MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish
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From children's book quotes we should never forget - this is wonderful:
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I love this thread! I'm going in for Round 3 chemo today, and I always feel inspired and happy after visiting! here. Than you everyone for keeping this going. Gotta go kick cancers a*s, now Linda
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....I just noticed that elimars' skeletons at the top are doing a selfie! Funny!
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She needs to visit & change out those dusty ol' bones!
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kathec - I'm glad you mentioned that...I hadn't noticed they were doing a selfie! Very funny!
booklady - hope round 3 went well! Definitely do some cancer butt kicking!!!
heartnsoul - thanks for the quote...I sure need to remember that!!
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Hey Booklady, I just completed round 3 today, too. I also found out only one more round to go! How about you? I hope today went well and that you have minimal SE.
I saw the selfie in the photo right away... must be from having teenagers hanging around all of the time!
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Booklady and Poppy, enjoy that steroid high!
I hope chemo was uneventful.
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Jbook how cool that you got to see Randy!! I love that show and I love him. I bet it was cool.
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Hi For His Glory- I was 44 when diagnosed in July 2013- The oncologist and BS both thought I would need chemo but my onco test came back at 18 which is boarder line low to middle but I have had two onchologists who both said no chemo. I stayed stage one grade two.
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Momine, The steriod high only effected me before the first infusion. After the first infusion, I was horribly nauseous. I think I've been so fatigued since then, that even the steroids haven't helped that much. I sure was looking forward to using it as a chance to get stuff done.
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Poppy, dang it! Sorry about that. Hope you feel better soon.
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ndgrrl...how are you doing on the tamoxifen? My worries are being able to tolerate that. I have severe pms already and can't imagine taking a pill to bring on more of that ugh...I know I have to but....
FEELING weepy today for some reason. Cancer stinks!
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poppy, that sux about the fatigue and steroid combo. I remember just having to lay in bed or on the couch with my mind racing. I would just think to myself: this won't last forever, it is just for right now. And even tho it seemed like it was much too long, I got thru it. You will too, one day at a time!! We're right beside you!
I just confirmed my appt for mammo and BS next month. But first I get to go to FL for a week with 2 girlfriends. First vacation that I have taken without at least one of my kids in forever. This is what one of my friends shared on FB:
John Michael: Mom, did you know that 15 minutes of laughing is like doing 30 minutes of sit ups?
Me: Well I'm sure to get a workout next week in Florida.
JM: Who are you going with?
Me: Lea and Nancy.
JM: You're gonna have a six-pack!
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Hey gang, I was catching up and got a laugh out of those photo posts. Funny that I never thought to dress up as a Cheeto. I go to an annual party and this year's "cave couple" costumes came out great. For hilarity, I stayed in character for the entire party. After an hour, I'm sure the joke was wearing thin on some but by then I was committed to going the distance. Sorry, I still had a Halloween topper up there so long...my bad; and I'm changing it finally. (On the other hand, it took a few of you that long to "get" the selfie going on.)
My dear Newbies, the thought that there are so many of us getting diagnosed is horrifying and comforting at the same time. At least that is how I felt. Really glad I did not have to go through all of this alone. The thought that others managed to persevere through everything just made me "woman-up" and take care of business and not let the cancer crush me. That is not to say that there are not days that you will cry. That goes with the territory. That's why you see the "rollercoaster" term used so often. No shame in getting as much help as you need going through this either, be it here, online, or IRL. Support is priceless!
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FHG....of course you feel weepy. You've just come thru so much. I'm 6 weeks out and I can tell you it does get better.
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ForHisGlory, The surgery and anesthesia can make you feel weepy. It's not unusual to feel this way.... so the good news is you are having a normal response. Not to mention waiting for test results.... stressful! I am sorry you are feeling this way, but hope it helps you to know it's normal, AND that we are here for you!
Macatacmv, thanks for your support. I am just grateful I'm not in pain or nauseous. The dex seems to make my brain unable to complete a thought. So maybe this is the way I get the dex energy high? You enjoy your trip to Florida and laugh your butt off!
Elimar, Good to see you! Glad you enjoyed going to a Halloween party! My oldest son playfully suggested that I dress up like Dr. Evil from the Austin Powers movies. He thought I would enjoy putting my nearly bald head to use!
I am so grateful for everyone here!
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Mac: where are you going in FL? I hope you have a great time!!Elimar: I loved the skeleton selfies! That was very cute.
FHG: you are going thru a lot! Be weepy, be emotional. We have all been there!! It's a stressful time. ((HUGS))
Poppy: good to see you! Hang it there!!
**waving at everyone**
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Mac, I am going to FL (Daytona Beach) from Nov. 16th to 18th with DH & DD. We will be celebrating one year cancer-free. Can't wait!
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chipmunk - I'm from Daytona and we just bought a tiny beach condo for weekends etc. There is something about the sound of the ocean that puts you at peace!
Congratulations!!
Great place to eat: Mario's in Ormond Beach on Route 1
Cracked Egg - S. Atlantic Avenue Daytona Beach Shores
Our Deck Down Under for fish sandwiches - Under the Dunlawton bridge DBS
Booth's Bowery - Nova Road - Port Orange - Great roast beef melt sandwich
Just in case!
