Can we have a forum for "older" people with bc?
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Welcome White Tiger! There was a beautiful white tiger at the Cincinnati zoo years ago. It sat patiently to allow my daughter take a picture very close for a 4h project. Lovely blue eyes showed clearly in the photo. Do you have blue eyes.
Thanks to the gals who kept this thread going-Jackie and Chevy. How lonely to be a thread of one, and then two. When spinning wool into yarn, a single strand can be weak or all tangly and knotted. But sometimes when two strands are plied together it is both stronger and smoother. Nice work you two. That must have been long before I landed here. And I must have missed something recently.
The potential of our spirit traveling while we sleep is fascinating. It is certainly in harmony with what little i know of many cultures and religions. Jackie, did you feel frightened? Calm?Wren, it must have been an interesting book. Although this is a different topic, it fits in with when you meet someone new and know instantly they can become a really good friend. Lately there are lots of books and shows about time travelers. I don't know what to feel or believe about that stuff, but don't rule out possibilities.
It's so good to have Sandra to give us some animation on the screen (love the dancing babes). and Teka that is a great fall picture.
I hope all our newly diagnosed friends here will have a peaceful nights sleep tonight. I don't have all the names. Maybe tomorrow I will backtrack in this thread and get one started. It's almost a year since I started this breast cancer new life. And it seems like the first weeks of worry, learning and deciding were so scarey and restless. We will all be here to keep friends in this strand plied together strong and smooth.
This is pretty serious for a clown. Sleepy time for me. Night night.
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I'm confused. Lately I join the thread and respond to the most recent posts. Then when I submit my response tons of new ones show up that weren't there a few minutes before. And the can be hours or days old. It makes me feel as if I'm responding to week old posts and ignoring lots of stuff. Wierd. If my stuff makes no sense at all and seems out of context, that's why!
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Puffin, I used to have Notepad, probably still do,
somewhere. So many computers crashed and replaced! But you’ve given me the good
idea, and I made a blank Word page just for these Responses.Miminiemi – White tigers do have gorgeous blue eyes but mine
are not like that – they reflect the sky etc. – some people think they’re blue,
some say they’re green. When I was a little girl I asked my mother and she said
“Green” so that’s the official answer. All our girls have green eyes and all
our boys have blue eyes.If I could travel in my sleep, I wonder if I would ever come
back. I’m okay with most possibilities but this one puzzles me. I’d better
investigate it more closely. Where would I go?Re delays in posting responses – that happens to me too, in
all places on-line. I blame the Net itself, maybe it gets clogged. -
Mimi have gone to the end of the post
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Oh that's right! Sinkholes in Florida?
Pa-shaw you say!I have sink-holes around here even.... in my garden....
Maybe it's just ME though?Teacher.... Just MAYbe we could come up with some more bad
news for you! Dang girl!Drive while old? Man, I hate that thought! I mean I want
a newer car... not a new one, but how much longer will I BE DRIVING? I
ask myself! I'm meeting older friends this morning for breakfast, and
SHE is 91! Still "WITH IT" and all, but STILL! When do we KNOW not to climb in
that damn car and just hang up our keys?And your Niece? Sometimes we take it as long as we can,
always hoping that it will be "different" tomorrow.... and the last people we
can talk about this with is our family.... It's like we are in this dark place,
with no-one to turn to....And then something brings it all out in the open, and
something takes over, and we can move on....Maybe they will divorce, and maybe not.... maybe they will
get back together, or maybe not.... but SHE has to do this on her own.... and
find herself.We stay together even withOUT the kids... even when they
get older. It's just that we are afraid to do it on our own.... Until
something "breaks" and then you find strength you never knew you had.... We
need friends who understand.... family and the church to help sort it all
out.... and most of all "time."Morning Crone! So your posts get lost
into oblivion somewhere with all the rest of ours? Ha! And husbands following
"restrictions" of ANY sort? Can't BE! They don't, do they?So I must have your step stool? I just DID that trick!
About a month ago! Except mine was a two step, and I made it a one step, right
down onto the floor! But I actually landed on my GOOD foot, went staggering
back into the washer, but caught myself before I splattered all over the floor,
and lived to tell about it!But YOU hurt yourself! No it ain't funny! We gotta think
before we move.... especially me.... I can fall just by walking and stepping
on a HUGE boulder in the alley! Well not HUGE, but big enough to twist your
ankle on.Oh I SEE! The Dog door! Ha, ha!
My Grand-sons LOVED to do that trick! And our Dog Chevy
thought it was the NEATEST thing he ever saw! I think HE showed them how to do
it! He thought they were HIS kids anyway, ever since they were born!And they both turned out magnificent!
Puffin, I do the same thing! And this "write mail" has
auto-correct, also! Yes, just highlight, copy and paste... "Great Minds Think
Alike".... or something like that.Like Cammi! We not only lose posts, we lose HER!
