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Morning every one. It sure is pretty out and still nice and cool. mommarch, I think you are so close to being a pioneer woman --- and I'm sure if you were you'd have been a superb one.
I can totally agree with how difficult it can be to keep up. Since we live by the lake, it also means that there is more dirt -- no pavement out here -- so dirt filtering in to the house is a rather constant thing. Also with indoor cats -- there is always a little hair where we don't want it. Dh could be abit more help but he usually pretends he doesn't see a lot of what has to be obvious if I catch a glimpse with my eye-sight.
Our house growing up was pretty cold back in the bedroom area. We heated with an old coal stove for many, many years....then switched over to a stoker furnace which is actually, really small coal which was added to one side of the furnace which was a hopper that constantly fed coal to the furnace. Great innovation for someone like us and did keep the whole house warmer.
As kids though ( and I was always underwt. then ) carrying the coal to the house to fill the hopper was -- at least we thought -- far from a fun chore. It was a way of life then, and I do feel like my early indoctrination help set the stage for making me something of a hard worker. My dad used to say about some of the work at home we were asked to do --- "do it, it will build character" and I'll be darned, I think he was right.
I learned I really could and as well, I learned I did not turn to dust or get worked to death, and I learned that when you feel a sense of accomplishment you feel good about yourself. Still, being honest, there were a number of times when those attributes had less importance -- when a little resentment crept in while I was held back by chores when I really wanted to go have fun NOW !!
I guess that old quote is right -- what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. Well that must mean that most of us here could knock a mountain off its' foundation, don't you think.
Working this morning, walking this afternoon and in between a lot of "stuff" that needs attention. The merry-go-round may slow down momarch, but it never stops.
Hi and big hugs to all.
Blessings
Jackie
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Jackie, I had not thought of the "builds character" phrase in many, many, many years ... but I do remember hearing it as I was growing up.
Good morning all.
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Oh, forgot to say that I am enjoying all the puctures.
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Love the Alaska photos, especially the eagle.
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Oh ladies the pictures were absolutely fabulous---well the ones that showed Chevy were OK---but the rest I enjoyed so much. Thank you.
Mommarch u have u'r hands full this week, altho u've done things like this before, it's just no fun like it used to be.
Oh Chevy thank u so much for ENLIGHTENING me of what I did not know, actually I wondered all of my life about the smell of the sun, so because u made it so clear I can not imagine living my whole life without this knowledge. Oh yea right--I don't really care besides who can get close enough to put their nose there anyway. So how can anyone prove any facts Missy.
OK I'm tired as usual, LOL (((HUGS))) everyone
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The pictures are gorgeous. What a great vacation for you gals. Mommarch Ithat was one of my first winters in Iowa. I think it was the coldest ever. My DH and I had to wear hats to bed because it was so cold near the windows. Our room was an old sleeping porch with nine windows all around three sides. We are getting inches of rain at a time on Iowa now. I am thankful for the sump pump that keeps on working. Mud from the dog will be enough to keep me busy. A little shopping with a friend in Iowa City tomorrow. I'm going to my 50th high school reunion.and have never attended any in all this time. I've been shopping in my own closet, but a friend and I will see if there is something to update my stuff a little. What an adventure. I'll have my first post treatment mammogram jand meeting with doc just before I go. What a month.
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Cammi, mystery solved. NOW I know where the telephone you answer is located. I saw it hanging on the wall when we were in Dolly's House, the brothel in Ketchikan. Must have been the first wall phone they every made.
Now I know where you are Chevy became such good friends.
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OMG Sandra! Yes, that's her phone! On MY wall! Ha, ha! Cammi, did you see that? She's on to us! Were you laying DOWN to take that picture, or is that a picture of her BED? I mean I know she's always IN it, but I'm just trying to rationalize this whole scenario.
Mimimimimi.... It is raining here NOW too! And only 54 degrees out! I have been starting to clean up my gardens, and put things to bed for the winter... Gotta do it now, because I've done it before after the first snow, and THAT wasn't too very much fun...
When is your reunion? I've never gone either... too many old people..... Ha!
