To Do or Not To Do chemo??
Hello everyone,
I am starting a new post in the hope of finding some guidance on the very hard decision of whether to do chemo or not. I know that for many that is not a choice, but in my mother's situation it seems the oncologist has made a recommendation (chemo not strongly recommended) and left it up to her.
My mom's particulars are as follows:
Invasive Lobular Carcinoma, 1.8 cm, Grade 2, no lymph node involvement (well, 2 lymphs were removed, one was completely clear and the second, when they performed some non-standard test on it, showed isolated cells, but on the report the oncologist wrote node negative). Her oncotype dx is 10. No mets.
Treatment so far: Mastectomy of the affected breast (left one). On the other (the right) she had breast duct removal for biopsy because she had a bloody nipple discharge from there, and although the mammo, ultrasound, and mri did not show anything, the doctor removed it - no cancer found, just a dialated duct apparently...though we are still worried about that breast as well!
When we met with our oncologist, she said that chemo is "not strongly recommended" in my mother's case, but estrogen blockers are. Of course we asked if it would not be better - preventive - to do chemo anyway. She then explained to us the array of side effects from chemo, and that it would decrease her risk of recurrence by only approx 3%, and that finally it is up to my mom if she wishes to have it. We asked for a week to think about it, and here we are no closer to making a decision.
So what would you do ladies? Were any of you in a similar situation? what did you choose? are you happy with that choice?
My mom if terrified that if she chooses not to have chemo she will regret that she did not do everything in her power to end her illness, especially if she has a relapse. At the same time, chemo is not something to really do for 'prevention' and we are aware of how hard a treatment it can be...we are absolutely, hopelessly confused as to what to do. Also, it is just the two of us working on this, my father passed away last year from cancer.
Any experiences and opinions would help us shed some light on the questions we have...
Thank you all.
Ana and Camelia
Comments
-
Your decision sounds like a personality decision. If your mom is too scared to go without chemo, and feels she might regret it, then I'd say go with chemo. I had the same decision 14 years ago and decided not to do chemo and I haven't have a recurrence (I have another primary in the same place, so go figure). There's no way to predict the future, all you know is how you feel today. That's why it's a personality choice. Either choice is right, it's just which one allows you to sleep at night.
-
hmmm tough one as always, her Oncotype is low at 10, her cancer is grade 2 and ILC which from what I read doesn't respond like IDC to chemo (someone correct me if im wrong) - all points against chemo
her tumor is 1.8cm which is probably the only reason it would be a consideration - 2cm puts you in to stage 2. There are studies showing that as a tumor approaches 2cm there is a higher likelihood of cells escaping - which is why you jump stages at this size.
3% benefit is big to some, tiny to others so I don't know if this is a help to you
is she hormone positive? if yes, what percentage? if she is highly hormone positive she may derive the biggest benefit from hormone therapy not chemo
was LVI present? Lymphovascular invasion (cancer cells found in the lymphatics) is considered a positive node by some MO's and another factor for considering chemo -
I am one who wishes she hadn't done chemo. To me the side effects have seriously effected my quality of life even 13 years later.
-
I also had isolated tumor cells in one lymph node (statistically this is still technically negative) and about a 3% predicted benefit from chemo. I decided to trade the down-the-road risk of a possible recurrence for nixing the immediate issues of chemo, along with potential long term side effects from the treatments. I made this decision after many, many hours on the breastcancer.org website, these discussion threads, and published statistical outcomes. The bottom line, however, is that if after reflection, your mom feels she needs to throw the kitchen sink at it, then that's what she needs to do.
She might feel more informed (both pro and con) if she were to read some of the "Starting Chemo" threads here. I think there is already one for those starting in December. She (and you) might learn more from older threads.
-
I had ILC stage 3 grade 2, I refused chemo, if I was your Mum I would definitely say no.........but I would persevere with hormone treatment, but your Mum needs to be comortable with her deision.......
-
hi. if she needed herceptin i would say go for it. but for hormone positive, the anti hormonals are very strong medicine that they even give to stage 4 ladies, and it does a very good job of taking care of cancer they might not be able to remove surgically. ten is a very low score. if she didn't do chemo now, she would be chemo naive later if it ever came back. that is a good thing. If you trust your onc then i would go with what he prefers to do, they really don't want to steer you wrong. a 3 % reduction risk is next to nothing. plus, she is only grade 2, when chemo works best on grade 3 tumors. Yes, read around, and gather info to help you decide. chemo does have lasting consequences, like socalisa and brookside vt said, and if it ever came back she could just do it then. Wishing you and her the best of all possible outcomes.
