INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

OK slowly catching back up again. I'm going to limit comments to this page otherwise I will be writing the not so great American novel again which I don't think you all want.

I spent the 4 days after Thanksgiving cleaning out -yes it was that bad - so the heating man could do a system check. He was here maybe 10 minutes, stuck the gauges on it, says it needs washing out but not too bad but too cold to do it and left. He's great - no charge. Church member. AC needs the same thing in the spring too.

So that was Tuesday. Wednesday I really don't remember much. We've had a local murder trial well it's east of Dallas that has been on-line. So with that on and recovering from the 4 day marathon I didn't do much.

But I have a bit in inner psychic (maybe psycho too). I've been uneasy for a while and thought when the laser eye stuff was sched. it was that. NOOO. Showering Wed night and water backed up all in shower, over floor, out onto carpet, in DH's BR but not as bad. Had to have the main drain line to the septic replaced yesterday. Beaucoup dollars and bad juju day. But PTL the sun is out today. I have the washer finishing the last of reg. laundry and about to get into bleaching a monster load. Thank goodness I have tons of towels left from goat birthings because I used nearly all of them on the floors. What I don't get done get hung on the fence to dry out at least. Looks lovely since I'm on the corner.

Happiest of birthdays JWoo. Was the trip to England a self present?

Congrats Rosie on DD's BD.

Smaarty - Wishing you easy peaceful uneventful surgery and recovery.

Oh please send the skinny sleep here after you've found it 2TA. OK I have the non-existent daughter. We did get her and go to DB's house for Thanksgiving. That was all. I texted her when we got home, no response back. Not like she had lots to do - she took Fri. off and stayed home for 3 days playing computer games. I wonder if I bought her belly dancing lessons or something to get her out of her apt. JK - she'd hate me for that. I had not seen her since June. Talk occas. and she lives a whole one hour from here. I guess I'm going to have to make the effort to see her but all we do is shop and I just cannot afford much of that unless it's resale/Goodwill which is OK with me. Glad you have a new daughter back.

Yuck Blondie Shingles. I need to get my arse down and get the shot. Expensive though but I do think ins. reimburses it. I need to call BCBS to verify.

Have you all heard that the flu vaccine is not as effective this year. Not good news but at least it should lessen the seriousness of an infection. I got the flu in 2008 when they missed one of the strains in the vaccine. Posting hope not too many typos.

Patty, I know what you mean. I needed to ride the bus while I didn't have a car and every single person on the bus except me and small children had a smart phone. People used to at least smile and nod.

My friend had the shingles shot and still got shingles. They told her it would have been much worse if she hadn't had the shot.

Happy Birthday JWoo. Hope you bought yourself a present in England.

I had my flu shot, but it's disquieting to hear that it doesn't cover a bad strain. I know they have to guess in May what the strains will be in order to make the vaccine. I had flu my freshman year in college and was so sick. At my current age I would probably end up in a hospital. It was so bad that they cancelled all the PE classes and used the gym for sick students.

Way behind as usual, but this is what I've been doing..............................

My son and grandson looking at our new addition!

Can you gals please tell me.... After I lock the car with the RKF.... a little light flashes slowly. Does that mean the car is "armed?" Everything works really well... I was just wondering...

CHEVY, I'd say yes, that means the security system is armed

Stay warm owlets!

Spookiesmom, so what does he like? Time with friends, certain foods, something has to float his boat. My take is, if he goes without lying, he earns his "reward". If not, he doesn't earn it. He has to work for whatever he wants. Trick is to find his reward. Is lying the only problem? Is he mature enough to explain what the pay off is for his lying? Something is motivating him for inappropriate behavior (does he want to get you angry?). Have been taught that behaviors occurbecause something is gained or something is avoided.

Smaarty, thinking of you. Hoping the pain meds are working. Don't look, you might be disappointed.

Jeni, wishing you a fantabulous dinner party! But girl, all that work for your friends? Hoping they appreciate the huge effort. Pictures of food if possible

Sassy, forget to ask about the launch.....