I was having breakfast last month, and this GUY came up, and said "Don't you remember me?" And right away I started sweating and getting hot flashes, thinking oh Damn, he wasn't one of THOSE guys, WAS he? Hah! (Just kidding!) But he continued saying his name, and how he really liked me in school, and I'm sitting there like "this guy is nuts.... " But he kept saying my name.... "chevy"...... and I just KNEW he knew what he was talking about.
(It wasn't chevy.)..... But I sort of remembered his name.... kind of.... But MAN, this guy looks nothing like anyone I could recognize or remember! I just sat there with my Daughter, LOOKing at this foreign looking person, We graduated in 1955... So it's been almost 60 damn years? HOLY cow!
Sometime I'll go find my year book, and look this guy ujp.... Dave Thomas, in case any of you remember him. So DD says "What's all that about Mom?" Hah! And I just said, oh nothing honey.... except he COULD be your Father.
NO I DIDN'T girls! Ha, ha! I don't even remember ever TALKing to him, much less anything else! But he knew ME!
Okay, now here we go.... Cammi will grab onto this like a flea on a dog, and NEVER let me live it down..... JUST because I don't remember nothin'!
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The key to happiness is inner peace.
The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions
such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion,
while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility
are the sources of peace and happiness.
- Dalai Lama -
Well, I sipped out on my last reunion which was in June. I actually likely would have gone, but something ( who knows what ) came up and I didn't bat an eye about NOT going. I know many have changed ( just as I have ) but in a way I have to say --- what bothers me is not the bodily changes which everyone pretty much to a person has undergone --- it is more the changes that have not taken place. Those few who thought they were just it way back when......from all I've heard through the years....just still think that way.
I just felt -- they didn't get two hoots for what I was about then, they are likely not going to be much different now. Still, I would not have minded chatting with the ones who were nice then --as I do think they too have "remained" themselves --- but it just wasn't such a big deal that I felt like trying that hard to 'make' it happen.
I recall ( listening to someone give a recitation from back then ) one reunion where a couple of the gals it was said spent a whole lot of time showing off and comparing their mink coats. One of those gals is still going strong, but she is I'm told, very stout ( quite chubby ) now and sadly, the other one, got Alzheimer's early and passed away in a nursing home a month and a half or so before the reunion in June.
Just goes to show --- when you are young and sort of care-free, the world is yours and you might do things like "showing" off a mink coat or whatever flamboyant thing --- never realizing how very, very little those sorts of things really matter. To be fair --- I do think someone from such a "humble" area as we all came from and shared --- might go through a phase ( at least I sure hope that is what it was ) of behaviors like that. I just feel a bit of wistful sorrow that she is no longer here.
Anyway, didn't mean to get so somber. We are awaiting storms ( lots of rain ) and not too sure just when they will get here. Lots to do today and seems always that in the middle of the week. I'll be glad to slow things down as the week-end approaches.
Blessings
Jackie
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I have never been to any of my school reunions either -- I was always either far away or working through them. I was in town at the time of my 10th, but working during those hours. It was funny, though. One of the guys whose family owned a big company in town, and who was good-looking and popular in school, saw me in a local store that week and said hello and asked me out. I had married, and he was already divorced. He was nice and it was kinda nice talking with him for the first time in my life. I wondered if he ever had thought about saying hello when we were in school... and if he had, why he never did.... Last year I found out from a friend that he had eventually died in his 40's of brain cancer. How unpredictable life can be!High school is such an intense time of our lives, with so little time or experience to give us real perspective to go by....
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I have gone to all of my HS reunions, including my 45th in July, just after I'd had my lumpectomy. The 10 year still had the same cliques, but after that everyone settled down and had shared interests of kids and grandkids to talk about and I've enjoyed them all. Was amazed at my July reunion to discover how many classmates were breast cancer survivors, though with a graduating class of 300 I shouldn't have been, just with the normal odds of how many women get BC. It's also been touching how many classmates have kept in touch with me on Facebook since the reunion, sending good wishes and encouragement.
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Hi (from work.... shhhhhhh)
Just can't get enough of this chatter...makes me smile.