Oh Meemers, that was sweet.... Good analogy, or
something! It WAS a long time ago... then one by one, we found more
friends.... with no drama.... well except me. Ha, ha!Yes, you ARE being serious! And hey, we need an update on
your .... um .... "friend". Do you at least talk to him sometimes? That would
make his day!Okay, I think I know what you mean.... about other
posts.... I think it is your "provider"? Send a note to the Mods, maybe they
can figure it out?Yes White Tiger, I think that is right... Sometimes
"things" are just strange... It's the Internet.... or Cammi screwing around on
her computer....Hi Blondie! Boy are YOU out of context.... Ha! But I
sort of understand what you mean....Okay, gotta get ready to meet my older friends for
Breakfast! It's always fun! -
Teacher, thanks for a big smile this morning! Enjoyed the mental picture of a little boy climbing under the bride's train!
Chevy, did you know you're writing your posts in italics? Hint, hint--makes it a little harder to read for older eyes! The old English teacher checking in.
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One of my all time-favorites:
"What a liberation to realize that the
“voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.”Eckhart Tolle
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Since I can't go back I will have to try and remember all I read --- everyone who knows what that is like can laugh now.
Anyway, I think it was you Mimi -- who asked if I was scared or calm when I woke up too soon. Well, I was afraid. I had a VERY total ability to think --- and in the space of seconds I bet I had thoughts by the millions. I was terrified that ( I knew somehow it was the middle of the night ) Dh would wake up in the morning -- think me permanently gone to my final rest..........and I would then be buried alive.
It is a difficult concept --- but so is undergoing a cancer diagnosis and the following txs and procedures. Anyway -- I know it still happens to me ( especially when I wake up really, really tired and shouldn't be for the amt. of sleep I've had ) but I've never had that happen since.
Another interesting phenomenon that some people figure out -- and some don't is that if you have a real problem with something -- and then suddenly find in some way that the problem has vanished.....in an earlier lifetime then, you had the issue, and you are now older in this life.....so you are passed the hang-up.
I used to nearly choke and gasp when trying ( which I tried for years ) to wear any kind of turtleneck sweaters. I kept trying from time to time as I was always so cold. One day, magically.....I was able to have one on and not be constantly pulling it away from my neck. I don't know when I got passed --- because I only tried now and then when I was cold enough to suffer the torment of feeling like I was suffocating.
Ok, your resident ( oh do you have to tell that stuff ) person will shut up. I guess ( speaking about some of the issues we all face that are not what people see of us most of the time ) just makes me brave enough to own the above story as my own. I don't feel "weird" for it. In fact, I welcome learning and owning how much we truly ARE. If ( and I believe with my whole heart, mind, and soul ) we are here to learn through experiences and to glorify our souls -- then knowing all you can and accepting as much as you can is not a bad thing. It helps me have the freedom to be me -- to accept all the parts of me....seen and un-seen.
I hope your day is bright and beautiful. We have sun and warmth today. Sounds like nearly a week of rain is coming though.....EEK -- that is not going to be totally do my liking.
Blessings
Jackie
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Hi everyone
Sorry I haven't been posting... Actually I'm not sorry- my days have been filled with kisses, hugs and babble from my 15 mo old grandaughter. She reminds me so much of DD#1 at this age. It is very funny- my DD#1's son is a clone of my oldest son. Now, his daughter is a clone of my DD#1. She is beyond precious and I think I might have to sneak her into my suitcase when I leave Fri.
Don't you just hate it when you are staying at someone's house, and you break something? I took a shower this morning, and both of "my home" showers are just showers with sliding doors. Here I shower in the tub in the main bathroom. I didn't even think to pull the shower curtain into the tub, and I didn't notice a problem afterward. We were just about to leave for awhile, and my DIL noticed water dripping from the chandelier in her eating area. Apparently I spilled enough water out of the shower that it overflowed and flooded the ceiling. She is high-strung normally- wow- did she freak. Not at me thankfully, but she was afraid the house would catch on fire while we were gone, so I ended up staying home so the dogs won't be trapped in a burning house. As they say now-a-days, my bad!
My trip to NY is turning out to be quite a"vacation" rather than a visit. My younger brother will be there all but 5 days with me. He is planning several trips to the city itself, including a visit to the Today Show, and a Broadway play - hopefully The Jersey Boys. Plus a trip through the neighborhood in the Bronx where we all grew up. He also plans at least one visit to some caves or caverns and some other cool things. He called me this morning to stress that I am welcome to do as much or as little as I want, and anything I do want to do will be modified according to my needs. ( I think my sister is telling him I am not strong enough for all this activity)
Phyllis- I have a 5 yr old grandson like your little one- on the go until he drops. Very intelligent, adorable, but tiring. Enjoy every second with him, but boy do I need a nap when he leaves.
Welcome, White Tiger.
Hugs to all
Anne
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Happy Wednesday. It is sunny with temps in the 60's but quite a breeze so probably no long walk today.
DH came through heart cath with the need for only one stent and so far he is taking it easy as directed. No need for thugs to sit on him yet.
I think that "voice in your head" is just a bad tape recording which needs to be destroyed. That voice is just old crud that needs to be written on a piece of paper and set on fire, never to be heard again.
Waiting for a call back from Dr. Have either a bladder or yeast infection which is truly irritating. I told the nurse I didn't want to be squirming around to stop the itching and burning and she said " makes you want to sit on your heel". I thought that was hilarious and have been snickering about it since. I think I would take my shoe off if I tried it.
