In Defense of Sadness

most definitely, thank you

Just wanted to link the source that the link came from - it sounds like it is worth reading.  In the book's synopsis I see echoes from many of the posts on BCO.

http://www.amazon.com/Angels-Bolters-Womens-Cancer-Scripts/dp/1401040861

So well said . Thanks you

This post was very timely for me and it helped to read.  I just had my diagnosis-cancerversary this past week and it was a real mixed bag of emotions for me and in my overly sensitive state, I felt like very few really "got" it.  Because I made comments that I was going to try to do something fun/distracting/positive on the day I think people took that as a celebration, rather than trying to get out of my own head on a day that brings sadness to me.  It doesn't mean I'm not happy to be around and to have put some distance between those dates, but the date marks a time when my life was forever changed. 

Thank you so much, Lucy. 

I'm going to print that out and hand it to the next person who tells me I should 'embrace this journey' and 'look forward to the lessons it will teach me and the opportunity to change my life for the better.' Astonishingly enough, many of them are in the medical world.

What a wonderful and accurate piece of writing.   I too feel sad much of the time, I try not to be sad,  but it is there and I need to acknowledge this to myself firstly, and then to others.   

Jill I just came across this thread.  Thanks for posting it - it made me cry because it's so true.

Nancy

People ask me all the time how I am doing.  I of course say I am doing fine when in reality I want to say how sick of this crap I am and how I so wish it would all go away.  Sadness for sure.