Did anyone delay surgery?

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  • BrooksideVT
    BrooksideVT Member Posts: 2,211
    edited November 2014

    And while summer school is a great option, allowing a neighbor or teen to serve as substitute teacher, even if only for a few days, will give your children a welcome sense of stability and security.

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  • WinningSoFar
    WinningSoFar Member Posts: 951
    edited November 2014

    Dear Mommy,

    I'm so glad you have a plan of action going. Just think of the great opportunity this is to teach your kids about the importance of taking care of your health and the family and community coming together. Please keep us all updated . As you can tell, we're all invested in you.

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  • edukes1002
    edukes1002 Member Posts: 47
    edited November 2014

    Mommy2six...your down time doesn't necessarily have to be wasted time.  A very close friend of mine had surgery when her children were very young.  She also had a 6 week recovery time.  She said she has some of the very best conversations with her kids while she was recovering.  They talked about many different aspects of life and that there were so many teachable moments.  She felt she connected to her kids in a way she never had before.  If you go into your recovery with this mindset, you may look back on this as a time of positive growth for you and your family.  This is what I am aiming for. 

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  • anneoftheforest
    anneoftheforest Member Posts: 52
    edited January 2015

    Mommy2six - It is true about how it is hard to have others come over after surgery when you feeling less than presentable and the house is a mess. If anything it taught me how when you visit people in the hospital or at their house you should keep it quick and simple :) I have had four surgeries this year due to breast and ovaries and then in the midst of all of this my son had an injury. Let's just say we have had a lot of meals and cards this year. I've grown a lot closer to many people in our church though and it has helped to be encouraged in my faith as well.

    Best wishes on your surgery. Keep us posted on how it goes.

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  • LilacBlue
    LilacBlue Member Posts: 1,636
    edited November 2014

    Mommy2six, all woman of school age children (home schooling or not) have felt as you regarding disruption to our family life. That is one of the things cancer does best - disrupt our lives and those we love to the core. I was going to opt for a different reconstruction so as not to have microsurgery in a hospital 70 miles away. My BS let me know, in the timeline of life, my treatment was a blink of the eye and results were what counted most in the long run. You've made the best choice and of course, like all before, I wish you a speedy, uneventful - smooth recovery.

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  • Mommy2Six
    Mommy2Six Member Posts: 119
    edited November 2014

    Thank you, everyone. I have taken all your words to heart. <3 Starting to feel real!

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  • Cowgirl13
    Cowgirl13 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited November 2014

    Mommy, be a role model in showing your children whats really important--you taking care of your health/life as #1 and let holidays etc take 2nd place. Maybe it a good time to reevaluate holidays.

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  • Mommy2Six
    Mommy2Six Member Posts: 119
    edited November 2014

    Most of our holiday traditions are family outings, crafts, Advent activities, service projects, baking together, etc. We keep gifts very, very minimal (1 toy, 1 book, 1 game per child), but we do have a lot of holiday traditions that are important to us. I'm sure there are festive things that we can do while I'm on the mend, but it's going to be very sad for me to not be able to take them caroling at the nursing home, to the Christmas tree farm, festival of the lights, etc. I know it's not as important as my life, but I'm definitely really sad about it. I'm just going to really try to focus on the things we can do together, instead of the things we can't. Hubby can do a lot of it with them too, I'm sure.

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  • ruthbru
    ruthbru Member Posts: 57,235
    edited November 2014

    Even though it is totally crummy now, it truly is one 'blip' in the rest of your life. My thought was the sooner I got it over with, the sooner I could get back to my to my normal life. I was sad about the things I missed (I had a son who was a junior in high school....I ended up only missing a few things....but still ), but I so glad to be done with everything before his senior year started (we did college visits that summer during radiation...I'd get an early appointment, get zapped, and off we'd go). Hang in there!!!

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  • Mich71
    Mich71 Member Posts: 45
    edited November 2014

    Glad you are getting things taken care of Mommy2Six and didn't have to postpone as long as you initially thought. The holidays are so exciting for the little ones that they probably won't be as bothered by the things you can't do as much as you will be. Be kind to yourself and enjoy the little things:)!

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  • bam123
    bam123 Member Posts: 3
    edited November 2014

    I was diagnosed with DCIS in June 2014, had a lumpectomy end of July 2014 then was told I would need additional surgery (lumpectomy or mastectomy).  I decided on bilateral mastectomy and was scheduled for end of September 2014.  Then due to a unrelated health issue, surgery was postponed until 11/3/14.  At least in my case, it was felt my cancer was very slow moving so there was not much concern about the surgery being done so far out after the diagnosis.

    I would recommend talking to your doctor and following whatever s/he recommends.

    Good luck to you!

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