Spookie,

I worked with kids for years. Some really know how to manipulate.

Obviously take any advice with a grain of salt. But my opinion is, if his behavior is the same at school, time for professional help. Maybe parenting classes, maybe family therapy. Maybe the counselor at his school would have suggestions. There medical insurance might cover therapy for him, or all of them.

It sounds like he does things for attention.

Did he show remorse after you broke your arm? I realize it was an accident, but still.

Spookiesmom, the other thing to consider, has someone spoken with his teacher? is something happening at school that he feels he has no control. Maybe he's trying to offset that by controlling you - he knows he can make you angry so he gets pleasure from it. Try to stay neutral as much as possible, it will be hard, see if that makes a difference.

WHOA!!!! It's time for bed, and I just realized that today is December 5th!!!

Three years ago today, I was in my room in the hospital, just having had a bilateral mastectomy (with TEs inserted) for Invasive Ductal Cancer.

If anyone had told me that there would come a time when I wasn't consumed with pain; frightened, angry, and frustrated with recon; or that even a day would go by that I wasn't obsessing about my boobs, I would not have believed them.

But here I am today, peaceful with my decisions, happy with my outcome, and no longer focused on two body parts that absolutely sucked all my energy from me for the longest time.

Ladies who are just starting out: It DOES get better!!!!! The road may be long, but have faith, and lean on us when you need to.

Hmmmm - I think I need another piece of pumpkin pie to celebrate the girls' birthday.

Love you all!!!!!

Aw, thanks 2TA....xoxoxo

I just re-read my post and I was worried that it came off all RAH RAH "Hey, I had my boobs cut off and now I'm just peachy keen!"

I was fortunate that my dx was early stage. It might not have been. I am cancer-free today, but I might not be tomorrow or five or ten years from now. If that happens, my MO and I will have some decisions to make.

I would never want to say anything to make my Stage IV Sistahs uncomfortable, so please accept my apology if it came off that way.

It's just that lately, I've spoken to so many newbies who just can't imagine a life where breast cancer is no longer the focus.

Today was the first time I've completely forgotten an anniversary - of my dx, first rescheduled surgery, first fills, exchange, first everything. I think I am finally non-obsessed, and just wanted to share that.

Love you, my dear Owlettes!!!!

Aw Blessings! FINALLY! You have gone through sooooooo much... CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!

Spookie.... Man, I don't know WHAT I would do... Sounds like this behavior has been going on for a long time, and it wasn't ever stopped when it started.

Now he gets away with this bad behavior... and his Parents and you are stuck with it... Guess you can't spank kids anymore... and THAT one would probably call 911....

I'd kind of be afraid for that little chit to come over to my house.... He might hide everything he saw! At least until his behavior straightens out... Is there something else going on? I mean like some sort of chemical imbalance in his brain? Or is he just a flat out little brat?

Yes, I would have someone talk to counselors, or teachers, or even law-enforcement... Put that kid in jail for a week or two!

So DH got some pills from the Doc...for depression... ESCITALOPRAM.... And it's only been 2 days, BUT we "talked" last night, and laughed, and I thought WTH??? Are they working already? But I know it is a build-up type of thing, and just a gradual thing, but it was really NICE to just sit there and talk about things!

Want me to send some of those pills Spookie?

Chevy. - yay for your dh. Obviously you two are for life but why not make it happy.

Blessings - I am stage Iv but def not the appointed speaker, lol. Wasn't in bad taste in anyway. It was awesome !!!!! I love to hear those stories and am positive our newbies will be also. Sweet. Congrats !

Spookie - a spanking on the butt is PC. A smack in the face is not. A beat down with a razor strap is not.

A lie in our house has always resulted in a spanking. Period. Can't say our ds's have been spanked often but the rule stands.

my current position for the next 2 weeks. Have to play t-Rex or could pop things open. This is going to be short, pain pill kickinginCongrats Nettie with the new baby. Always so sweet when they're new.