I cry at EVERY appointment!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited September 2014

    Oh my gosh, once during chemo I stayed in bed and cried for five hours (on and off). I cried when I met my MO for the first time. I cried at the first chemo infusion. The second one. Cry all you need to.  Crying relieves stress and actually has a calming effect when you are done.  So you are really being strong by crying because you are helping your body get through the stress of this particular time.  Here's some science behind crying.

    http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-free...

    I can't imagine how most of us couldn't cry at a devastating dx as we've all had.

    Claire

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  • momand2kids
    momand2kids Member Posts: 1,508
    edited September 2014

    All I did was cry- and I taped all of my appointments so I could hear myself cry--- even when the drs were giving me good news, reassuring me, I just cried, cried and cried.  At some point, that stopped-- cannot remember when--- but it all felt so surreal-I would come to work and think "I am a person who had cancer"... this is so strange.

    It did all pass-but I agree with the poster who said crying is good--get it all out now--don't want any left for when you are going to go off after this and live the rest of your life!!!

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  • msphil
    msphil Member Posts: 1,536
    edited October 2014

    its ok to feel what you are feeling we are only human, I felt almost those same feeling, I was always the strong one in my family, especially among my siblings, I too lost it for awhile, but things will get better, once you have your cry, and treatment plan in place, things will not be so Overwhelming.get that cry out it is healing to do it.Be Inspired sweetie, cause I am now a 20 yr Survivor(Praise GOD) But at first I didn,t think I,d make it,But GOD, hang in there and come here we are here for you. msphil(idc,stage2, 0/3 nodes, L mast, chemo and rads and 5 yrs on tamoxiufen)  

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  • bethq
    bethq Member Posts: 311
    edited October 2014

    Had a bad start to yesterday! I am a hospice nurse and was driving to see my first patient, passed the huge pink horses in front of PF Changs, started crying. Then made a turn onto a one-way street (that has always been two ways) into an assisted living facility and was pulled over by a young female police officer who could not stop yelling and waving her arms, "Could you NOT see the huge sign that says one way?"....I wanted to say so badly, "I have breast cancer and I am a hospice nurse please cut me a break"....only when she heard my husband was a Trooper did she soften up and almost kiss my behind. I pulled into the assisted living and put my head on the steering wheel and STARTED to tear up, then I told myself to cut it out and was able to move on. It's little things like this almost every day that get to me.

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  • shoppygirl
    shoppygirl Member Posts: 694
    edited October 2014

    beth 

     Sometimes you just want to shake people and say " get a grip".  No one realizes what real problems are until something serious happens to their health. It's something that you have very little control over. 

    I had a break down today walking through the parking lot of the mall. I just had my tissue expanders placed last week and it was soooo painful. Worse was that the mom of one of my sons friends passed away in Tuesday. She had stage 2 bc 2 months after my dx and does not believe in treatment other than anything holistic .  It spread in May and she passed this week. The drs told her that she should have treatment and even though it spread, they could help her live longer but her DH told me that she refused to believe that it was the BC causing her illness. Now she leaves behind 2 kids aged 6 and 2. I have been so upset over this! Today I was at the drugstore and I had to politely interrupt the cashier as I had left my bag behind and I was in a hurry to pick up my kids. The woman the cashier was serving gave me a death stare for interrupting her!! I thought is this your biggest problem?  You are so lucky if it is!  Then I left the store and burst into tears!! I felt much better after!! 

    Hugs to all!! 

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  • bethq
    bethq Member Posts: 311
    edited October 2014

    Shoppygirl I can totally relate. It's those everyday things that are getting me. That is so horrible about the mother of your children's friends. I just can't imagine.

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  • shoppygirl
    shoppygirl Member Posts: 694
    edited October 2014

    Thanks Beth. 

    I have so many different emotions about this. 

    Hugs

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  • Lusher61
    Lusher61 Member Posts: 9
    edited October 2014

    hi I was diagnosed August 18 after routine mammogram showed something not right had 3 needle biopsy and a core suction biopsy ,scans x rays all in one day it was traumatic to say the least 4 1/2 hr later was told u did have breast cancer I returned 1 week later to be told I had cancer in 2 places 1 inch a part was early stage one 15 mm one 8mm early stage I have had my op a double lumpectomy I need radio t and am on tamoxifen and my onclo is confident he has removed it all as margins were clear and lymph nodes were clear just waiting on all my path results to be posted to me so I can understand a bit more about the ductal cancer I have and grade / stage but it is a roller coaster and comes over in waves of worry and this affects the whole family so you worry for them too you know how scared they are am just waiting for radio now 3 weeks mon to fri but feeling sad ,scared ,panicky very emotion you have will rear it's normal good luck 

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  • ILoveTeaching
    ILoveTeaching Member Posts: 2
    edited October 2014

    I Got My Diagnosis Yesterday And I Was Just Thinking How I Need To Drink Extra Water or I'll Be Dehydrated Due To All The Crying.

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