December 2014

    Joy, she is blessed to have such a caring and loving daughter. She will thrive with your support.

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