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The Cracked Egg is great!! They have HUGE portions!! Only breakfast and lunch, FYI. Last time I was there, we stayed across the street and walked over for breakfast every morning.Enjoy your visit, Chipmunk. As much as I love Gainesville,, I do wish it were closer to the ocean!
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Thanks for the great restaurant suggestions guys! I never even thought to ask on here. Duh!
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Ok, I have just “lost” two posts. I am now writing in word
and will copy it over. I am so frustrated with my twitchy fingers.Glennie, go gators!!! Would it be ok if I pm you about fibro
issues. I am having a hard time with acceptance lately.Chipmunk, congrats on a year!!!!!! Whew, what a ride, eh?
Have a great time at the beach. I will be further south in Jensen Beach. I’ve
never been there before. Maybe someday we will be in the same place at the same
time. I love meeting women from here. It feels like meeting an old friend for
the first time. (?)I was born in Orlando and went to high school in Winter
Park. I have cousins in Miami and Melbourne, and a best buddy from high school
still in Orlando. I also have a brother in law in Cape Coral so I will be doing
some traveling while there to get to see everyone.ForHisGlory, I hope you’ve had some chuckles today along
with the tears. I had to work to get the joy back into my life. But I found
some great friends along the way. I had to cultivate the laughter. And
sometimes I couldn’t find that with my kids or relatives. So find one or two
people that will just let you be and feel and talk about anything. I had to
distance myself from some and others stepped right into the gap. -
Mac: feel free to PM me. I've had fibro a LONG time. I used to live in Hobe Sound and Jupiter,, not far from Jensen Beach! I'm originally from Miami,, family still lives down there, but I like the quieter life of a smaller town. -
Feeling much better today. .spent a day with my sisters and a netflix marathon yesterday. It was just what I needed. I'm surprised t how much the arm bothers me...even had some sharp stabbing pains going all the way to my elbow. Hopefully it's just healing pajns!
Anyone consider diet changes instead of tamoxifen to curb recurrence? Just curious. ..
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ForHisGlory, Glad you are feeling better today. It will take time, so be kind to yourself. When they operate to remove the nodes the nerves can be effected or damaged. This could mean arm, shoulder and underarm/body pain.
My MO recommends diet change to keep healthy, but strongly states that these changes DO NOT do the work of Tamoxifen. Tamoxifen blocks the estrogen receptor site on breast cancer cells and prevents breast cancer cell growth. Diet cannot do this. While I'm not crazy about having to take Tamoxifen for 10 years, I will do what it takes to survive.
Poppy
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FHG....glad you are feeling better. I had arm pain too for a couple of weeks. Nothing like hang'in with the sis to lift your spirits. One of mine spent the weekend with me right before I started rads and it was just what I needed.
I am considering diet changes but only in addition to whatever AI is recommended for me. I don't think diet can replace the effectiveness of what these medications can do for us. I wish it could, but I'm not willing to take that chance.
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Hello to all! What a great thread this is! I am almost 6 weeks post surgery. Had a hard time with the pain but now it is just a sore tender feeling on the skin rather than sharp knife stabs and aching throbs. Now on Arimidex and will start rad next week.
Went for the CT scan on Thurs. Thot it would be a quick thing but no. The room was cold. The table was rock hard (can we pad that thing please?). So then I lay face up and my arms are stretched out above in these cuff looking things, but wait the Dr. wants me on my stomache so it all had to be done again. Then I had to go back to face up position. So I had to be positioned 3 times. There shud be a rail on the side of the table to help yourself get up, because I was real sore and creaky but the end of it all. Also, getting the tatto markers was not pleasant and it pinches too. Was not prepared for that either. So on the drive home I just lost it and bawled my eyes out: Why me? Can't stand anyone else touching or looking at me or moving me around or sticking me with tattoo needles, tape, markers. So here's the thing: I think going for rad daily will upset me each time because it reminds me of the surgery day and CT scan day. So how do I get thru this.? Sorry to be so long but at least all of you can relate and maybe have some advice. Thank you my new found sisters! -
Beachlady 28 back here. Forgot to mention a tip I learned to soothe the breast and armpit area: Turn your shirt, chemise, sweater, bathrobe inside out so that the seams will be on the outside and won't irritate the surgery areas, especially is good for the lymph node suture area since that area really hits the seams. Just don't go out with the top layer inside out. No one will see the other layers. Then again who cares if you step out of the house to your backyard? Just don't go to work or school like that! LOL!
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Hi Beachlady - seems that you have been able to retain some of your sense of humour which is great. It will certainly come in handy. There will be plenty of tears to come yet, so just let em flow when you need to. As you continue to move forward you may find that you are able to deal with things on a less emotional level. If not, then certainly don't be afraid to ask your dr for some medical intervention. It doesn't have to be permanent, but will help you through the slump.
Weekends are usually pretty quiet here, so don't worry if there aren't a lot of responses to your post right away. Once everyone checks in I am sure you will be welcomed by middies far and wide.
Keep us posted on your scan results and how you are doing both physically and emotionally. We are here for you through the good, the bad and the ugly.
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