Waiting and Waiting. Is it taking too long?

I'm new here and have posted a few times, but mostly I've been reading a lot. 

Here is my story so far, I was diagnosed w invasive breast cancer on Monday, Sept 29th of this year-routine mammo ordered by gyno gone bad-diagnosis via stereoscopic needle biopsy. Fortunately (?) I was at home with a migraine when they called rather than in my office. Oh, that would have been so BAD. 

Anyway, my gyno referred me to a local surgeon with an appt in 2 days (Wed. 10.1). In the meantime I did a lot of research and had questions ready. The surgeon told me all breast cancer is the same, he could try for a lumpectomy but implied I was kind of silly for wanting to have breast conservation since I am all of 51 years of age. He declined to answer many of my questions and told me I would probably be happier going to a breast center. We (my husband and I) certainly agreed and pretty much ran from his office.

My gyno then referred me to UT Breast Center and Vanderbilt (since I said I wanted two "real" opinions-that first consult did not count IMO). Vanderbilt got me in for surgical consult on 10/13 and oncology consult on 10/14. UT's breast center did not want to even see me before I'd had an MRI and they scheduled that for 10/16 however Vanderbilt will not accept and MRI from UT (only their own) and my insurance will only pay for one. Fortunately, UT will accept Vanderbilt's. Canceled MRI at UT, am now scheduled for an MRI with Vanderbilt on Tues Oct 21  (this coming Tuesday). They will share result with UT, then another surgical consult with Vanderbilt surgeon on NOVEMBER  3 after he's seen the MRI and a consult (finally) with UT Breast Center re: surgical and oncology options (they do a team consult of my records then I meet with the team surgeon to discuss all aspects of treatment) on NOVEMBER 4. This is 5 weeks after my diagnosis! My Notingham scores were all 1, ER+/PR+ / Her- per first testing (FISH result pending but expected to be negative according to oncologist). Have been told my cancer is mostly tubular, not terribly aggressive, unlikely to have spread to nodes, no idea how big it is / limits of stereoscopic biopsy, that the MRI should tell us more, that I've got time to make good choices, yadda, yadda, yadda, but I feel like I have a ticking bomb inside of me!

I like the surgeon okay at Vanderbilt, though he did not seem very concerned about cosmetic results of lumpectomy (my choice if possible). Loved the radiologist and her plans (radiation, tamoxifen, removal of ovaries-I'm perimenopausal-to allow use of aromatase therapy)  skip chemo if my Onoctype score is good and no nodes involved. Does this sound reasonable to you? 

Looking forward to the consult with UT if I can keep my wits about me that long. Is this a really, really long time to wait or what? 

Thanks for reading. I'm starting to understand why these boards are so busy. Just writing it all  down is fairly therapeutic, although any input from those who've been there/done that would be greatly appreciated.