Chevy, Cammi, that fall air must be giving you two energy to banter.
Chevy, I think you mentioned back a few pages that the aspens may be starting to turn. Last year when we were in So. CO they were as green as could be at end of September. But the year before, they were most stunning - every imaginable shade from pale yellow-green to rich gold to bright red-orange. I must have taken 300 photos of trees.
I am hoping they will have color this year; but southern CO may be warmer than the Front Range area.
Thanks for the scientific explanation of why we cannot hear or smell the sun. I could have used that info when I talked about the origin of the solar system last week.
Darn....... Can I get a guest speaker here?I love the pix of Alaska...I have not seen Glacier Bay area. It is so beautiful and sparsely populated....and to think that Alaska Angel gets to live there all the time!
Photos...my favorite posessions...
Sadly, my laptop crashed and I lost my hard drive with thousands of photos on it. I sent it out to try to recover, knowing that it would be costly. But after it was inspected at multiple levels, I got a call this week saying it would be $1,550.00.
If they recovered nothing, I'd get a refund of $1,000. If they recovered even one single file, and I turned down the copy, I'd only get back $500. My photos seem worth it but the risk is ridiculous! I am still hoping to find a back up of some of my camera pix. My many phone pix of my grandkids are lost except for some of the recent ones I still have. I did put some pix on a web site in albums to share. I will try not to think about what I lost....lots of memories and travel. In the scheme of life, this is a bearable problem. (big ouchie)
If you have pix on your computer or laptop, please copy and back them up on at least one other device.Time to grade papers for tonight...I only have 11 in my class YAY!
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Hi to everyone. I missed too much to reply to all the posts that I skimmed through. The Alaska pictures are great. You must have a good camera, Sandra.
We enjoyed our visit in Thunder Bay. Our friends have a small home on the bay with gorgeous views. They recently bought it as their retirement home and will sell their home in town. The builders of the house did a fabulous job of captitalizing on the location. Most of the windows frame the view.
Thunder Bay is known for its amethyst mines. We visited one and I bought two good-sized rocks with amethyst crystals. I enjoyed talking to the mine owner, who sold me the rocks for a very reasonable price.
After our return to Grand Marais, we stayed there a couple of days, then travelled to Ashland, WI, and from there to Escanaba, MI, in the upper peninsula. Today has been a rainy day. We loaded up the laundry and went to a Laundromat for what I think will be our final time this summer to feed machines with quarters to wash and dry our laundry.
Tomorrow we plan to travel to Petoskey, MI, which is a town we've visited a couple of times previously. It's in the lower MI and is located on Lake Michigan with some great bike paths along the lake. If the weather is good, we'll take the bikes down from the bike rack and get some exercise.
I'll try to check in more regularly so I can keep up with the conversation!
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Carole, good to hear from you. I would love to visit an amethyst mine.
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Joan, 11 students ... they are lucky to be in a small class ... is that size usual?
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Joan! Were your photo's in a program like Picassa? All I did when I got my new computer, is download Picassa again, sign in, and all my photo's were there! Also, they are in my window's photo's! Same with all of my Itunes music that I have bought and downloaded, and copied from Disks, AND my Ipad....
Or even if you use someone else's computer, and log in to your account, can you get them that way? Maybe I don't know what I am talking about, but it's worth a try.
And yes, SNOW again up in the high-country..... It's supposed to get down to 38 degrees Friday morning~! Damn! I have to pick a lot of green tomatoes! They will be the first to freeze.
Hi Carole and Sally! Cammi must be on a well deserved break..... From what I don't know, but she gets exhausted laying in bed, and talking on the phone....
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Chevy and Cammi, the phone was on the wall in the hallway outside of Dolly's room. Guess all the girls called downstairs for their next customer as the previous one was going down the stairs. Here's where all the magic happened.
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Beautiful Seattle
This was taken with my iPhone camera, but Mike took about 500 with his "fancy" camera.