Categories
- All Categories
- 679 Advocacy and Fund-Raising
- 289 Advocacy
- 68 I've Donated to Breastcancer.org in honor of....
- Test
- 322 Walks, Runs and Fundraising Events for Breastcancer.org
- 5.6K Community Connections
- 282 Middle Age 40-60(ish) Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 53 Australians and New Zealanders Affected by Breast Cancer
- 208 Black Women or Men With Breast Cancer
- 684 Canadians Affected by Breast Cancer
- 1.5K Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
- 455 Caring for Someone with Stage IV or Mets
- 260 High Risk of Recurrence or Second Breast Cancer
- 22 International, Non-English Speakers With Breast Cancer
- 16 Latinas/Hispanics With Breast Cancer
- 189 LGBTQA+ With Breast Cancer
- 152 May Their Memory Live On
- 85 Member Matchup & Virtual Support Meetups
- 375 Members by Location
- 291 Older Than 60 Years Old With Breast Cancer
- 177 Singles With Breast Cancer
- 869 Young With Breast Cancer
- 50.4K Connecting With Others Who Have a Similar Diagnosis
- 204 Breast Cancer with Another Diagnosis or Comorbidity
- 4K DCIS (Ductal Carcinoma In Situ)
- 79 DCIS plus HER2-positive Microinvasion
- 529 Genetic Testing
- 2.2K HER2+ (Positive) Breast Cancer
- 1.5K IBC (Inflammatory Breast Cancer)
- 3.4K IDC (Invasive Ductal Carcinoma)
- 1.5K ILC (Invasive Lobular Carcinoma)
- 999 Just Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastasis
- 652 LCIS (Lobular Carcinoma In Situ)
- 193 Less Common Types of Breast Cancer
- 252 Male Breast Cancer
- 86 Mixed Type Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Not Diagnosed With a Recurrence or Metastases but Concerned
- 189 Palliative Therapy/Hospice Care
- 488 Second or Third Breast Cancer
- 1.2K Stage I Breast Cancer
- 313 Stage II Breast Cancer
- 3.8K Stage III Breast Cancer
- 2.5K Triple-Negative Breast Cancer
- 13.1K Day-to-Day Matters
- 132 All things COVID-19 or coronavirus
- 87 BCO Free-Cycle: Give or Trade Items Related to Breast Cancer
- 5.9K Clinical Trials, Research News, Podcasts, and Study Results
- 86 Coping with Holidays, Special Days and Anniversaries
- 828 Employment, Insurance, and Other Financial Issues
- 101 Family and Family Planning Matters
- Family Issues for Those Who Have Breast Cancer
- 26 Furry friends
- 1.8K Humor and Games
- 1.6K Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts
- 706 Recipe Swap for Healthy Living
- 704 Recommend Your Resources
- 171 Sex & Relationship Matters
- 9 The Political Corner
- 874 Working on Your Fitness
- 4.5K Moving On & Finding Inspiration After Breast Cancer
- 394 Bonded by Breast Cancer
- 3.1K Life After Breast Cancer
- 806 Prayers and Spiritual Support
- 285 Who or What Inspires You?
- 28.7K Not Diagnosed But Concerned
- 1K Benign Breast Conditions
- 2.3K High Risk for Breast Cancer
- 18K Not Diagnosed But Worried
- 7.4K Waiting for Test Results
- 603 Site News and Announcements
- 560 Comments, Suggestions, Feature Requests
- 39 Mod Announcements, Breastcancer.org News, Blog Entries, Podcasts
- 4 Survey, Interview and Participant Requests: Need your Help!
- 61.9K Tests, Treatments & Side Effects
- 586 Alternative Medicine
- 255 Bone Health and Bone Loss
- 11.4K Breast Reconstruction
- 7.9K Chemotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 2.7K Complementary and Holistic Medicine and Treatment
- 775 Diagnosed and Waiting for Test Results
- 7.8K Hormonal Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 50 Immunotherapy - Before, During, and After
- 7.4K Just Diagnosed
- 1.4K Living Without Reconstruction After a Mastectomy
- 5.2K Lymphedema
- 3.6K Managing Side Effects of Breast Cancer and Its Treatment
- 591 Pain
- 3.9K Radiation Therapy - Before, During, and After
- 8.4K Surgery - Before, During, and After
- 109 Welcome to Breastcancer.org
- 98 Acknowledging and honoring our Community
- 11 Info & Resources for New Patients & Members From the Team