Second grandson just passed drivers test - now there are two driving to worry about. It's the three year old that they should make wait until he is 30 to get a liscense.
Another story about the little guy. He came home from day care with a toy cell phone in his back pack, when his Mom asked about it, he said " I was on the playground and looked up and it just fell out of the sky into my hands. His Mom confronted that story and told him he would have to tell the teacher that he had taken it. Next morning he says to the schools director, " well we went on a vacation to California and I got I there". The poor director had a hard time keeping a straight face as she finally got the truth from him. He just turned three , I hope I am around to see him turn 18 - he is just like his Dad, our youngest son who is a great guy and great Dad but I wasn't sure which of us, him or me, would survive his growing up.
Time to deliver some food to a friend having surgery tomorrow.
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Okay, sorry Carole.... I do that when I am composing a post on my AOL "write" and I have it set for larger print, and I just thouight italics were pretty.... Then I just copy and paste... Otherwise, when I go back to read someones post, I lose this.... At least it usually isn't all "bold".... I do that for my older friends emails.
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Chevy, I overuse all "bold". ;o)
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Bold is easy to see and read though. I use it now and then in emails....just never thought of it here I guess, or I'd have maybe done it here.
Jackie
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I started using "bold" for a thread member with vision problems caused by a brain tumor. *FierceBluebird* has now passed away!
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Teka: I was thinking about that brief bold use. FierceBluebird was a lovely person.
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I'm sorry to hear that, but what a beautiful thing to do. May she rest in peace. So many people do so very, very many of the little things that I know mean so much. Always a joy to hear about someone's kindness. I'm sure Bluebird appreciated it with her whole heart and soul.
Hugs,
Jackie
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Hi Jackie! You still there? I'll send you an email soon.... Been cleaning and organizing the closet, from Summer to Winter clothes.... Just working slow but sure.... So many trips back and forth.... I'm going to fix a chocolate coke.... !
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You know, I wrote my whole book in "script".... "A Rose and a Glass of Beer".... I thought it made it feel more personalized.... Oh well..... That was quite a few years ago.....
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Chevy - when will the cake be done? I'm hungry and chocolate is my fav. Oh well, guess it's too far to go just for dessert.
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*sas-schatzi*, on the *INSOMNIACS* thread asked thread members to post "bold".
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I think coke not cake! ;o)
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Minus! You little scamp! I said Chocolate Coke, which I am having right now! Teka just knows me too well.... Ha!
Did Sassy really say that, or are you just making it jup.... I sometimes read something, and then don't remember.... my mind being the whiz that it is.....
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Maybe I'm the only one who finds reading print in italics more difficult than regular print? If that's the case, just ignore me, Chevy. Or ignore me anyway! Do what makes you happy.
Authors sometime use italics for dream sequences or for thoughts that are going on in a character's head. Bold print is very emphatic. It's like talking loud and pointing your finger at the person you're addressing. It is easy to read. And if a passage isn't easy for me to read, I just skim through it.
Tomorrow I face the decision TO COLOR OR NOT TO COLOR . My hair stylist may faint when I walk in with more than an inch of gray roots. Also I've given myself two haircuts during the summer, trimming top and sides. The back has grown out long. I'm really tempted to go with the gray but I suspect the hair on the back will be darker than the top and sides.
I saw a woman yesterday who had beautiful silver hair cut in a cute short style.
Any thoughts?
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Carole, if you think you look good with silver/gray hair, then DO it! I'm just so used to coloring my hair the same color since I was 21, that I wouldn't know who that was in the mirror! You can always go back to coloring, but ask your stylist! Look on the Internet and take a picture of the short hair-style you like!
Then take a picture and show us!
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Chevy,Yes!
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Hmmm, Carole -- I think gray or a sort of white-silver can be fantastic. Maybe your stylist could offer some ideas about this. My SIL who went gray really young kept her hair colored....and it was in a sort of grayish-white sort of shade. Mainly to have a fairly consistent color. I think probably everyone grays somewhat slowly -- so no matter what you do you are going to have to have color.
I say go for whatever pleases you. One nice thing about coloring -- it adds great body to the hair. If I could grow my hair out long enough I think I'd try to find a "stylist" who really knew her stuff and then get a cut and color......I get perms now because there is body and I can usually manage to look ok even in really wet weather. I'm starting to go gray -- but there isn't enough to make me think color yet. But -- if I could end up with a style ( my mind just does not work that way on its own ) that I could live with on a fairly permanent basis -- I'd stop the perms and just go with a good cut and color.
I have no style -- no pizazz's -- sigh. I think I got spirituality instead which is fine too.
Jackie
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I'd love if my hair were like my grandfather's. He had beautiful thick, white hair. My hair is thick but he gray is dull. I don't know if my stylist even remembers what color my hair was!
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Mine is purple cause I haven't dyed it yet, but it is coming back to blond, got it cut and the chemo curl is coming out, so excited.....HEY PEEPS!!!
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Blondie, have a restful night. ;o)
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