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Carolehalst,
Welcome to Michigan! Unfortunately the next couple of days are supposedly going to be cool and rainy. Petoskey has some unique shopping downtown or Odawa casino if you are into gambling. Or do the tunnel of trees drive from Cross Village down to Petoskey. Lunch, dinner or just dessert at Cross Village at Leggs Inn is a unique experience. Enjoy.
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Sandra, I re-did the bedroom slightly, since then! It's more like this now! So Hah!
And yes! As a matter of fact, (or not) that picture of me was taken about 6 months ago....
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And the plant by the window in the "parlor!"
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Chevy,
My avatar is a WATERMELON, that was carved by staff of the Golden Princess about 4 years ago. I thought it was amazing how this person used the white part of the watermelon, just under the green rind to use as hair & highlight of the face he/she was carving. Because I had to take many art classes to become an interior designer, I appreciate the talents of other in all kinds of mediums, be it wood, clay, or WATERMELONS.
Di
Suffering from a UTI so Have been sleeping for 2 days...but hemotologist said my blood is looking better and won't have to have a liver ultrasound for now.
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]I forgot some of the "boa's".....
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LOVE the boas....where did you find them?.....I neeed to buy one or two of them.
Di
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Love traveling vicariously here.
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Jo from Michigan I bet Carole is thrilled with those tips of things to do in Petoskey. I know I wish I could join in so it really sounds fantastic to me. I am a former Michigander. Lived there for a little over 7 years. Enjoyed those years very much
Sandra, wonderful pictures and I really thought the I-phone picture was just as good as the rest. In fact I would have loved to have strolled there with the flowers while I listened to water lapping just down below. To me water is very spiritual so my interest is captured easily if it is anywhere around.
Di...hope that UTI gets knocked down really good and good for you not needing the liver ultra-sound for now.
Pouring rain and noisy out. Don't know how long it will last. Didn't know we would get more as we had the rain from this morning. This one will drop our temps really well. We may be shivering when morning gets here.
Jackie
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Hi Ladies,
The pictures of Alaska and of Seattle are great. So glad you ladies got to meet each other and that all had a good time
I have never been to any of my reunios either. First one we were in the service and then I was due any day for one of our boys and I delivered fast with the child before that so we did not want to travel to far from home or the hospital and the reunions always seem to be sort of far away.
We had lots of rain today and a lot of strong winds. we are suppose to have some very cool days for the next few days.
Hope everyone is having a great week
Emmy
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Jackie,
Were you a Yooper (UP) or a Troll ( below the bridge) ? You will have to come up for a visit :-)
Jo
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Oh the iPhone picture of Seattle makes me smile. DH and I were engaged in a restaurant that was at the top of the highest building in Seattle in 1973. The city is still beautiful, but the building is gone. I failed to mention there all be something else exciting on my way home from the reunion that happened quite coincidentally. My daughter located the fellow I dated for 7 years before my engagement to Bill. It took her about 20 minutes on her computer to locate him and 5 of his 8 (OMG) chldren. He is alive and divorced for over 16 years. We have chatted and I am stopping off at his place on the way home. It will be nice to share some memories and fill in the blanks of over 45 years. Sadly he is recently diagnosed with Alzheimers and no longer drives. But I did buy a new pretty purple sweater to WOW him and make him wish we had not parted ways so long ago. I must say though, I ended up better off with my DH. Funny how things that seemed the end of the world years ago turned out to be the best thing after all. We did not go to high school together - he was 4 years older than me and lived in a different part of the city.
I haven't gone to any reunions because I have stayed in touch with the only two people that meant anything to me. But we are attending together. She has children in Chicago and is coming from California to visit them at the same time. It is only 5 hour drive for me and it will be great to see her again. And then the big visit with the old flame on Sunday. So a little adventure coming up. This should give us all something to make jokes about!!!
Eleven students in a classroom is a dream. You should have a great year. A friend had a small class like that one year and loved it. The smallest I had was 19, and that felt pretty good. I can remember my 8th grade class had 42 kids in it. Maybe I'll see some of them at the reunion because we all went into the same high school. Keep in mind my high school in Chicago had 7,000 students. I now live in a town smaller than that.
Let the jokes and advice commence!
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