MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Oh yeah Barsco. Dancing with the Stars starts tonight. Hot hot Antonio Sabato Jr.

I love the show Resurrection too, I loved Almost Human but unfortunately they axed that show.

On a completely different topic, I love that the kiddies are back in school but hate it with all the germs and colds they bring home. My youngest wasn't feeling good on Friday (she's fine now)  and guess who she passes the cold to...yup me, of course I never bounce back as quickly, I'm hoping this time it will.

Florida hasn't been affected (yet), but has anyone had issues with that new virus the kids are getting?

barbe, hope he gets better soon, poor guy!

Homemom, hasn't hit us in the nw yet, that I know of .

My two high school boys have terrible upper respiratory infections. My 11 year old is still okay. I start chemo next week, so I really don't want to get sick.

I'm not missing the kids bringing home germs from school era. My kids are older and no grands yet, so the worse they "bring" home is hangovers. lol I can't "catch" those. They are in the midst of the wedding season here. My DS was in a wedding party over the weekend and my DD was off to a destination bacherlorette party. I actually had some alone time.

barbe, hope the little guy is ok now. I hope all you lovely ladies avoid the germs. This new virus sounds so so scary esp. when immune systems are compromised.

poppy, relish every minute of your teenager's sullen moods. The time sure seems to go by so fast and then they are trying to get as far from us as possible. But after some time on their own they come back. I loved having all the kids around after school. I felt like I could get a slight glimpse into my kids social life. Especially when driving the car, they are a captive audience. (or you can successfully eavesdrop) 

Ahhh Poppy - my oldest, who is now 27 and married, was in marching band. Those days were so much fun. I volunteered a lot and they were such a talented bunch winning all kinds of Superior awards and participating in the State competitions each year. The football team was top notch too, so chaperoning the away games was a blast! Have to enjoy every moment of your kids growing up , it's over before you know it! 

Raider girl, That is a magnificant photo, and I so get your pithy description of how it feels to get sidelined by this beast. I agree about how tough for younger women with kids at home, and single moms, wow. I have to see it as a part of what my life holds, having been quite healthy and fit up to this last surprising dx of mets. I can say that I have had a good life, which helps me somehow. Now I want to find ways to keep having a good quality of life while treating this condition, not unlike I imagine it is to deal with diabetes. For me, my initial bc dx in 2003 really got the lead out. I did so many things in the next ten years that I had been waffling about. Having breast cancer is both a shocking limitation and a big door opening. Odd, isn't it?

We all should allow ourselves to have bad days. We put on a brave, happy face for the outside world. We only show strength, while trying to hide our exhaustion, frustration and weakness. It's overwhelming. I tend not to post when I'm having a bad day or am sad. After reading Raidergirl's post, I think that not posting here when I'm down might be a mistake. I want to encourage Raider to come here, post and find support from people who a having similar struggles and have a better understanding of what she is facing every day.

My sensitive 15yr old son brought home a form to be signed last night. He wants to drop out of his AP European history class because he doesn't want to spend so much of his time studying, he wants to spend it with his Mom who has breast cancer. It is difficult for me to how this is effecting him. I'm mad and sad, too.

My husband revealed when I was heading in for yesterday's surgery, that he hides his negative or sad feelings from me, so I won't be burdened, so he won't add to my anxiety and sadness. This isn't okay with me and how I want things to be.

And meanwhile, the outside world is telling me how brave I am being and how well I'm handling it.

I am so glad you are here and know that their are rough, miserable days, weeks even. And that there are glorious, wonderful days, too.

Raider- you right.  When your feeling low, just look on these boards.  There is always someone in worse shape, young moms at home etc.  One of my wake up slaps came from a 24 year old art student with a grim diagnosis and no health insurance and can't find a PS to do her reconstruction after her BMX.   Have a bad day, your entitled!  However don't let it go to long.   Life is too short to be pissed off.  

Hugs!

Elimar, thanks for checking in! I have tried to shield my son as much as possible from this. Unfortunately, he saw what his aunties had to go through, so he is hypersensitive about my health. He was seven when my oldest sister passed away, and for at least a year after that, every time I had something minor like a cold, he was afraid I had cancer and was going to die.

Since I was lucky enough not to need chemo or radiation, I told him that I was having preventative surgery because cancer runs in the family. I guess it's not entirely a lie, since I probably would have had a lumpectomy rather than the BMX if I wasn't BRCA+. He's also at the age where he doesn't want to know the details about any female related problems. Especially not his mother's!  

Raidergirl...Im with you ! I come and read, if I can talk myself into it on bad days but I don't post much on a bad day because like you Im BULLSHIT MAD ANGRY and every other emotion I cant think of right now. In the beginning I wasn't mad, I was more scared, kind of planning my funeral (which is horrible) but now it's total anger ! I cant look in the mirror anymore..its to painful and I am sooo sick of crying. Like you, I was the one that rescued everyone..and now Im drowning..and the hard part is..where is everyone that I rescued ??? This is the lonliest disease in the world ! I feel totally cutoff and isolated from the world. I hate leaving the house unless I absolutely have to.

I think its time to shut the computer off now...just typing this is making me mad and cry..

Hi, all -

Here I am in my late 40's, so this is the thread for me!  I find myself trying to figure out what I am supposed to change in my life now.  I know I need to eat more fruits and veggies and less sweets and I definitely need to find a way to exercise without hurting myself (foot issues cause problems and then I end up giving up), but I'm really wondering about more "living life" changes.  I've always been one to be responsible and hard working and I tend to be task oriented.  I feel kind of like I've been missing out on the fun, but I don't know if I even really know how to have "fun."  Organizing my office space is fun to me or just hanging out at home.  Am I supposed to branch out and ride roller coasters and bungee jump or am I just supposed to enjoy my usual life?  

My oldest is a senior in college and my youngest is a junior in HS.  I worked part time from home for 13 1/2 years and then had a few years without that and now have been working part time at my church for almost 3 years.  I like what I do, but, well, some people there drive me crazy and I get really frustrated.  I already didn't know what I wanted to be "when I grow up" but I figured I was working on that and starting to get excited about some possibilities, but now I just don't care about it.  

I guess I feel like I'm supposed to have learned something really big from this and I'm not sure that I have figured that out yet.  I certainly have been counting my blessings and am very grateful for many things, but I'm just waiting for the big revelation to hit me...you know, the whole "ah...that's what I'm supposed to learn from this...now I get it."  Anyone else feel this way or have you figured it out?

Thanks for "listening"!

bummer, mel. i noticed you had slnd on both sides? just try and be yourself, and what ever rings your bells!  over time we change and time changes us... no need to force the issue.  sorry you are here, but glad you found us. we are pretty fun!